Is it okay that I love to dress up even if I will never pass?
For starters, it will never be “okay” to present as a gender that is different from the one someone was assigned to at birth. At my most pessimistic I don’t think the world as a whole will ever be accepting of a boy wearing a dress or nail polish or anything femme.
At my most optimistic I also don’t think most of the world really cares. Most people are too preoccupied with their own lives to really care what someone else is doing or wearing. Sure, they may think that a boy wearing a skirt is a little unusual but after a few moments they probably won’t give it a second thought. But I exist for myself. I dress for myself and I am not going to stop being who I am because of someone else.
Also! Passing isn’t real. There are no set standards one must meet in order to be “allowed” to be a girl. No one, cis girls or transgirls, are too tall, too… anything to be a girl.
So, to answer your question, yes! It is absolutely okay to dress however you like. True, not everyone will be thrilled or accepting but you need to live your own life and not be concerned with what others might think. And yes, I know, it’s easier said than done, but I promise you the more you dress the less you care about how others might think.
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