Strawberries

According to dictionary.com, a koan is a paradoxical anecdote or riddle, used in Zen Buddhism to demonstrate the inadequacy of logical reasoning and to provoke enlightenment.

Years ago I heard a koan that is typically titled ‘The Strawberry and the Tiger’.

Once upon a time, as a man was walking through a forest, he saw a tiger peering out at him from the underbrush. As the man turned to run, he heard the tiger spring after him to give chase.

Barely ahead of the tiger, running for his life, our hero came to the edge of a steep cliff. Clinging onto a strong vine, the man climbed over the cliff edge just as the tiger was about to pounce.

Hanging over the side of the cliff, with the hungry tiger pacing above him, the man looked down and was dismayed to see another tiger, stalking the ravine far below. Just then, a tiny mouse darted out from a crack in the cliff face above him and began to gnaw at the vine.

At that precise moment, the man noticed a patch of wild strawberries growing from a clump of earth near where he dangled. Reaching out, he plucked one. It was plump, and perfectly ripe; warmed by the sunshine.

He popped the strawberry into his mouth. It was perfectly delicious. 

This stayed with me for most of my life and I’ve often told myself in moments where I feel I am on a precipice to eat the strawberry.

What this koan means to me is that when the abyss is yawning before me, or something that cannot be stopped is in motion, that I should live in the moment, enjoy the sweet taste of a strawberry before death.

I think it’s normal to resist accepting what we fear is likely inevitable. I mean, the five stages of acceptance is a real thing, particularly when it comes to death. But this can apply itself to different moments, too. The end of a relationship, the threat of massive layoffs.

The Sword of Damocles and all that.

I always think there is an option when something wicked this way comes. While there’s life, there’s hope, after all. I tend to think quickly and I feel I can work out the logistics or a backup plan if need be.

But right now I don’t feel this.

I feel the writing is on the wall for a lot of things. Ending Roe V Wade was never the end goal. We know more is coming. The Supreme Court said it itself:

Justice Clarence Thomas argued in a concurring opinion released on Friday that the Supreme Court “should reconsider” its past rulings codifying rights to contraception access, same-sex relationships and same-sex marriage (Politico)

If these items pass, many of my friends could have their marriages nullified and the government’s intrusion into one’s personal life marches on.

You don’t have to agree with same-sex marriage to acknowledge that it’s not up to the government to decide who people choose to marry.

If the goal is to regulate contraception, then it’s not unthinkable that any sort of medical treatment for transgender people could follow.

So, you may feel I am being overly pessimistic but I can’t help but feel and fear that we are on a slippery slope towards any sort of non-binary presentation and medical care being illegal.

What does this have to do with strawberries and tigers? Glad you asked.

Over the last few months whenever I blog or tweet I feel I am being incredibly shallow and superficial. I wonder if people see my posts and are annoyed that I am writing about lingerie while tigers are circling below and snarling above us.

I know the tigers are there. I feel scared and anxious and depressed.

But I also feel helpless.

I don’t know what to do. I don’t know how to stop horrible things from happening. I don’t know how to resist, how to fight for our survival.

And yes, this sounds dramatic and fatalistic and I don’t pretend that everyone reading this will have the same perspective but this is how I feel.

This is also sounding pessimistic. Besides voting for the people I feel have the same values that I do, I don’t know what else to do. I am not a leader in the sense of rallying thousands of people together in an effort to change things. Thankfully there are others doing this.

A year ago things were stressful but even more so today. I can’t imagine what the next twelve months will bring.

All of these fears and feelings of hopelessness were weighing on me especially hard earlier this week. The tigers surround us, the vine we are clinging to is fraying. The question that kept returning to my mind was what do I do?

Like a gentle whisper, the answer came to me.

Taste the strawberry.

So, what does this mean? I will live as much as I can. I will schedule photo shoots and strut through life en femme as much as possible. I will have my head held high. I will have coffee with the T-Girls. I will live a life of quiet defiance.

I hope the vine holds. I still have enough faith that we can pull ourselves and each other to safety but until then all we have is this moment.

The strawberries that I will taste will be sweet.

Love, Hannah

10 thoughts on “Strawberries

  1. Hi Hannah, I (and I know there are many, many others!) feel very much the same. So many things in this nation, and around the world, are not good, dramatically not good.
    The ‘red’ people in the U.S. have counterparts around the world and they are all attacking individual basic human rights. The recent actions by the supreme court ‘red’ block has shown just how awful the goals of their side are.
    It is truly horrifying to hear what that side believes, from the absurd and unfounded claims to a stolen election, to the calling for more guns everywhere, to the outlawing of healthcare for diverse populations including transgendered/non-binary/gender fluid, to the banning of appropriate bathroom access for trans people.
    It is very difficult to remain positive about the direction our country is taking. It seems, more than ever, that there are at least two Americas, a red and a blue, not to mention the America that has treated so many so badly; women, people of color, immigrants, and more.
    Even the excellent activist phrase “Act locally, think globally” does not offer as much hope as it once did.
    What to do? I am with you: live you life as well as possible, do no harm (as much as possible) and keep our fingers crossed for some kind of groundswell that grows to counter the current awful trend. Best to all. Marissa in Ohio

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  2. The majority of people in the US believe in women’s rights, LGBT rights, gun control etc. So this to shall pass once the economy stabilizes again.

    For just enjoy the strawberries. In fact today will be doubly delicious, making strawberry/rhubarb bars.

    It is great day to live in Minnesota. Minnesota nice is a real and good thing.

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  3. Hannah, I wish I were there to give you my warmest maternal hug and hold you to try to provide some comfort for your stress and help encourage you to carry on providing the support and encouragement you give so many of us and to continue to be the sweet, caring girl you are. Hang in there my dear girl.

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  4. Ah – Hannah, please don’t ever think for minute that you are not having a wonderful empowering effect on so many. I have shared your column with five friends and to a person, they think you are remarkable. You help me every day. I am more confident and determined to be more visible. The latter of which is especially important in these times. So we all pray that you Keep on Keepin’ on; you are the best – bri on Oakland

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      1. Hi Honey – me too – i don’t want to be a pest to her, but i am thinking about re-routing a visit to Iowa thru the Twin Cities just to wave Hi! to Ms H

        -bri

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  5. Dear Hannah, You are a brilliant philosopher and a wise person who sees existence so much like the guy and the girl who occupy my soul, each helping the other as we struggle to exist, to love our women and our families and participate to the end. Please keep sharing these kinds of inspiring thoughts to help us keep sane from day to day. I’m beginning truly to think of you as I do my favorite authors, especially Eckard Tolle and his inspiring spouse, champions of living in the moment, like human children and most other creatures and life forms. You are a powerful literary support and friend. lerrisa

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  6. Great observations, Hannah! My dear, departed mother advised, “never give up’. We may not all be leaders, but while our presence in the community may offend some segment of the population (no matter how we conduct ourselves) I believe that a larger part of society is either tolerant or genuinely supportive. So, vote of course. Donate money when you can afford to. And be visible to the extent you are comfortable. Even if the vine snaps, we will meet our doom knowing we tried…that we never game up!

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  7. And this post encapsulates why I read your blog and have done for years and will continue to do so. Thanks, Hannah, for all your thoughts and for being you and doing things the way you do. Sue x

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