Pillow Talk!

Hi! I have a new article for Pillow Talk, a series I am doing with Xdress!

I’ve been told that my perspective on crossdressing/gender identity/gender presentation when it comes to relationships is a little black and white.

At my core, I feel being honest with your partner is super important, and I feel that most of us have likely explored (and fallen in love with) wearing clothes that aren’t typically worn by people with our anatomy.

Essentially, we likely have acknowledged this side of us before we make a significant commitment to someone else.

It’s not unusual for us to keep this to ourselves as it’s not a very easy thing to explain and we know it’s something that could potentially end a relationship.

Buuuuut I still feel that we need to be honest with our partners. This is not a side of us that we will outgrow, afterall. And personally I’m glad. Who I am brings a lot of joy in my life.

So yes, those who say I am a little… black and white (or blue and pink) or perhaps a little naive do have a point.

Of course, I am not trying to gloss over how nuanced gender identity can be, that’s another topic, but being truthful to our partners is important.  

Love, Hannah