Six Years of the MN T-Girls!

This weekend marks the sixth anniversary of the MN T-Girls!

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Almost every month (one month was canceled due to… reasons) for the past six years t-girls from all over Minnesota, and often times from outside the state, have met for coffee, plays, shopping, makeup demonstrations, as well as for support and friendship.

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Having planned almost one hundred of these monthly events, I am still a little surprised at the success of these outings.

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I tell myself that I will keep planning these outings as long as others show up.  There have been outings where only two t-girls come, and there have been events with close to thirty.  Some events are hits, some are… well, not so much.  Each event and each t-girl teaches me about how to run a club (if you will), but I also learn so much about our community.

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So, in honor of the sixth anniversary of the MN T-Girls, I wanted to share six things about our community that I learned after meeting hundreds of girls like us.

You are not alone

I think the internet has made us realize that there are more people like us than we could have imagined.  However we identify, there are others like us.  Whether we live between genders or we live somewhere in the middle, or we are starting hormones or have transitioned, there are more like us than you ever knew.

We T-Girls can be anything

Although many of us are protective of any details that are associated with our male lives, there are equally others who are open about the other side of their closet.  We can be husbands, boyfriends, fathers, sons, and brothers.  We can also be airline pilot, forklift drivers, realtors, retail managers and engineers.  You can never be sure who the male presenting individuals are in your life really are… or what they wear under their suit.

Different like you

One of the hardest things about coming out is explaining who we are.  Yes, I am transgender but identifying as transgender is different than Caitlin Jenner identifying as transgender.  I like to present as a girl, but I don’t always want to or need to.  I love feeling beautiful, I have no interest in men, I don’t feel I was born in the wrong body.  We understand each other.  We know who we are, we don’t need to explain it.

I’ll be there for you

We need each other.  We need to have friends who are like us.  Not only do we need people in our lives who understand us, but we often have complicated lives and having people around us who we can relate to is incredibly important.

No one cares

I have walked across malls, parking ramps, downtown, parks, auditoriums, and restaurants.

I have used the ladies room at coffee shops, Target, theaters, book stores, nightclubs, and grocery stores.

I have chatted with servers, baristas, lingerie clerks, gas station employees, makeup artists, and police officers.

I have been out in the real world for a long time and although there have been a couple unpleasant moments, I’ve realized that most people rarely give a girl like me a second look or a second thought.

The MN T-Girls have been all over the Twin Cities, and yes, it’s not every day you see a group of transgender women at a restaurant and we do get a few stares, but I am happy that each outing has been free of incidents and have always had positive interactions with others.  Safety is my number one priority with the group and I do what I can to make sure we are going somewhere safe and welcoming.

T-Girls just want to have fun

After six years of planning events it’s not always easy to come up with something for the group to do.  I like to get ideas from the girls about what they would like to do en femme.  The suggestions are always rather small.  Go out to dinner, go shopping, meet new friends.  T-girls aren’t necessarily looking to something HUGE and AMAZING, but doing something as normal as getting a cup of coffee en femme is an amazing experience many of us have dreamed of for years.  Something mundane that we do in male mode suddenly becomes super fun when dressed up.

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When I started the MN T-Girls, I did so with the goal of making friends with other t-girls.  Yes, going out en femme is fun, but after a while it gets lonely.  I wanted friends I could go to the mall or out to dinner with.  Beyond simply making friends, I wanted others to experience the real world.  Going out en femme is amazing, especially those first few times.  I understood why it’s scary, but it was more wonderful than I had hoped it could be.  Leaving the house is not easy, it’s a scary world for a girl, but going out in a group, or at least with a friend, makes it a lot safer and more fun.

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My final goal wasn’t necessarily for girls like us.  It was for the rest of the world.  I wanted the world to see girls like me out at restaurants, shopping, at a museum, or at a play.  I wanted the world to see us doing normal, boring, everyday things.  I wanted the world to see that girls like us are girls like other girls.  This goal was a little ambitious but a girl can dream.

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I am fortunate to be a part of this group.  I feel that the group is important and has achieved what I wanted it to achieve.  I am not sure what the group will do next but the membership keeps growing which makes me happy, but the simple fact that the group has existed for as long as it has is surprising to me.

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To every t-girl out there, it is an honor to be a member of our community.

Love, Hannah

 

T-Girls and T-Ghouls!

Yesterday was the very first MN T-Girls Halloween party!

I think for many of us Halloween was one of the first times we dressed up in public.  I grew up wanting to be a princess and I always thought Halloween would be a perfect opportunity to do so.  Even though I no longer need a holiday as an excuse to glam it up, I have always wanted the chance to wear a cute costume and go to a party.

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I had a super time 🙂

Last night was an amazing night as many of us finally had the opportunity so many of us have been dreaming about for years.  Although the MN T-Girls have existed for almost six years, we have never done a Halloween themed event.  But thanks to MN T-Girl Marcia who hosted the party, this finally became a reality.

The party was a big success with almost 30 girls attending.  It was a super fun night and we’re already dreaming about next year’s party.  Thanks to everyone who came and brought food and extra special thanks to our fabulous hostess, Marcia.

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Love, Hannah

Beautiful T-Girls and Beautiful Art

The MN T-Girls spent yesterday admiring beautiful works of art as well as each other’s fabulous style at the Minneapolis Institute of Art, one of the city’s amazing art museums.  An art museum was one of the first places I went en femme (during the day, anyway) and even still I find it is one of the most wonderful things to do when dressed to the nines.

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The day started with an amazing makeover from Corrie Dubay who was in town from Las Vegas.  Corrie had recently relocated her fantastic makeover service to Nevada and is in town for a few weeks.  She is taking appointments in case you are looking for either a makeover or a makeup lesson.

After my makeover, the group met up and we spent the next two hours enjoying sculptures, paintings, and the sounds of our heels clicking on the floor of the museum.  Speaking of heels, here’s a piece done entirely out of shoes.

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It was a fun way to spend the day and I look forward to our next adventure!

Love, Hannah

 

 

 

 

Coffee and Tea and T-Girls

It’s hard to believe that summer is almost over!  It feels like yesterday when I was dreaming of wearing short dresses and feeling the warm sun on my skin but now my thoughts are turning towards…well, short dresses and fall weather.  🙂

Yesterday the MN T-Girls had our monthly outing and it felt like forever since we have all had a chance to sit down and catch up.  It’s been a busy few months for the group so I thought it’d be nice to relax and have girl talk over coffee, so that’s exactly what we did!

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We met at Nina’s Cafe in Saint Paul, a beautiful coffee shop with delicious food and friendly staff.  We chatted about everything from makeup to the next few MN T-Girls events.  It was a fun afternoon and a nice way to spend a Saturday.

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Love, Hannah

 

Guys and Dolls (and T-Girls)!

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Last night was the monthly MN T-Girls outing and it was a very special night.  We attended a performance of the Guthrie Theater’s performance of ‘Guys and Dolls’ and it was quite simply one of the most fun nights our group has ever had.

The evening started off with dinner at Spoonriver which offered delicious food and excellent service to a table of t-girls and guests.  After dinner, it was time for the show!  None of the girls who attended the musical had ever seen it before so we didn’t know what to expect.  Every single one of us loved the performance which was full of music and singing and humor.  The actors (particularly Adelaide) were charming and talented and the music was so much fun.

It was a hectic, busy night and I’m afraid we didn’t get a chance to take photos but rest assured we looked *amazing*.

Thank you to the Guthrie for their help in setting up a group ticket package and for an incredibly fun night.

Love, Hannah

See You at Pride!

June is Pride Month and the Twin Cities puts on an amazing celebration!  There are events all around town throughout the month.  The biggest weekend is June 22nd and 23rd when the Pride Festival and Parade happen.  The MN T-Girls will once again be there to celebrate!  Please note we will only be there on Saturday, the 22nd.

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Please come visit us at the Pride Festival at Loring Park.  We will be located in the green section (sadly, there’s no pink section), booth G37.

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Come meet the MN T-Girls and help celebrate our community.  Keep your fingers crossed for fabulous weather.

Love, Hannah

 

Sparking Joy with the MN T-Girls!

Earlier this year a Netflix show asked viewers to look at their possessions and ask themselves if what they owned sparked joy.  If it did not, perhaps it was time to donate it.

This movement is creating an increase in donations to thrift stores and consignment shops.  As someone who loves finding amazing dresses, this is a golden age.

Every month, the MN T-Girls meet for a different social outing.  Sometimes we attend a play, or visit a museum, or shop.  This month the girls and I met up for a little thrift store hopping to see if anything we found sparked joy.  Spoiler alert, joy was sparked.  Before shopping, we met for a little lunch at Doolittles in Eagan, a suburb south of the Twin Cities.  Excellent food, attentive staff, and a welcoming environment for a group of t-girls.

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After lunch, it was time to shop!  We started at a thrift shop (Hidden Treasures) just a few blocks from the restaurant.  I didn’t find anything that sparked joy, but a lot of the girls did.

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While the girls were shopping, I caught up on my reading.

 

 

After checking out (and after the girls checked themselves out in the mirror) we went over to Style Encore.  Every single time I’ve shopped here I have found an amazing dress.  Would this trip also yield success?  The girls and I got started.

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And then I saw it, THE DRESS.  Bright as a star, as if a the sun shone down on it.  Was it my size?  Did it spark joy?

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YES.  Joy was sparked.

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Our purses a little lighter and a wardrobes a little fuller, we headed home to try on our new clothes and dream about where we would wear them.

Love, Hannah