Ask Hannah!

What sort of bra do you recommend and how do you know what size to buy?


-Do you have actual breasts or do you use/wear forms? Just starting to explore and very confused about forms. What is the correct or proper shape to look for, teardrop, oval, triangle, round ? I have yet to find 2 articles supporting the same shape so I’m confused. The one thing I have found that seems to be standard is that silicone has the best feel, movement, bounce, fiber fill & foam don’t so now if I can understand the shape to look for or go with I have a starting point.  


Both of these questions bounced into my email within a day of each other and since they are similar I thought I’d tackle them in one post.


I have a LOT of bras.  I have bras that I wear en femme, and I have bras that I wear for underdressing.  Basically the bras that I wear under my boy clothes are ones without any sort of padding, shape, or push-uppiness.  That’s not a word but you know what I mean. Most of these bras come from Xdress and Homme Mystere.


The bras I wear en femme are more varied and more… uh, practical.  I have bras that are strapless, I have bras with an embroidered pattern, push up bras, and bras of many colors.


A girl needs a white or beige bra because some outfits and blouses are a LITTLE see through and a black or darker color will show through some tops.  I mean, if that’s the look you’re going for, then have at it.  


Strapless bras are for strapless dresses, or dresses and tops where the shoulders are see-through or mesh, for example.  


I don’t wear bras with a texture to the cup if I am wearing a tight blouse as the texture can show through.


See?  Lingerie can be practical.  


As for sizing, if you’re not comfortable meeting with a bra fitter, you can take your own measurements.  I wear a 34B bra.  The number refers to my chest measurement/band size, the letter refers to cup size.  A rule of thumb is your band size is your chest measurement and then add four (round up if needed).


Third Love has an EXCELLENT guide for determining your bra size and I would encourage you to take a look as they know more about this then I ever will.

I don’t have breasts but I wear forms.  They are not the best quality but they do the job.  They are silicone….ish.  Not as high quality as my thigh and hip pads from The Breast Form Store and I would agree with what you are reading in that silicone feels better than anything else.  My forms have a somewhat similar feel to my silicone pads but I don’t feel my forms are a part of me the same way my thigh pads do.


Shape comes down to personal preference, I think.  Breasts come in all shapes and sizes so I don’t think there is such a thing as the correct shape.  I would spend some time looking at The Breast Form Store‘s website and chatting with one of their fitters (Hi Eden!) for some guidance in finding forms that you feel are the right ones.

Love, Hannah

Have a question for me?  Oh yes you do.  Ask me here!

And Finally, The Rest Of My Favorite Things

I’d like to finish this little showcase by featuring Homme Mystere. I picked Homme Mystere because, to be honest, I think they deserve the attention. Their lingerie is well made, the fit is perfect, the styles are cute… it’s not easy to combine sexy with comfort.

I have purchased and wear a lot of panties from Homme Mystere and I’d like to highlight a few of their panties, bras, bodysuits, and lingerie that I love. You can read my reviews for some of their products here and here and here!

Elise Panty

Anneve Panty

Frida Panty

Retro Gold Panty

Violet Panty

Cherry Demi Bra

Blossom Bra

Gisele Bra

Frida Bra

Krystal Bra

Blossom Bodysuit

Anneve Babydoll

Nadia Nightie

Natasha Mini Dress

Yumi Tank

They are having massive sale right now. Since they are based in Australia shipping is a bit pokey but everything is well worth the wait.

Love, Hannah

Ask Hannah!

I am in the process of opening up an online store for crossdressers. What products would you recommend me to sell?  What do crossdressers need the most?

Congratulations on taking this step!  If there’s one thing I love, it’s more options when it comes to shopping.

Years ago the idea of a store specializing in clothes for girls like us was inconceivable but I am amazed at how many options are available these days.  Even though there’s quite a few options, each one is different from each other and can all happily coexist.

Every t-girl/crossdresser is different and we all need and want different things.  Thankfully there are quite a few options out there.  When it comes to retailers that design for and market to our community, I shop online with En Femme, Xdress, Homme Mystere, Glamour Boutique, and the Breast Form Store the most.

I like Xdress and Homme Mystere for their beautiful, feminine lingerie. I like the Breast Form Store for their practical stuff, like forms, pads, and gaffsI like Glamour Boutique if I want something on the sexy side, and En Femme is a wonderful place for day to day clothes.

IMG_0026
Dress from En Femme

084
Dress from Glamour Boutique

27
Thigh pads from the Breast Form Store

What you want to be known for?  What are you most passionate about?  There are a lot of options out there, but I always love finding a new place to buy heels and lingerie 🙂

I am not sure if this helps but I did write a little about what I think are “must-haves” for a girl like us.  Of course, we all have different perspectives on what we think are essentials.

What do you girls think are essentials?  What should a new store sell?  Please comment below!

Love, Hannah

Have a question for me?  Oh yes you do.  Ask me here!

 

Overthinking in Lingerie

xI don’t think it’s uncommon for us to modify how we identify throughout our lives.  As soon as I heard the word, I privately considered myself a crossdresser.  About ten years ago, I knew this was more than just finding joy and comfort in clothes that are typically associated with the gender different than the one I was assigned to at birth and I felt that identifying as transgender was a better fit.

If I wanted to put a finer point on myself, bi-gender is probably the best word for me, as I am happy and comfortable and secure presenting and living as either a boy or a girl. However, since transgender covers a lot of territory, I primarily stick with that.

Whether I am a crossdresser or transgender, I would never be so bold to claim to be brilliant, but I can have brilliant thoughts.  I’ve been a bit of a shopping spree lately and yesterday I received a super cute cami and panty set from Xdress.  Yesterday was a long day and it was a late night, so falling asleep in cute lingerie was the perfect way to end the day.

If you’re not familiar with Xdress, they make lingerie for men.  The models on their website are men wearing their beautiful bras and panties.  From what I gather, their target market is men who love to wear cute, feminine undies.  Their models are very male, no makeup or wigs, they are not presenting as a girl.  This lingerie is different than En Femme and their new Carmen Liu line of lingerie.  This lingerie is beautiful but also practical as it is designed to hold breast forms and to tuck our feminine flaw.

As I woke up this morning, I realized that my lingerie wardrobe is divided between bras and panties that I wear en femme and bras and panties that I wear in male mode.  Although this new set from Xdress is beautiful, it’s not something Hannah would wear.  When I am dressed, I have different needs from my lingerie.  I need my gaff from the Breast Form Store, for example.

In male mode I do wear lingerie “for girls” and lingerie from Xdress and Homme Mystere.  I underdress each day and my panties are either panties “for boys” or panties “for girls”.  I am always wearing something.

My revelation this morning was that we can shift our gender identity throughout our lives, but we can also shift our gender identity throughout the day.  I decided that when I am in male mode, I could be considered a crossdresser.  But Hannah is not a crossdresser, she is transgender.  I could wake up in cute lingerie like I did this morning, wear a matching bra and panty under my boy clothes, and I would be crossdressing all day.  But as the day progresses and I am preparing to go out, my gender identity shifts to being transgender.

I suppose that labeling ourselves is rather pointless and I doubt anyone else thinks about this as much as I do, especially before they have had their coffee, but this was going through my mind as I lay in bed.  Never let it be said that I don’t overthink.

At any rate, I am now awake, having my coffee, and sharing these perhaps not as brilliant thoughts I had imagined they were with you.

Love, Hannah

 

 

 

Beautiful Nights

Many of us are missing the days when we could go out en femme.  Due to the virus I’ve been stuck at home and I am looking forward to the day when I can schedule a makeover and hit the mall.  Or even the gas station.

It’s important that we stay in touch with this side of ourselves.  When we are not able to dress fully, I find that underdressing is a wonderful and intimate way to be beautiful. Yes, I can dress at home, but it’s not the same.

The lockdown is giving me a lot of time to shop online.  Purchasing heels and cute dresses is giving me something to look forward to once it is safe for us to go back out.  It’s also a way we can continue to support businesses that support our community as the virus is having an economic impact on almost every company.

Since underdressing is a way to stay in touch with my femme side, I have been buying a lot of lingerie lately.  I wanted to share what I have ordered this week in case you are looking for some new lingerie to wear.

I am in love with the new picnic camisole and panty from Xdress!

x

 

I usually wear short nightgowns to bed, but I am so excited to wear this gorgeous satin nightgown from The Breast Form Store!

satin-gown-black-front-view

How beautiful is this Yumi tank, and matching Yumi panty from HommeMystere.?

HM

And finally I added new panties from En Femme including High Sheen Satin Floral Panty and Satin Floral Hot Panty.

 

I miss the days when we could be beautiful, but at least I have beautiful nights to look forward to.

What’s catching your eye these days?

Love, Hannah

 

Friday Morning Shopping

I don’t know about you, but I am bouncing back and forth between being financially responsible and… well, doing a lot of online shopping.  These days buying a cute dress helps me stay connected to my femme side (and having something to look forward to wearing).

I try to be good, but I’ll admit that the Pink Fog hits me a lot lately.

There’s no question that many businesses are adapting and likely worrying about how the pandemic will affect them.  There aren’t enough resources for girls like us, and when we find a designer or a company that caters our community and supports us, it’s important we support them.

Girls like us are always looking for businesses that are friendly to us, and if we want more businesses to welcome us, then we must support those that already do.

Many companies are offering special sales and discounts during these times, and if you are able, please support these businesses.

I have a few things on order that I am excited to get such as the Blossom lingerie collection from HommeMystere...

 

…the Floral Print Lace Teddy from The Breast Form Store

lace-teddy-front-view

 

…and the Luxurious Leather Look Dress and the 4 Inch Sexy Pump with Padlock heels from En Femme.

What’s in your shopping cart or on your wish list?

Love, Hannah

Faves

I fall in love with clothes.

I think we can all relate to having some sort of emotional connection to something we can wear.  I remember the first bra I ever tried on, the first pair of panties I could truly call my own, the first dress I bought with my wife.

It’s not uncommon to find something we love to wear and put it on every chance we get.  I thought it would be fun to share some of my most recent favorites.

I underdress every day and my current favorites are the Blossom Bodysuit and the Blossom Bra and Panty set from HommeMystere.

I heart matching lingerie and this set is peak feminine.  Pink, lace, bows, ruffles… what else could I wish for?

If I am lucky to work from home that day or actually have a day off, my go-to outfit includes a pair of leggings from Wild Fable.

Capture

I layer with a white cami, femme t-shirt, and a black cardigan and I look and feel super cute and comfy all day whether I am on a conference call or doing laundry.

When it’s time for my bed, my current favorite nightie is from Stars Above, a line from Target.

Capture

Cute, comfortable, lacy, and pink.  It was made for me.

What are your current favorites?

Love, Hannah

 

 

Carmen Liu Lingerie at En Femme!

I heart lingerie.  It was the first piece of clothing that I fell in love with when I was young.  Panties, a garter belt, and stockings were the first things I bought that were truly mine.  I underdress each day, and every morning I wake up in a nightie.

Lingerie is a part of each day and each evening.  But as a t-girl, lingerie can be tricky.  Not every panty is going to fit, and without forms the effect of a push-up bra is lost.  I am very happy that there are options out there for girls like us, and even happier that there are businesses that embrace our community.

But of course, I want MORE.

A few years ago I wrote about Carmen Liu, a transwoman who designed a line of lingerie for girls like us.   I am happy to hear that En Femme will now be carrying Ms. Liu’s beautiful lingerie.

unnamed

I’m really happy that we have another option to fill our lingerie drawer with beautiful panties and bras.  A girl can never have too many options.

And yes, I do model and blog for En Femme, but rest assured that I would be just as enthusiastic about this even if I wasn’t partnering with them 🙂

Love, Hannah

Hannah vs VS

Last November a CEO from Victoria’s Secret made some hurtful and ignorant comments about the transgender community.

Hearing these comments stung, especially in the year 2018, but it was disappointing because this was a brand I loved and a place where I felt welcomed when I shopped en femme.

I decided to take my lingerie shopping elsewhere and I am glad I did.  Since then, I have added bras and panties from Glamorous Corset, ThirdLove, HommeMystere, and Allure   to my lingerie drawer(s).  🙂

Victoria’s Secret has been experiencing some changes recently including hiring their first openly transgender model as well as the resignation of the CEO I referenced earlier.

The company received significant backlash and calls for boycotts when these comments were made and I had hoped that the CEO would be punished in some way for what was said.  I do not think that the comments and this resignation were connected in any way, unfortunately.

I am happy that a transphobic person no longer has a say in what a major brand does, and I am glad that they have hired a transgender model, but are these changes enough to win back my business?

Maya Angelou wrote “when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time” and I think this is an appropriate quote in many instances.  This doesn’t necessarily mean that you shouldn’t give someone a second chance or that one’s perspective and opinion can’t evolve, but I can’t quite get on board with shopping at Victoria’s Secret again.

For starters, there are many companies, particularly the brands I referred to above, who market to and design for our community.  ThirdLove specifically is very inclusive and HommeMystere designs the cutest panties for us.  I believe in supporting companies that are transinclusive and not giving my money to those who either just downright hate us or those that don’t see transgender women as women.

When a t-girl is ready to experience the world en femme, most of us will want to frequent places where we will be welcome.  I know I did, and I still do.  If we want more businesses to be accepting of us, then we need to financially support businesses that already support us.  I believe that this sends a message.  Of course, I am not so naive that I do not think me not shopping at Victoria’s Secret had any impact whatsoever on them, but spending my money with companies that do embrace us made an impact on them.

I’m glad whenever there is a leadership change or some progress made in any corporation that inches its way towards inclusivity, but I will continue to buy my lingerie from designers that support my values and embrace our community.

Love, Hannah

 

 

HommeMystere Review: Lingerie

I used to think that there was nothing practical about lingerie.  It was something beautiful to wear to help you feel beautiful.

Now I realize that even if lingerie’s only purpose was to help you feel a certain way, wasn’t that just as, or even more important than it’s functionality?

Bras are pretty essential on different levels.  It’s the first thing I put on when I dress as I step into one gender presentation from another.  I believe a bra is the most feminine thing you can wear.  But more often than not I select which bra I will wear based on what I need the bra to do.  If I am wearing a white dress, I wear a light colored bra.  If my dress is cut a certain way, I go strapless.

See?  Beauty and versatility.

Panties are no different.  If I am wearing a bra, then I choose the matching panty because every bra I own has a matching panty (I’m a little OCD that way).  But I also take into consideration the kind of day I am going to have.  A tough day requires beautiful panties, a boring day needs something a little more… exotic.  The white lacy panties with a candy cane pattern only come out during December.

Panties are fun, cute, and like any piece of lingerie, makes me feel a certain way.  I wear what I wear often because of what I am feeling, or what I want to feel that day.

As I discovered different lingerie options over the course of my life, I became fascinated at the sheer (and sometimes not sheer) number of options there were.  Babydolls, teddies, bodysuits, basques, merry widows, corsets, garter belts… the list goes on.  My own lingerie wardrobe grew over time and I loved how there was something I could wear for any mood.  There are different degrees of versatility when it comes to lingerie.  I think a corset is one of the sexiest things to ear, but they are also functional in terms of cinching your waist and holding up your stockings.

But I think the most important thing lingerie does is invoke a feeling.  To make you feel beautiful.  Lingerie is something you wear for yourself.  Like panties, what I wear often depends on what I want to feel.  There is nothing like finishing a long, hard day and slipping into something that makes me feel beautiful.

Lingerie is usually cut and designed for body types with certain anatomical features in mind.  I see beautiful options that simply don’t work for someone with a flat chest for example.  This can limit what I wear.  I mean, I can wear it, but if it doesn’t look right than I have a hard time feeling pretty in it.

‘Lingerie for men’ is a term that many in our community are divided over.  I completely get it.  Lingerie designed for men misses the point, there are many options ‘for girls’ I can wear… Again, I see that point and agree in many cases.  However, I do think that is worth looking into designers that make lingerie for someone with my body type in mind.  For one reason, it’s being designed for someone with the physical features that I have.  Or don’t have.  I don’t want lingerie that shows off my cleavage if I don’t have any, for example.

The main reason I like looking at lingerie for men is that more often than not it is incredibly beautiful.  I like feminine lingerie.  I love a teddy or a bodysuit with a floral pattern.  I love a nightie with lace around the edges.  I love finding beautiful lingerie that I know will fit my body.  I don’t want to spend $50 on something that I can’t wear.

There are many options for someone like me these days.  I can name a dozen different websites to buy beautiful bras and panties for someone with the body that I have.  I was sent lingerie from HommeMystere recently and I reviewed their bras and panties previously.  For my third and final review (for now, anyway), I am delighted to share my thoughts about two pieces of their lingerie.

1The first piece I wore was their Natasha Mini Dress with matching panty.  Lingerie can be amazingly practical but if it isn’t cute, then I will not even bother trying it on.  This is not a dress (well, I suppose anything could be a dress) but it is a beautiful nightie.  A criticism I have with a lot of lingerie designed for men is that it is simply too short.  However, this reaches my hips but it is close to being too short.  Some of us may think that this shortness is a feature 😉 but having a matching panty does help pull the look together.  I love the fabric but since it is made from satin there is not a lot of stretch to it.  Ordering your correct size is important but minimal stretch will help keep its shape.  It has lacy features and a full back and is super comfortable to sleep in.  The V neck is similar to a lot of ‘girl lingerie’ in a way meant to tease a little cleavage but having none the effect is a little lost.  However, the lacy details won me over.

2The second piece is the best babydoll I have ever owned.  I love, love, love the Anneve Babydoll and matching panty.  This is an amazing soft, beautiful article of lingerie.  The mesh feels amazing against my skin.  I love little details and this babydoll has lacy edging along the edges and a beautiful floral pattern on the cups as well.  A delicate pink bow completes the look.  The babydoll falls just below my hips which is almost too short for my tastes but the cute little frilly skirt offsets the shortness of it.  I actually like how short this is because the matching panty has detachable garters you can show off.  This babydoll has more stretch than the Natasha Mini Dress, but your size should be based on your bra size.  The photo (which is not me, by the way) does not do this beautiful lingerie justice.  It’s a lovely babydoll and I love how I feel when I wear it.

Which is exactly why one should wear lingerie.

Thank you to HommeMystere for providing this beautiful lingerie.

Love, Hannah