Hannah vs VS

Last November a CEO from Victoria’s Secret made some hurtful and ignorant comments about the transgender community.

Hearing these comments stung, especially in the year 2018, but it was disappointing because this was a brand I loved and a place where I felt welcomed when I shopped en femme.

I decided to take my lingerie shopping elsewhere and I am glad I did.  Since then, I have added bras and panties from Glamorous Corset, ThirdLove, HommeMystere, and Allure   to my lingerie drawer(s).  🙂

Victoria’s Secret has been experiencing some changes recently including hiring their first openly transgender model as well as the resignation of the CEO I referenced earlier.

The company received significant backlash and calls for boycotts when these comments were made and I had hoped that the CEO would be punished in some way for what was said.  I do not think that the comments and this resignation were connected in any way, unfortunately.

I am happy that a transphobic person no longer has a say in what a major brand does, and I am glad that they have hired a transgender model, but are these changes enough to win back my business?

Maya Angelou wrote “when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time” and I think this is an appropriate quote in many instances.  This doesn’t necessarily mean that you shouldn’t give someone a second chance or that one’s perspective and opinion can’t evolve, but I can’t quite get on board with shopping at Victoria’s Secret again.

For starters, there are many companies, particularly the brands I referred to above, who market to and design for our community.  ThirdLove specifically is very inclusive and HommeMystere designs the cutest panties for us.  I believe in supporting companies that are transinclusive and not giving my money to those who either just downright hate us or those that don’t see transgender women as women.

When a t-girl is ready to experience the world en femme, most of us will want to frequent places where we will be welcome.  I know I did, and I still do.  If we want more businesses to be accepting of us, then we need to financially support businesses that already support us.  I believe that this sends a message.  Of course, I am not so naive that I do not think me not shopping at Victoria’s Secret had any impact whatsoever on them, but spending my money with companies that do embrace us made an impact on them.

I’m glad whenever there is a leadership change or some progress made in any corporation that inches its way towards inclusivity, but I will continue to buy my lingerie from designers that support my values and embrace our community.

Love, Hannah

 

 

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HommeMystere Review: Lingerie

I used to think that there was nothing practical about lingerie.  It was something beautiful to wear to help you feel beautiful.

Now I realize that even if lingerie’s only purpose was to help you feel a certain way, wasn’t that just as, or even more important than it’s functionality?

Bras are pretty essential on different levels.  It’s the first thing I put on when I dress as I step into one gender presentation from another.  I believe a bra is the most feminine thing you can wear.  But more often than not I select which bra I will wear based on what I need the bra to do.  If I am wearing a white dress, I wear a light colored bra.  If my dress is cut a certain way, I go strapless.

See?  Beauty and versatility.

Panties are no different.  If I am wearing a bra, then I choose the matching panty because every bra I own has a matching panty (I’m a little OCD that way).  But I also take into consideration the kind of day I am going to have.  A tough day requires beautiful panties, a boring day needs something a little more… exotic.  The white lacy panties with a candy cane pattern only come out during December.

Panties are fun, cute, and like any piece of lingerie, makes me feel a certain way.  I wear what I wear often because of what I am feeling, or what I want to feel that day.

As I discovered different lingerie options over the course of my life, I became fascinated at the sheer (and sometimes not sheer) number of options there were.  Babydolls, teddies, bodysuits, basques, merry widows, corsets, garter belts… the list goes on.  My own lingerie wardrobe grew over time and I loved how there was something I could wear for any mood.  There are different degrees of versatility when it comes to lingerie.  I think a corset is one of the sexiest things to ear, but they are also functional in terms of cinching your waist and holding up your stockings.

But I think the most important thing lingerie does is invoke a feeling.  To make you feel beautiful.  Lingerie is something you wear for yourself.  Like panties, what I wear often depends on what I want to feel.  There is nothing like finishing a long, hard day and slipping into something that makes me feel beautiful.

Lingerie is usually cut and designed for body types with certain anatomical features in mind.  I see beautiful options that simply don’t work for someone with a flat chest for example.  This can limit what I wear.  I mean, I can wear it, but if it doesn’t look right than I have a hard time feeling pretty in it.

‘Lingerie for men’ is a term that many in our community are divided over.  I completely get it.  Lingerie designed for men misses the point, there are many options ‘for girls’ I can wear… Again, I see that point and agree in many cases.  However, I do think that is worth looking into designers that make lingerie for someone with my body type in mind.  For one reason, it’s being designed for someone with the physical features that I have.  Or don’t have.  I don’t want lingerie that shows off my cleavage if I don’t have any, for example.

The main reason I like looking at lingerie for men is that more often than not it is incredibly beautiful.  I like feminine lingerie.  I love a teddy or a bodysuit with a floral pattern.  I love a nightie with lace around the edges.  I love finding beautiful lingerie that I know will fit my body.  I don’t want to spend $50 on something that I can’t wear.

There are many options for someone like me these days.  I can name a dozen different websites to buy beautiful bras and panties for someone with the body that I have.  I was sent lingerie from HommeMystere recently and I reviewed their bras and panties previously.  For my third and final review (for now, anyway), I am delighted to share my thoughts about two pieces of their lingerie.

1The first piece I wore was their Natasha Mini Dress with matching panty.  Lingerie can be amazingly practical but if it isn’t cute, then I will not even bother trying it on.  This is not a dress (well, I suppose anything could be a dress) but it is a beautiful nightie.  A criticism I have with a lot of lingerie designed for men is that it is simply too short.  However, this reaches my hips but it is close to being too short.  Some of us may think that this shortness is a feature 😉 but having a matching panty does help pull the look together.  I love the fabric but since it is made from satin there is not a lot of stretch to it.  Ordering your correct size is important but minimal stretch will help keep its shape.  It has lacy features and a full back and is super comfortable to sleep in.  The V neck is similar to a lot of ‘girl lingerie’ in a way meant to tease a little cleavage but having none the effect is a little lost.  However, the lacy details won me over.

2The second piece is the best babydoll I have ever owned.  I love, love, love the Anneve Babydoll and matching panty.  This is an amazing soft, beautiful article of lingerie.  The mesh feels amazing against my skin.  I love little details and this babydoll has lacy edging along the edges and a beautiful floral pattern on the cups as well.  A delicate pink bow completes the look.  The babydoll falls just below my hips which is almost too short for my tastes but the cute little frilly skirt offsets the shortness of it.  I actually like how short this is because the matching panty has detachable garters you can show off.  This babydoll has more stretch than the Natasha Mini Dress, but your size should be based on your bra size.  The photo (which is not me, by the way) does not do this beautiful lingerie justice.  It’s a lovely babydoll and I love how I feel when I wear it.

Which is exactly why one should wear lingerie.

Thank you to HommeMystere for providing this beautiful lingerie.

Love, Hannah

HommeMystere Review: Perfect Panties

Panties are how I stay in touch with my femme side in male mode.  And in girl mode.  And all the time.  When I started to purchase my own clothes, panties were the first thing I bought.  I would go shopping, then purge, and then build my wardrobe once more.  I would always start with panties.  Like bras, I have always been drawn to the sheer variety and options.  Push up, halter, racerback, strapless…you can find a bra for any occasion or mood.  Panties are even more so.  Thong, tanga, boyshort, bikini, hipsters, g-strings, seamless, french cut…and let’s not forget the fabric.  Silk, satin, cotton, leather, mesh…

And the adornments.  Nothing wins me over like a small bow or rose on the front of a pair of cute panties.  Lacey edging, mesh inserts….simply put, panties are cuter and more interesting than the boy equivalent to look at.  And wear.

The heartbreaking moment comes when you find a perfect pair only to have them not fit right.  Sizing is one thing, but perhaps the elastic in the waistband is not of high quality, or there’s not enough stretch, or the gusset is not quite wide enough and…well, we fall out.  You know what I mean.

Crossdressing is very much hit or miss.  It’s learning by doing.  You learn which stores sell panties in your size.  Not every cut or style is right for every body’s anatomy.  Like most clothes, you get what you pay for in terms of quality.

It’s a little easier to eyeball a cute pair of undies in the store to see if the will ft you.  Of course, this can be a little awkward if there are other shoppers in the vicinity.  Shopping online is easier but that is not without risks either.

My clothes for the day, in either gender, determine what lingerie I will wear.  My strapless bra was necessarily for these photos because of the mesh and the cut of the dress itself.  I did not want shoulder straps showing.  Straps would look a little silly next to the seams in the dress in the top picture.Mesh Dress 427

Panties are the same thing.  I don’t think I am alone when it comes to choosing what I will wear based on the day ahead.  If I am wearing a tight dress, I’ll wear a thong.  If I have a day full of difficult meetings, I’ll pick out something cute and pink to wear under my male clothes.

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At any rate, that’s the joy.  I have tons of panties for any mood, outfit, or occasion.  But I am always looking for more.

“Panties for men” is one of the most common search terms people use to find my website.  I think this is used for two reasons.  First, finding a designer that makes lingerie for men makes it a little easier for someone to get started on building their wardrobe.  If someone is nervous dipping their toe in this world, it’s easier when there is a company out there that makes lingerie for men.  They’re not girl panties, they are panties made for men.  They are made for me. 

Secondly, as most of us know, not all clothes are made for every body.  Searching for panties for men is an effort to find cute undies that fit a certain body type or can accommodate certain anatomical… characteristics.  Lingerie is no exception.

I tend to be skeptical when it comes to ‘lingerie for men’.  For the most part, I think lingerie for men misses the point.  I don’t want panties that are designed for men.  These tend to be no different than boring boy undies but with the addition of a little lace around the waistband, but if you remove the lace they are just briefs.

Some panties for men are cut differently.  Most are.  Sometimes the leg holes are a little bigger but this can make the panties a little looser and baggier.  Yeah, not too sexy.  Sometimes the front has a little more fabric for, well, you know.

So, what do I look for in a panty?  They have to be cute.  There needs to be a variety of color, fabric, and style.  I love a cute pattern, I love a cute bow on the back.  Of course they must fit.  Always.  They need to move with me.  You know what I mean.  I want a panty that is comfortable.  It should have a little stretch but not so much that they feel loose.  I want a panty with a nice, smooth front.

So, basically a panty that needs to be designed by NASA.  In a fabulous way.

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I am thrilled to say that HommeMystere has nailed it.  When I opened my package from them I was immediately impressed with, well, to be honest, how cute the panties were.  The four pairs they sent were all different from each other so there was a lot of variety in style, color, and fabric.

CaptureMy favorite pair is easily the Anneve Panty.  I love the mesh side panels with the delicate pink flower pattern.   But the standout is the four garters (which are removable).  The garters have metal hooks and do not easily become loose.  I never had to worry about my stockings pulling the garters off the panty itself.  The garters hold stockings up really nicely and did not unfasten on their own.  The back has a seam up the middle to create a flattering shape as well.

 

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I also loved the Violet Panty which also has a matching bra.  I love a panty with different fabrics and this pair has a lovely purple fabric with black lace.  The lace is adorned with a subtle, silver highlight that catches the light in a playful way.  A cute black bow finishes the look.

 

 

 

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The Krystal Panty  also has a matching bra, and is made out of a really sexy, sheer fabric.  Mesh can be itchy at times but I found this pair to be comfortable and wore it all day.  It has a lacy edge at the front and a really cute floral pattern as well.

 

 

 

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Finally, there is the the Natasha Panty.  It is cut a little differently than the other panties here and is a little snugger than the others.  My favorite detail is the lacy edging around the leg openings in the back.  I love the fabric and the pattern, but the overlay of a second fabric on the sides of the front is just super cute and unique.  The satin bow on the front is the perfect cherry on top for these cute panties.

The panties fit well.  In every sense.  There is just enough stretch for everything to fit but the stretch is not limited to just the front of the panties.  It’s an all over stretch that feels comfortable and creates a very flattering and smooth look.

Finally, for those of us who have worn “panties for men” before, I can honestly say that these panties feel and fit like girls panties in every way.

I think you know what I mean. 😉

Thank you to HommeMystere for providing these perfect panties.

Love, Hannah

 

HommeMystere Review: Beautiful Bras

I think that many of us have a special relationship and fascination with clothes.  I can go through my closet and tell you where I purchased a specific dress or what occasion (or which mall, at least) I wore a pair of heels to.  We love what we wear for many reasons.  Sometimes we love what we love because of what it represents.  There a dresses I own that will never get rid of because I was finally able to wear them after losing weight.  They represent an accomplishment.  I still own the little black dress that I bought when I started to build my wardrobe (for real this time) after decades of purging.

Lingerie was my gateway drug, if you will, into a bigger world.  I would see mannequins in department stores modeling the most beautiful underwear I had ever seen.  Seeing a delicate bra with matching panties and stockings mesmerized me.  Lingerie wasn’t necessarily practical, it existed for the sheer purpose of being beautiful.

I own a lot of lingerie.  It’s a fun little secret to have on in male mode.  It can be as elaborate as a corset with stockings or as simple as a lacy bodysuit.  There’s always something to suit my mood.  As my lingerie wardrobe expanded, I started to realize that lingerie was more practical than I thought.

I have certain bras that I wear depending on my outfit.  A yellow dress and a black bra is not a good idea.  If the neckline of my dress is cut a certain way perhaps I need to wear a strapless bra.  If my dress is a little more form-fitting, then I skip the textured bra if I want a smoother look.  Some bras are better suited for my breast forms than others.

Most of my bras are of the push-up type (I need all the help I can get) but there are times I want to stay a little more connected to my femme side when I am in male mode.  Sometimes I wear a matching set and I want to be as discreet as possible.  After wearing HommeMystere‘s bras and panties all week, I am happy to say that I have found lingerie that accomplishes just that.

HommeMytstere generously sent over a beautiful selection of their bras, panties, and lingerie.  I’ll be breaking up my review into three shorter ones and I will follow up with panties and lingerie next week.  This review is all about bras.  🙂

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I wore their Violet Bra and Krystal Bra (pictured above) this week and my first impression was how beautiful they were.  I own a lot of bras including ones by other designers who make lingerie for men but they tend to be made out of one fabric and one solid color.  As you can see from the picture, the Krystal Bra is mesh with white lacy accents and a delicate floral pattern on the mesh itself.  A small white flower finishes this look.  The Violet Bra also features duo fabric with a subtle silver highlight on the black lace.

The Krystal Bra has two hooks and the Violet Bra has three in the back which helps the strap lay flat against your skin. The shoulder straps are also fully adjustable.  The attention to detail is exquisite and I am impressed with the quality with both of these bras.  In my experience, bras designed for men tend to be a little on the cheaper side but as I put them on I couldn’t help thinking that these felt as high quality as women’s bras.

The fit is good and I recommend using a measuring tape to find your correct measurement.  The band has enough stretch to be a little forgiving, though.

When I wear a bra (regardless of what gender I am presenting as) I will either forget I have it on or it feels uncomfortable.  Sometimes you have to wear the uncomfortable one depending on the outfit, you know?  I was always aware I was wearing these bras, though.  But this was not an uncomfortable feeling.  I like the small tugging around my chest, I like the reminder I am wearing one.  The straps stayed in place and moved with me.  I didn’t need to adjust them throughout the day.

The tugging reminded me I was wearing a bra, but so did looking in the mirror.  I wore these bras with a t-shirt and I could clearly see that I had… something on under my clothes.  The bra straps were noticeable and I could see the imprint of the bra against my shirt.  But that is to be expected.  Yes, they lay flat against my skin but they are not invisible.  If you wear a bra, more than likely people will notice.  However, a layered look will minimize the look almost completely.

These are easily the most comfortable bras I own, however they are not going to be my go-to when I dress up.  The cups on these bras are not designed to be practical and I would not wear these bras with breast forms.  The cups are simply not large enough and there isn’t a lot of stretch for them to fit.

But that is okay.  I have other bras for my forms.  As I said earlier, bras and lingerie are more practical and versatile than I originally thought.  I love that I have bras for strapless dresses, bras for white blouses, bras to match a cute pair of panties, and bras for my breast forms.  These two bras are perfect for male mode.

So far my experience with HommeMystere is nothing but positive.  They are dedicated to making lingerie for men, but to be honest, it doesn’t feel like lingerie for men.  It feels like authentic lingerie.  It feels like… girl lingerie and that is the highest compliment I can pay.

Thank you to HommeMystere for providing these beautiful bras.

Love, Hannah

 

 

 

 

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I had always been fascinated by lingerie.  Growing up I knew everyone had to wear underwear, but I was mesmerized by how beautiful it could be.  I was in love with the different styles, the different fabrics, and how… elaborate it could be.  Matching bras and panties?  Perhaps pairing it with a garter belt and stockings?  Lingerie was your secret.  What you wore was for you.

This fascination never went away.  When I first started buying my own clothes, panties were the first thing I purchased.  Underdressing helps me stay connected to the beautiful side of me when I am in male mode.

Wearing lingerie isn’t always easy, though.  It is very much designed for someone with different… ah, anatomy than I have.  Sometimes it fits like a dream, sometimes it’s tighter or looser on me than I would like.

There are companies that specifically design and make lingerie for people who have the body shape and body parts that I do.  Again, this can be very hit or miss.  Not only can the quality be inconsistent, but the fit just isn’t quite right.

If I am wearing panties designed for men, it just… misses the point, I think, in a way I can’t quite put my finger on.  I think it’s because some panties feel like they simply made men’s underwear and dyed in pink or sewed a tiny rose onto the front.  They don’t… feel like panties.  Take the rose off and they are simply pink briefs.  Sometimes there is a added… pouch, I guess, sewn into them to accommodate my “feminine flaw” that just looks awkward and too much like boy underwear.

Bras for men can be disappointing, too.  I know that they are not meant to be practical and I have nothing that needs support, but the bras just… look too flimsy and boring.  This is a personal opinion and not meant to be a slight on any company at all.  I am thankful that there are so many options these days for those of us looking for lingerie.   I have gorgeous lingerie from many companies that I love to wear that helps me feel beautiful.

That being said, I am always looking for new companies that understand how to make bras and panties (and everything else!) for people with bodies like mine.  Google ‘lingerie for men’ and you will be provided with an array of options that fifteen year old me would have never dreamed possible.  I wear panties from some of these designers, but I mostly wear “girl panties”.

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Until now.  I have been aware of HommeMystere for some time and I was always impressed by their selection and variety of panties and bras.  I have always wanted to add their lingerie into my wardrobe and thanks to their generosity, I have some new beautiful items to wear.

Over the next week or so I will be reviewing the items they sent.  Sorry, no photo shoot 😉 but I am excited to share with you my thoughts and impressions!

Love, Hannah