Stealthing

Fifteen years ago I identified as a crossdresser.  I still do, I suppose, but I prefer t-girl.  I think bi-gender might be a more fitting label, however all these titles fall under identifying as transgender, in my opinion.

Regardless, I went from strictly underdressing to, well, who I am today.  I still underdress, but as I started to add makeup and clothes that weren’t panties and lingerie, I wanted to look as good as I could in dresses and pencil skirts.  I never thought I would want to wear padding or shape enhancers, but I have been completely won over with my Jolie Thigh Pads from the Breast Form Store.  The look is amazing, and feeling my curvier shape is incredible.  I look more natural when I wear them, as seen in the photo below.

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I have worn corsets in the past and I have always loved how sexy they looked, but I wasn’t wearing them for the practical purpose of obtaining a more hourglass look or a trimmer waist.  That changed when I received my Dita Corset from Glamorous Corset a few months ago.  Pairing the corset with my thigh pads and breast forms achieves a shapelier look beyond anything I could have hoped for.

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Seasoning a corset takes time and dedication.  I got used to wearing it in male mode, but like underdressing, I was always conscious of it being visible under my clothes.  The lacy edging of my panties or my bra strap is one thing, but a corset is a little different.

Glamorous Corset is here to help with some tips for ‘stealthing’, basically how to wear a corset in public.  I thought this would be helpful for those of us who underdress in male mode.  It certainly was helpful to me.

Love, Hannah

 

 

 

Ask Hannah!

Please please forgive me if this has been dealt with in your lovely blog and I have failed to find it, but the whole business of gaffing/tucking etc. What do you do, what do you advise?

There a few options a girl like us can explore.  One option is wearing pantyhose or nylons, especially a pair with a control top, to help flatten your…uh, area.  Control tops help with keeping your tummy a little flatter but can also be effective for other anatomical features.

You could tuck, which is essentially pulling your genitalia back between your legs and using a particular type of tape to keep everything in place.

Probably the most common method is wearing a gaff.  A gaff is a type of lingerie that helps tucks and flattens genitalia.  The Breast Form Store, Glamour Boutique, and En Femme all sell various gaffs.  I would also suggest looking at GI, a lingerie brand designed by a transwoman who designed products, including a gaff for our community.

I hope that helps!

Love, Hannah

 

 

Hannah vs VS

Last November a CEO from Victoria’s Secret made some hurtful and ignorant comments about the transgender community.

Hearing these comments stung, especially in the year 2018, but it was disappointing because this was a brand I loved and a place where I felt welcomed when I shopped en femme.

I decided to take my lingerie shopping elsewhere and I am glad I did.  Since then, I have added bras and panties from Glamorous Corset, ThirdLove, HommeMystere, and Allure   to my lingerie drawer(s).  🙂

Victoria’s Secret has been experiencing some changes recently including hiring their first openly transgender model as well as the resignation of the CEO I referenced earlier.

The company received significant backlash and calls for boycotts when these comments were made and I had hoped that the CEO would be punished in some way for what was said.  I do not think that the comments and this resignation were connected in any way, unfortunately.

I am happy that a transphobic person no longer has a say in what a major brand does, and I am glad that they have hired a transgender model, but are these changes enough to win back my business?

Maya Angelou wrote “when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time” and I think this is an appropriate quote in many instances.  This doesn’t necessarily mean that you shouldn’t give someone a second chance or that one’s perspective and opinion can’t evolve, but I can’t quite get on board with shopping at Victoria’s Secret again.

For starters, there are many companies, particularly the brands I referred to above, who market to and design for our community.  ThirdLove specifically is very inclusive and HommeMystere designs the cutest panties for us.  I believe in supporting companies that are transinclusive and not giving my money to those who either just downright hate us or those that don’t see transgender women as women.

When a t-girl is ready to experience the world en femme, most of us will want to frequent places where we will be welcome.  I know I did, and I still do.  If we want more businesses to be accepting of us, then we need to financially support businesses that already support us.  I believe that this sends a message.  Of course, I am not so naive that I do not think me not shopping at Victoria’s Secret had any impact whatsoever on them, but spending my money with companies that do embrace us made an impact on them.

I’m glad whenever there is a leadership change or some progress made in any corporation that inches its way towards inclusivity, but I will continue to buy my lingerie from designers that support my values and embrace our community.

Love, Hannah

 

 

Glamorous Corset Review: Dita Corset Update!

About two weeks ago I was sent a Dita Black Satin Corset from Glamorous Corset.  I fell in love hard with it within the first few minutes of wearing it.   I learned more about wearing a corset in an hour than I thought possible.

backThe main reason is that this is a proper, authentic corset.  It has steel boning (which prevents the corset from wrinkling and allows the corset to retain its shape and therefor helps you keep YOUR shape) as well as a generous amount of spiral steel boning which are the metal rings in the back for lacing your corset.  With so many spirals I am able to customize my corset where I want it to be tighter.  On big reason that I love this corset is because of how long it is.  I can make it tighter on top without the whole corset being too restrictive.  I can tighten the middle to cinch my waist even more without it constricting my torso.

CaptureThe corset has a steel busk in the front of it which is what the hook and eye are attached to.  This is the part of the corset that needs to work the hardest.  I have had corsets in the past where the fabric tore at this part but this feels very strong.  The hooks line up perfectly and fit very securely into the eyes.  The alignment is solid.

 

Over the first week I seasoned my corset.  Seasoning is when you wear the corset for a week or so for about an hour at a time to allow it to conform to your body.  The first time I put mine on and fastened it, I expected this process to be the other way around.  I thought it would be my body getting used to the corset.  The first time wearing it I counted down the minutes until the hour was up.  It was tight, it was wonderful.  But I was getting used to it.

Over the next few days, I was able to wear the corset without the same feeling of tightness that I had the first day.  I didn’t loosen the binding at all and I could feel both my body and my corset adjusting to each other.  After a few days I didn’t really notice it all except that my posture was amazing.

Before the first week was over, I surprised myself by cinching the waist.  After the first day I couldn’t have imagined being able to wear it tighter than it was, but it was true, the corset was adjusting to me.  Of course, I was also learning how to wear it and getting used to it too, but I understood what was meant by the corset conforming to me.

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Another perk was how I walked.  I walked differently.  My hips moved a little more and I had a little more… swing than usual.  Wearing high heels forces you in a way to walk different, and a corset isn’t that much different.  But when I combined stilettos and my corset… girls, I STRUTTED.

It takes about 7-10 days for a corset to season, and although I am beyond that period of time, I still wear mine for anywhere between two to three hours at a time, something I once thought would be impossble.  I think my corset has conformed to me, but I am building myself to being able to wear it for a whole day.  My “progress”, if you will, is going better and faster than I expected.

One of the intentions of a corset is to help create a curvier figure.  This corset gives me more of an hourglass figure and a smaller waist.  When I wear my breast forms and thigh pads it’s hard to believe that this is my body.  This corset was the missing piece for a more shapely figure.

A corset can be intimidating and requires patience and dedication.  In my experience this commitment has paid off tremendously.  If you are looking for a beautiful corset that is not only sexy but versatile, consider adding this to your wardrobe.

Glamorous Corset has also provided us with a discount on all their corsets if you want to add one to your wardrobe.  At check-out, use discount code HANNAH15 for 15% off all corsets.

Thank you to Glamorous Corset for this beautiful corset.

Love, Hannah

 

 

 

 

HommeMystere Review: Lingerie

I used to think that there was nothing practical about lingerie.  It was something beautiful to wear to help you feel beautiful.

Now I realize that even if lingerie’s only purpose was to help you feel a certain way, wasn’t that just as, or even more important than it’s functionality?

Bras are pretty essential on different levels.  It’s the first thing I put on when I dress as I step into one gender presentation from another.  I believe a bra is the most feminine thing you can wear.  But more often than not I select which bra I will wear based on what I need the bra to do.  If I am wearing a white dress, I wear a light colored bra.  If my dress is cut a certain way, I go strapless.

See?  Beauty and versatility.

Panties are no different.  If I am wearing a bra, then I choose the matching panty because every bra I own has a matching panty (I’m a little OCD that way).  But I also take into consideration the kind of day I am going to have.  A tough day requires beautiful panties, a boring day needs something a little more… exotic.  The white lacy panties with a candy cane pattern only come out during December.

Panties are fun, cute, and like any piece of lingerie, makes me feel a certain way.  I wear what I wear often because of what I am feeling, or what I want to feel that day.

As I discovered different lingerie options over the course of my life, I became fascinated at the sheer (and sometimes not sheer) number of options there were.  Babydolls, teddies, bodysuits, basques, merry widows, corsets, garter belts… the list goes on.  My own lingerie wardrobe grew over time and I loved how there was something I could wear for any mood.  There are different degrees of versatility when it comes to lingerie.  I think a corset is one of the sexiest things to ear, but they are also functional in terms of cinching your waist and holding up your stockings.

But I think the most important thing lingerie does is invoke a feeling.  To make you feel beautiful.  Lingerie is something you wear for yourself.  Like panties, what I wear often depends on what I want to feel.  There is nothing like finishing a long, hard day and slipping into something that makes me feel beautiful.

Lingerie is usually cut and designed for body types with certain anatomical features in mind.  I see beautiful options that simply don’t work for someone with a flat chest for example.  This can limit what I wear.  I mean, I can wear it, but if it doesn’t look right than I have a hard time feeling pretty in it.

‘Lingerie for men’ is a term that many in our community are divided over.  I completely get it.  Lingerie designed for men misses the point, there are many options ‘for girls’ I can wear… Again, I see that point and agree in many cases.  However, I do think that is worth looking into designers that make lingerie for someone with my body type in mind.  For one reason, it’s being designed for someone with the physical features that I have.  Or don’t have.  I don’t want lingerie that shows off my cleavage if I don’t have any, for example.

The main reason I like looking at lingerie for men is that more often than not it is incredibly beautiful.  I like feminine lingerie.  I love a teddy or a bodysuit with a floral pattern.  I love a nightie with lace around the edges.  I love finding beautiful lingerie that I know will fit my body.  I don’t want to spend $50 on something that I can’t wear.

There are many options for someone like me these days.  I can name a dozen different websites to buy beautiful bras and panties for someone with the body that I have.  I was sent lingerie from HommeMystere recently and I reviewed their bras and panties previously.  For my third and final review (for now, anyway), I am delighted to share my thoughts about two pieces of their lingerie.

1The first piece I wore was their Natasha Mini Dress with matching panty.  Lingerie can be amazingly practical but if it isn’t cute, then I will not even bother trying it on.  This is not a dress (well, I suppose anything could be a dress) but it is a beautiful nightie.  A criticism I have with a lot of lingerie designed for men is that it is simply too short.  However, this reaches my hips but it is close to being too short.  Some of us may think that this shortness is a feature 😉 but having a matching panty does help pull the look together.  I love the fabric but since it is made from satin there is not a lot of stretch to it.  Ordering your correct size is important but minimal stretch will help keep its shape.  It has lacy features and a full back and is super comfortable to sleep in.  The V neck is similar to a lot of ‘girl lingerie’ in a way meant to tease a little cleavage but having none the effect is a little lost.  However, the lacy details won me over.

2The second piece is the best babydoll I have ever owned.  I love, love, love the Anneve Babydoll and matching panty.  This is an amazing soft, beautiful article of lingerie.  The mesh feels amazing against my skin.  I love little details and this babydoll has lacy edging along the edges and a beautiful floral pattern on the cups as well.  A delicate pink bow completes the look.  The babydoll falls just below my hips which is almost too short for my tastes but the cute little frilly skirt offsets the shortness of it.  I actually like how short this is because the matching panty has detachable garters you can show off.  This babydoll has more stretch than the Natasha Mini Dress, but your size should be based on your bra size.  The photo (which is not me, by the way) does not do this beautiful lingerie justice.  It’s a lovely babydoll and I love how I feel when I wear it.

Which is exactly why one should wear lingerie.

Thank you to HommeMystere for providing this beautiful lingerie.

Love, Hannah

Glamorous Corset Review: Dita Corset

After years of dressing, I started to add enhancements into my wardrobe a couple of years ago.  I was surprised by how much I loved what breast forms and thigh pads did for my figure.  I was also surprised by how much difference they made to my appearance.

Thigh pads gave me more curves and I loved how I looked in dresses and skirts with them.  Breast forms helped me look and feel more natural.  I could see potential for an hourglass figure and I wanted to find something for my waist.

I own a corset (that I spent a lot of money on) but I rarely wear it.  Corsets are peak lingerie, in my opinion.  Incredibly sexy with a wide array of options.  You can attach garters if  you want (and why wouldn’t you?), there are underbust and overbust options as well as a variety of material with everything from PVC to satin.  The intricate lacing and tying in the back is simply alluring.  A true corset has steel boning which cinches your waist and slims your figure.  It’s easy to confuse a corset with a basque.

I rarely wear the I own because despite spending a lot on it, it’s rather cheap.  The metal strips that are sewn into it are more bendy than they should be and do not keep its shape (and therefor did not help with keeping the shape I wanted) as well as it should.  They also poked through the fabric and then poked me which was not comfortable.  It felt bulky and did not move with me as well as I would have liked.

I knew corsets were meant to be functional as well as sexy, but this experience made me think that perhaps they were not as functional as I hoped.  Luckily I was mistaken.  I was sent a Dita Black Satin Corset from Glamorous Corset last week and within minutes of opening the package I knew that everything I thought I knew about corsets was wrong.

CaptureThe corset arrived in a black velvet bag and I immediately knew that any corset experience I had before was nothing compared to what was ahead of me.  This was the real deal.  The corset had some weight to it and I could feel the steel boning in the fabric.  The corset felt thick and shimmery and I didn’t think the steel boning would be able to poke through the fabric.  The steel fasteners in the front felt strong and the hooks fit comfortably and snug.  It also has six loops to attach garters.  Six!

backThe back of the corset was even more impressive.  It was already laced and the cords felt strong without being too thick.  The eyelets were not too close to the edge of the panels so I wasn’t worried about them being ripped out.  These details stood out to me because of my past experiences with corsets and what I liked and did not like with previous ones.  The cords were long which meant that not only could I tie a really sexy bow in the back, they were also long enough for me to adjust the corset as I needed.  This would be something I would own and wear for a long time.

The next thing that I looked through was the guide that the corset included.  The guide included instructions for lacing and tying the corset of course, but also how to get used to wearing it.  There is a practice called seasoning where you wear the corset for 45 minutes to an hour each day for about ten days.  This allows the corset to adapt it’s shape to your body and also helps you get used to wearing it.  You will know you are wearing a true corset the first few times you put it on.  It has an impact on your posture as well as on how you move.  It is recommend you season your corset before you wear it to an event and  I couldn’t agree more.

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I loosened the laces of my new corset and after putting it on I tightened the back of it.  The cords were long so with a few minutes of practice I was able to tie it.  With an authentic corset you may be able to go tighter but that is something you slowly work your way up to.  After my corset was laced and tied, I felt taller than before.  I stood straighter and my posture was amazing.  It was not so tight that I could not move easily, but I definitely knew I was wearing it.  I liked that it was a underbust corset which allows me to wear a bra with forms.

As recommended, I wore the corset for an hour that first day.  I got used to the corset (and the corset got used to me) as I moved normally and naturally.  It never felt tight or uncomfortable but I did notice I was wearing it.  I tightened the corset to trim my waist and I could see a more shapely figure under my shirt and jeans.  I also felt… sexy.  Wearing lingerie is a fun little secret and we all know the joy of wearing something cute under our clothes but this was a different level altogether.  I used to think lingerie was nothing but sexy but we all have experienced wearing something cute but uncomfortable.  Lingerie can be beautiful and practical and this corset is the pinnacle of that.

I was worried about putting it on the next day as the seasoning progressed.  The day before I tightened it after I put it on, but this time it was already tied and I would simply hook the latches on the front of it.  I am happy to say that it fit like a dream and it was easy to fasten.  I was surprised by how much more comfortable the corset was the second day.  It was still tight and cinched my waist but it wasn’t nearly as noticeable as it was the first day.  I stood and sat straight up and I couldn’t slouch if I wanted to.  Again, I stayed home and went about my time and I was able to move even more naturally than I did the day before.

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I am excited to continue to season my corset and wear it to an event or an outing.  I am really happy to have something that I feel completes my quest for a more shapely hourglass appearance.  I will post more reviews and updates over the next week or so and let you know how the seasoning goes.  So far my first impressions are nothing but positive.  A corset is a commitment, it is something you invest your time and money into and I can see this investment paying off.

Glamorous Corset has also provided us with a discount on all their corsets if you want to add one to your wardrobe.  At check-out, use discount code HANNAH15 for 15% off all corsets.

Thank you to Glamorous Corset for this beautiful corset.  I’m glad to find out that everything I thought a corset was supposed to be was wrong.

Love, Hannah

HommeMystere Review: Perfect Panties

Panties are how I stay in touch with my femme side in male mode.  And in girl mode.  And all the time.  When I started to purchase my own clothes, panties were the first thing I bought.  I would go shopping, then purge, and then build my wardrobe once more.  I would always start with panties.  Like bras, I have always been drawn to the sheer variety and options.  Push up, halter, racerback, strapless…you can find a bra for any occasion or mood.  Panties are even more so.  Thong, tanga, boyshort, bikini, hipsters, g-strings, seamless, french cut…and let’s not forget the fabric.  Silk, satin, cotton, leather, mesh…

And the adornments.  Nothing wins me over like a small bow or rose on the front of a pair of cute panties.  Lacey edging, mesh inserts….simply put, panties are cuter and more interesting than the boy equivalent to look at.  And wear.

The heartbreaking moment comes when you find a perfect pair only to have them not fit right.  Sizing is one thing, but perhaps the elastic in the waistband is not of high quality, or there’s not enough stretch, or the gusset is not quite wide enough and…well, we fall out.  You know what I mean.

Crossdressing is very much hit or miss.  It’s learning by doing.  You learn which stores sell panties in your size.  Not every cut or style is right for every body’s anatomy.  Like most clothes, you get what you pay for in terms of quality.

It’s a little easier to eyeball a cute pair of undies in the store to see if the will ft you.  Of course, this can be a little awkward if there are other shoppers in the vicinity.  Shopping online is easier but that is not without risks either.

My clothes for the day, in either gender, determine what lingerie I will wear.  My strapless bra was necessarily for these photos because of the mesh and the cut of the dress itself.  I did not want shoulder straps showing.  Straps would look a little silly next to the seams in the dress in the top picture.Mesh Dress 427

Panties are the same thing.  I don’t think I am alone when it comes to choosing what I will wear based on the day ahead.  If I am wearing a tight dress, I’ll wear a thong.  If I have a day full of difficult meetings, I’ll pick out something cute and pink to wear under my male clothes.

TMI..?

At any rate, that’s the joy.  I have tons of panties for any mood, outfit, or occasion.  But I am always looking for more.

“Panties for men” is one of the most common search terms people use to find my website.  I think this is used for two reasons.  First, finding a designer that makes lingerie for men makes it a little easier for someone to get started on building their wardrobe.  If someone is nervous dipping their toe in this world, it’s easier when there is a company out there that makes lingerie for men.  They’re not girl panties, they are panties made for men.  They are made for me. 

Secondly, as most of us know, not all clothes are made for every body.  Searching for panties for men is an effort to find cute undies that fit a certain body type or can accommodate certain anatomical… characteristics.  Lingerie is no exception.

I tend to be skeptical when it comes to ‘lingerie for men’.  For the most part, I think lingerie for men misses the point.  I don’t want panties that are designed for men.  These tend to be no different than boring boy undies but with the addition of a little lace around the waistband, but if you remove the lace they are just briefs.

Some panties for men are cut differently.  Most are.  Sometimes the leg holes are a little bigger but this can make the panties a little looser and baggier.  Yeah, not too sexy.  Sometimes the front has a little more fabric for, well, you know.

So, what do I look for in a panty?  They have to be cute.  There needs to be a variety of color, fabric, and style.  I love a cute pattern, I love a cute bow on the back.  Of course they must fit.  Always.  They need to move with me.  You know what I mean.  I want a panty that is comfortable.  It should have a little stretch but not so much that they feel loose.  I want a panty with a nice, smooth front.

So, basically a panty that needs to be designed by NASA.  In a fabulous way.

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I am thrilled to say that HommeMystere has nailed it.  When I opened my package from them I was immediately impressed with, well, to be honest, how cute the panties were.  The four pairs they sent were all different from each other so there was a lot of variety in style, color, and fabric.

CaptureMy favorite pair is easily the Anneve Panty.  I love the mesh side panels with the delicate pink flower pattern.   But the standout is the four garters (which are removable).  The garters have metal hooks and do not easily become loose.  I never had to worry about my stockings pulling the garters off the panty itself.  The garters hold stockings up really nicely and did not unfasten on their own.  The back has a seam up the middle to create a flattering shape as well.

 

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I also loved the Violet Panty which also has a matching bra.  I love a panty with different fabrics and this pair has a lovely purple fabric with black lace.  The lace is adorned with a subtle, silver highlight that catches the light in a playful way.  A cute black bow finishes the look.

 

 

 

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The Krystal Panty  also has a matching bra, and is made out of a really sexy, sheer fabric.  Mesh can be itchy at times but I found this pair to be comfortable and wore it all day.  It has a lacy edge at the front and a really cute floral pattern as well.

 

 

 

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Finally, there is the the Natasha Panty.  It is cut a little differently than the other panties here and is a little snugger than the others.  My favorite detail is the lacy edging around the leg openings in the back.  I love the fabric and the pattern, but the overlay of a second fabric on the sides of the front is just super cute and unique.  The satin bow on the front is the perfect cherry on top for these cute panties.

The panties fit well.  In every sense.  There is just enough stretch for everything to fit but the stretch is not limited to just the front of the panties.  It’s an all over stretch that feels comfortable and creates a very flattering and smooth look.

Finally, for those of us who have worn “panties for men” before, I can honestly say that these panties feel and fit like girls panties in every way.

I think you know what I mean. 😉

Thank you to HommeMystere for providing these perfect panties.

Love, Hannah