There are certain colors that are.. “off limits” for boys. Pink, that’s a significant one, but there are others. Like lilac. Sure men might wear a lilac dress shirt, but it’s a light purple shirt, thank you very much.
But come on, it’s lilac.
And I heart lilac.
I mean, it’s a beautiful flower and it smells lovely, but the color is so feminine.
The bra has all my favorite details, a feminine pattern around the mesh cups, a tiny bow in the middle. The bra sparkles with a touch of glitter. And! It’s a pocket bra for your forms. But with or without forms this bra is sexy and innocent.
The matching panty is super cute and while I don’t normally like boy-short type panties, I really liked this pair. It’s designed to be worn over a gaff (which is helpful when it comes to boy-shorts) but tucking is also comfortable with this panty.
And the back is lacy and seductive.
I hope you like these photos! I do realize that the color of this set is actually lavender (according to the website), I just think lilac is more femme. 🙂
I buy my lingerie from a few different places online but the only lingerie boutique I frequent regularly (though not regularly enough) Is Allure. Allure has different locations throughout the country and are very accommodating to girls like us. In fact, I had a bra fitting there!
I have always been fascinated and enamored with corsets. Sexy, beautiful, elaborate, little details… I’ve owned a few in my life but it wasn’t until I started to wear a proper one from Glamorous Corset.
I didn’t really understand or appreciate the difference a quality, real corset can make. How much work it takes to get used to a proper one, and the correct way to wear one. It requires discipline and patience. As I seasoned my corset I realized that as sexy as corsets are, they are also versatile. A perfect balance of beauty and practicality.
When I worked up the courage to do a lingerie shoot, I knew I had to wear my corset. I feel these shots capture beauty, power, and vulnerability.
The most eye-catching part of any piece of lingerie for me is the tiny attention to details and this set has tiny little bows, delicate lace, and beautiful edging. And the panty has soft mesh on the sides! The bra has underwire and is absolutely perfect for the girls 🙂
This has a very romantic, almost vintage look to it. It’s alluring, sexy, and beautiful.
The panty fits girls like us and is comfortable to wear all day. I know this because I wear this set a LOT.
When I had my last photo shoot, this was the bra and panty set I wore for pictures we took in a dress because I loved how my bust looked in it. The panty also covered up the gaff I wore for the dress pictures.
Love, love, love this set.
Thank you to The Breast Form Store for this beautiful lingerie.
HI! Some of us don’t like tucking. I get it. It’s not easy to do properly and if not done correctly it can hurt.
Pain and feeling uncomfortable is your body’s way of saying STOP DOING THIS. If your heels hurt your feet (I mean, they probably will after a few hours, I’m talking about immediately and with every step) or if your gaff is paining you, you should probably wear something else.
This panty is not a gaff, but it does flatten and smoooooth things. Like, really flattens and smooth things. Like, really, REALLY flattens and smooths things.
It takes a little getting used to, and it moves comfortably with your body, and it is tight. Of course, not everyone likes thongs so there is that as well. The sizing chart is very true to form so make sure you know your measurements before purchasing.
Have you ever felt like something was both inevitable and not going to happen in a million years?
Have you ever done something that felt the complete opposite than you expected?
That was this past Saturday in a nutshell.
A few weeks ago The Breast Form Store sent over a few items for me to sample and review. Some new forms (more on those later but OMG), a new gaff, and some lingerie. Usually when I am sent clothes to review I will have professional photos taken by my friend Shannonlee. When I have done reviews for gaffs, lingerie, or a corset I have used product pictures from the designer’s website to illustrate my review. But this time… I couldn’t stop thinking about if I wanted to do a lingerie shoot for the review. I am not sure what changed my mind from something I didn’t think, or want to happen in a million years to something I sorta kinda maybe wanted to do, but honestly I think it’s the past year that has really shaped my perspective on life.
A funny thing happened around my last birthday. I noticed I started to think about, well, the end of my life. Not to sound dramatic and I know I have a lot of time left (fingers crossed), but I spent a lot of time thinking about what I want to do with the rest of my life. Some of my thoughts were practical, such as making sure my wife and I were financially stable, some of it was more fun, like planning a vacation. These thoughts, combined with how COVID has really impacted the world and has limited what we can and should do, I thought about life is short and things we want to do could stop being an option very suddenly. Sure, I want to go on a trip and yes I want to go to the mall without a mask but it’s not smart to do either of these things right now. A year and a half ago no one would have thought that life would be like this. But it is, and could be for a long time.
The idea of a lingerie shoot terrified me and at the same time the fear wasn’t stopping me from thinking about it. I talked to my wife about what I was thinking and we had a good conversation about everything from what I was feeling about life and time running out and fears of someone we know stumbling across the pictures (because let’s face it, if I am going to do it I am likely posting the photos) to what I wanted, and didn’t want if I did the shoot. After our talk, I felt lighter. I didn’t realize how crushing my feelings of life running out were impacting me. Honestly? I realized I was scared of getting old, getting sick, not being able to do things I wanted to do, whether it was a boudoir shoot or going for a run. I know the day will come when I shouldn’t be driving (and yes I know that day is decades away) or or doing things that I take for granted. I don’t want to regret things I could have done. Things that I want to do but kept putting off, whether it was a lingerie shoot or visiting Italy.
So I did it.
The shoot, not the trip. At least not yet.
The shoot happened almost 48 hours from me writing this and I am still processing it. I didn’t really know what to expect, but I was surprised at how… nervous and awkward I felt. I’ve done a lot of shoots over the last five years. Some for fun, some for reviews, some for En Femme. I’ve worn everything from wrap dresses to PVC skirts to pants so I am accustomed to being photographed in a lot of different outfits. But stockings and bras? Good god. Lingerie is something one wears for themselves, for intimate moments, for sleeping. Lingerie is personal, private, and a secret. Wearing lingerie when someone other than my wife is in the room is a… well, I felt as uncomfortable and as awkward as you can imagine. I felt silly. Although I wasn’t expecting it to be… I don’t know, erotic, I didn’t expect it to be a big deal considering my previous shoots and outfits. I felt exposed and nervous. Not exactly strutting out of a comfort zone.
As the shoot progressed I felt a little less nervous and self-conscious. Shannonlee always helps me come out of my shell a bit and she was as professional as it gets. She is also my friend. I can’t imagine letting anyone else photograph me for a shoot like this.
I’ll (probably) post the finished shots, but I wanted to share some pictures from that day. These were taken with an iPhone (please excuse the quality) and haven’t been touched up with lighting and whatever magic Shannonlee does. They are also in black and white because, well, black and white is… forgiving. Let’s leave it at that.
As I write this I can honestly say I am glad I did this, even with all the nervousness and anxiety the day brought. I can’t say I will ever do this again, but I think this is one less thing I will have on my list of regrets when things like this aren’t an option anymore.
–What sort of bra do you recommend and how do you know what size to buy?
-Do you have actual breasts or do you use/wear forms? Just starting to explore and very confused about forms. What is the correct or proper shape to look for, teardrop, oval, triangle, round ? I have yet to find 2 articles supporting the same shape so I’m confused. The one thing I have found that seems to be standard is that silicone has the best feel, movement, bounce, fiber fill & foam don’t so now if I can understand the shape to look for or go with I have a starting point.
Both of these questions bounced into my email within a day of each other and since they are similar I thought I’d tackle them in one post.
I have a LOT of bras. I have bras that I wear en femme, and I have bras that I wear for underdressing. Basically the bras that I wear under my boy clothes are ones without any sort of padding, shape, or push-uppiness. That’s not a word but you know what I mean. Most of these bras come from Xdress and Homme Mystere.
The bras I wear en femme are more varied and more… uh, practical. I have bras that are strapless, I have bras with an embroidered pattern, push up bras, and bras of many colors.
A girl needs a white or beige bra because some outfits and blouses are a LITTLE see through and a black or darker color will show through some tops. I mean, if that’s the look you’re going for, then have at it.
Strapless bras are for strapless dresses, or dresses and tops where the shoulders are see-through or mesh, for example.
I don’t wear bras with a texture to the cup if I am wearing a tight blouse as the texture can show through.
See? Lingerie can be practical.
As for sizing, if you’re not comfortable meeting with a bra fitter, you can take your own measurements. I wear a 34B bra. The number refers to my chest measurement/band size, the letter refers to cup size. A rule of thumb is your band size is your chest measurement and then add four (round up if needed).
I don’t have breasts but I wear forms. They are not the best quality but they do the job. They are silicone….ish. Not as high quality as my thigh and hip pads from The Breast Form Store and I would agree with what you are reading in that silicone feels better than anything else. My forms have a somewhat similar feel to my silicone pads but I don’t feel my forms are a part of me the same way my thigh pads do.
Shape comes down to personal preference, I think. Breasts come in all shapes and sizes so I don’t think there is such a thing as the correct shape. I would spend some time looking at The Breast Form Store‘s website and chatting with one of their fitters (Hi Eden!) for some guidance in finding forms that you feel are the right ones.
I’d like to finish this little showcase by featuring Homme Mystere. I picked Homme Mystere because, to be honest, I think they deserve the attention. Their lingerie is well made, the fit is perfect, the styles are cute… it’s not easy to combine sexy with comfort.
I have purchased and wear a lot of panties from Homme Mystere and I’d like to highlight a few of their panties, bras, bodysuits, and lingerie that I love. You can read my reviews for some of their products here and here and here!