I am super surprised and flattered. Thank you so much!
I am in the process of opening up an online store for crossdressers. What products would you recommend me to sell? What do crossdressers need the most?
Congratulations on taking this step! If there’s one thing I love, it’s more options when it comes to shopping.
Years ago the idea of a store specializing in clothes for girls like us was inconceivable but I am amazed at how many options are available these days. Even though there’s quite a few options, each one is different from each other and can all happily coexist.
Every t-girl/crossdresser is different and we all need and want different things. Thankfully there are quite a few options out there. When it comes to retailers that design for and market to our community, I shop online with En Femme, Xdress, Homme Mystere, Glamour Boutique, and the Breast Form Store the most.
I like Xdress and Homme Mystere for their beautiful, feminine lingerie. I like the Breast Form Store for their practical stuff, like forms, pads, and gaffs. I like Glamour Boutique if I want something on the sexy side, and En Femme is a wonderful place for day to day clothes.
What you want to be known for? What are you most passionate about? There are a lot of options out there, but I always love finding a new place to buy heels and lingerie 🙂
I am not sure if this helps but I did write a little about what I think are “must-haves” for a girl like us. Of course, we all have different perspectives on what we think are essentials.
What do you girls think are essentials? What should a new store sell? Please comment below!
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This might be a weird question, but I just passed the anniversary of my biggest milestone, so I wanted to ask you:
In your “journey” (I know you hate that word) as Hannah, what would you say have been your biggest milestones? I have a few that I would happily share in a comment, but I’ll keep this brief… so what are some of the key moments that have defined who Hannah is today?
Congratulations on your milestone!
This is a really good question. Thank you for asking it.
I thought about this for a while and I think this comes down to four key instances.
If I look at who I am as a journey (and yes, I totes hate that word but dammit if it isn’t an appropriate one), then my journey started when I was very young with trying on my mom’s heels, being fascinated my lipstick, dying to try on lingerie, buying my first dress, and so on. I remember progressively going from underdressing to sleeping in a nightgown to learning makeup. All this time I was discovering who I am, and how I wanted to look and what felt right. As we learn makeup and build our wardrobe, we learn what we like and what looks suit us. In many ways, my first real wig was the end of one part of my journey but also the start of another. It was the final part of moving on from identifying as a crossdresser to realizing that all of this was more than just clothes. It was about identity. I didn’t know it at the time, but I should have realized at that moment that I was transgender.
I remember looking into the mirror for who knows how long the first time I was in full makeup, a dress, and a wig. I didn’t look like me, and I was a far cry for what I look l like today, but at that moment I had never felt more beautiful. I realized I had wanted to look and feel beautiful for my entire life. It was one of the happiest moments I can remember.
The second instance was about a year after that. After dressing fully at home and plucking up the courage to go out at night, I was ready to step out during the day. I planned a day where I would wake up early and go into Minneapolis to buy a coffee at a cafe. That was the plan. That was the dream. It was something I did almost every day in male mode, but this, this was something new.
This was significant in many ways as it was the first time I was interacting with the “real world”. I had been out at night a few times to a LGBTQ+ nightclub, but this was my first time at a normal, everyday place and being seen by others outside of the LGBTQ+ community. I had fears of people laughing at me, pointing at me, being harassed, and worse. Thankfully nothing like that happened. I was so ecstatic from the non-eventful reactions from others that my confidence shot way up. No one cared. Sure, they knew I was trans, but I don’t think anyone really gave me a second thought and if they did, I didn’t notice. Although I had planned on only getting a coffee, I ended up going to two malls, a few other stores, and out to lunch. This experience gave me the confidence to go out again. And again. And again.
The third milestone was the first meeting of the MN T-Girls. I had been attending a trans support group off and on for a few months and it was a wonderful group with incredible girls. But I didn’t really fit in. The group was mainly attended by girls who were or had transitioned and many of the meetings involved conversations about hormones, surgery, and the legal process of legally changing your name and gender. It was an important and necessary group for our community and I am glad it existed.
But my journey (ugh) was something different. I had no plan or wish to live full-time or transition. The group wasn’t for me. So at the suggestion of my wife, I started to create a group for girls like me who weren’t necessarily looking to transition, and girls who just wanted to make friends and hit the mall. Yes, it’s a little shallow, but my thought was that I can’t be the only one who wants to look cute and wander around a mall looking for heels.
Thankfully and surprisingly, I learned that I wasn’t. Not by a long shot. Today the group has close to 300 members and has been going strong (well, on hiatus under the shelter-in-place orders) for over six years. But the group had it’s humble beginnings. Our first meeting was in a coffee shop with about a half-dozen attendees. Having others show up was huge. If they hadn’t, I probably would have ended it right there. But that day was the start of something I am very proud of.
Finally, modeling for Glamour Boutique and En Femme has been incredibly significant to me. Doing my makeup, finding the right wig, and creating my look has been a humbling process. I cannot tell you how many times I looked in the mirror and wanted to give up. There are countless days where I spend an hour doing my makeup and seeing a boy in the mirror. I have felt fat, felt ugly, felt too tall, too… male. There have been days, there are still days, and there will always be days where I feel this way. It happens.
But modeling has helped me feel beautiful. I know it’s shallow. I really know this. But being considered pretty enough to model clothes and represent a business is incredibly affirming to me. When I feel ugly or male, and I do a lot, it’s helpful to look at photos from a shoot or to look at the clothes I will be modeling next.
As I look back on all of these moments, I realize that all of them boosted my confidence in some way. Whether it was how I looked or being able to create something. Going out into the real world requires a lot of confidence, but a positive (or at least not a negative experience) can also boost your confidence. I can do this. I AM doing this. I think when I present as male I take my confidence for granted. I could look in the mirror and shrug and tell myself that this is just how I look.
But being en femme is a different story. Looking male in a dress can crush my self-esteem. A bad makeup day can be devastating. Someone staring at me (in a rude way) can destroy me. Although I can strut through hell with my head held high, I am faking it most of the time because I know that someone pointing at me or a bad wig day can reduce me to shambles. It can often take an $80 makeover and a new dress to make me feel beautiful, but all it takes is a suppressed smile or a mean comment on Twitter to ruin my day. Or week.
Anyway, that ended up getting depressing. 🙂
I loved this question and I would love to hear about everyone else’s milestones in the comments.
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I heart lingerie. It was the first piece of clothing that I fell in love with when I was young. Panties, a garter belt, and stockings were the first things I bought that were truly mine. I underdress each day, and every morning I wake up in a nightie.
Lingerie is a part of each day and each evening. But as a t-girl, lingerie can be tricky. Not every panty is going to fit, and without forms the effect of a push-up bra is lost. I am very happy that there are options out there for girls like us, and even happier that there are businesses that embrace our community.
But of course, I want MORE.
A few years ago I wrote about Carmen Liu, a transwoman who designed a line of lingerie for girls like us. I am happy to hear that En Femme will now be carrying Ms. Liu’s beautiful lingerie.
I’m really happy that we have another option to fill our lingerie drawer with beautiful panties and bras. A girl can never have too many options.
I think it’s probably safe to say that a t-girl loves clothes. I have a fascination with certain styles and fabrics. I love a really cute peplum dress, I love leather, I love pleated skirts…oh, I could go on.
I think we have a certain emotional connection with many of the items that hang in our wardrobe. I can pick out a pair of stilettos and think of a half dozen events that I wore them to. I can remember when and where I found a certain bodycon dress that hangs in my closet. I can recall how I felt when I tried on that flared skirt that I love so much.
The point is that, well, I love clothes. I think some of this adoration comes from growing up and seeing a whole world of beautiful dresses, lingerie, and shoes that boys weren’t allowed to wear. This helped fuel my curiosity and longing.
Not only was I fascinated with the clothes themselves, but there was a whole world of fabrics that were off-limits to me as a boy. I never had patent-leather shoes, I didn’t have anything made of corduroy, and I certainly didn’t have silk underwear.
Of course, these days my wardrobe now includes Mary Janes, corduroy skirts, and if I am being honest, my lingerie drawer has panties in just about every fabric and texture you could possibly dream of.
One fabric that I was always mesmerized with was velvet. Dark and seductive, it was a fabric that begged to be touched. A girl in a velvet dress seemed mysterious, classy, and fashionable. What’s more alluring than a girl like that? I wanted to be a girl like that. Thanks to Glamour Boutique‘s Black Crushed Velvet Fit and Flare Dress, I can finally be that girl.
My first thought when I slipped this on is how happy the dress made me feel that the sleeves were long enough. It can be frustrating to try to find a long sleeve dress that fits, but this is perfect. The shoulders in the dress are wide enough for it to fit comfortably and not compromise the length of the sleeves.
And the flare!
The dress has a seam under the bust which provides a very flattering fit but also creates a flirty flare for the skirt. It’s not something I see in a lot of dresses and I appreciate how it downplays my longer torso.
I love when I put on a dress and I immediately think of an event I can wear it too. This dress begs to be worn at a holiday party and December seems too far away.
I paired it with patent leather stilettos and nude stockings, but I think perhaps black stockings would work just as well.
As we grew up there were so many things that were denied to us, clothes we weren’t allowed to wear. A dress like this evokes memories of those moments when we longed to wear something beautiful. We have a second chance to finally have the wardrobe that we always wanted and I am so happy that this beautiful dress hangs in my closet.
I know I stand out.
Not because I am a goddess or the most beautiful girl on the planet, no, I stand out because I am a six foot tall (without heels, and I am never without heels) t-girl who is likely the most overdressed person wherever I am. I can’t change who I am, so I may as well embrace it and make it work.
For a long time I was afraid to go out because I didn’t “pass” (because there’s no such thing) or blend in. After a while I was tired of this keeping me from experiencing the world in the way I wanted so I left the house and never looked back.
Some days I stand out a little more because I want to stand out a little more.
I like wearing leather and I have dresses in my wardrobe that might turn a head at the mall, but would barely cause someone to bat an eyelash at a club. Again, there are times I want to be noticed more than usual.
I have a lot of dresses in my closet that I would consider pretty bold, but I think this outshines (literally, look at that glossy finish!) them all. Made out of PVC, this dress shines bright which is not easy for a black dress to do.
It’s not always easy for a t-girl to find a dress that fits comfortably across the shoulders and has sleeves that are long enough, so I was thrilled to find that this dress fits like a dream. PVC/latex/rubber/vinyl/leather are not very forgiving so finding a dress made out of these materials that fits isn’t always easy. This dress was designed for girls like us and runs true to size. Take your measurements before ordering.
Wearing a dress made out of material like this can be a little challenging, but it has a two-way zipper on the front and zips up or down the entire dress. Simply step into it, and zip it all the way up.
If you want.
The dress is a lot more versatile than it appears as you can adjust how much cleavage or leg you want to show off.
This is not a dress to wear while running errands. This is a dress that, to be honest, is not designed to be practical. Due to the PVC material, the dress is a little… noisy and doesn’t have a lot of stretch in the shoulders once you put it on.
But that’s not a bad thing. There are some dresses I wear that show off my legs or my figure. These are not dresses I wear to the mall and I think every girl needs a few outfits that are designed to do nothing except get you noticed. Pairing any dress with fishnets and stilettos will give any outfit extra allure and this is no exception.
There’s no question that a dress like this makes a statement. Whatever that statement is is up to you. This is a super fun and super sexy dress. Yes, not a dress to wear to Target, but it certainly inspired me to think of all the places where I could go in it. 🙂