Time kind of stand stills at this time of year, doesn’t it?
For many of us, the urgency of work minimizes or we may use what we have left of our vacation days. Our attention turns to family and the demands of the holidays of course, but the break from our everyday life kind of puts one into a weird limbo where hopefully we feel a little stressed… or more than likely a different kind of stress.
My point is that hopefully during this time of the year we can be a little more in touch with ourselves and spend a little time doing something other than the demands of our normal, everyday lives.
Hopefully we can live in the present a little more during this time of the year.
But this time of the year is also about the passage of time. If you celebrate Christmas you probably think about Christmases of the past. Maybe a holiday cookie brings back memories of childhood.
If the holidays don’t inspire a trip into the past (whether willingly or not), the new year will probably do that for you. I think we all reflect on everything that happened or didn’t happen over the last twelve months.
And when I say “reflect on everything” I don’t necessarily mean we have wistful, pensive moments where we quietly think about the year with our hands wrapped around a cup of coffee. More often than not we are reflecting on the year as we sit in traffic waiting for the light to change or something equally mundane.
On a side note, I suppose one of the things I dislike about this time of the year is the general… insistence that we return back to our normal routines as quickly as possible. There’s not always the gentle, easing back into our day-to-day responsibilities. Most of us get one day off during this time of the year and we’re expected to resume sending pointless status reports again at 9am on December 26th.
But I kind of like looking back on the year. I like looking at what I’ve done and seeing if the wishes I made a year ago came true over the last twelve months. 2023 was significant in a number of ways in both of my lives. 2024 also has the potential to be a wonderful interesting year.
No one comes to this website to hear about what HIS life, so let’s talk about our femme lives.
But not every year has to be about big Instagram-worthy accomplishments. If the only thing you did in 2023 is making it to 2024, you did an amazing thing and I’m proud of you.
Hannah’s biggest accomplishment for the year was starting the ‘Help Me, Hannah!’ videos for En Femme.
And yes, that was this year. I had to check. It feels like we shot the first episode forever ago.
I feel this was an accomplishment not because I host a video series but because this forced me to let go of a significant amount of control in terms of my appearance and my demeanor.
What I mean is that when I receive pictures from a photo shoot I carefully select the ones I like the best. To be clear, the quality of the picture is always perfect in terms of composition and lighting and all that technical and artistic stuff that Shannonlee always exceeds at. What I mean is that the model in the picture is the x factor.
I might have my head turned in a way that shows my jawline in a more masculine way than I would prefer. My shoulders might look a little squarish, or a million other things. Sometimes a picture is humbling but the saving grace is that no one else will have to see it. I don’t post pictures that I don’t care for.
But in a video I am constantly moving and turning my head and I am presenting myself as I really am. If I tilt my head up then my Adam’s apple is very prominent which is arguably a very masculine feature. My hands, which are constantly moving, draw the viewer’s attention which, like my Adam’s apple, are very much a masculine trait due to their non-feminine size.
Of course, all of this is from the perspective that one’s body parts must fit into either “masculine” or “feminine” standards, but I digress.
The videos also require quite a bit of spontaneity. I am more or less freewheeling in these things. I do have talking points written down that I refer to when I am filming but it would be awkward to hold and to read from a script. A teleprompter would be nice, lol.
When I write a post, such as this one, I can take as much time as I please to do so. This particular post has taken several days to write and edit. I can change the phrasing to make my point clearer, even after I post. Each post is carefully written (despite the many typos that sneak their way in) and I think I create some fairly well written articles.
But in videos I am stumbling over words and tossing out “ums” and “ahs” like confetti. I often will reshoot a segment if my train of thought derails. There’s a pressure I put on myself to get it right but not tax the patience of Shannonlee as she patiently films me.
It took a few videos to find my groove and to come into my own and begin to fret less about every little word and detail. I think having done this it makes for better, more sincere videos. More Hannah McKnightish, if you will, which I suppose is what En Femme wants.
And then there’s my voice!
Actually, I was very unfussed about my voice. It’s not something I am self-conscious about and I don’t really feel I have an overly masculine voice anyway. I don’t modify my voice at all but I do tend to speak a little lighter and in a more animated and expressive way.
I feel it’s an accomplishment to make peace with things in one’s life that once brought stress or negative feelings. This side of us requires willingly moving out of one’s comfort zone in soooo many aspects. Between lingerie photo shoots, going out in public, and these videos, I don’t feel I have a very prominent comfort zone anymore. Things that were once terrifying and unfathomable have become very normal and mundane.
The world at large did not make these things easier or possible. These things required me to strut out of whatever cage or zone I was in.
I’ve no idea what 2024 will bring for me but I’ll be sure to let you know as things happen, lol.
Love, Hannah