I Get By With a Little Help From My Forms

My most recent photo shoot had a couple of dresses that I had to look DEEP into my closet to find. I have been meaning to wear this particular one for years and years but for some reason or another just never followed through with it. I would plan a day out en femme and sometimes I would end up getting a NEW dress and wanted to wear that one instead or the weather wasn’t going to cooperate and I would need to wear something else.

But I suppose those were just excuses. The reason I didn’t wear it was because I didn’t feel cute in it. I found the dress on Amazon and thought it looked pretty and it fit like a dream but I just felt a little… frumpy? Like it didn’t fall right? Because of this I just didn’t feel a lot of affection towards it.

So, what changed?
My body didn’t, the dress didn’t, all I needed was to add my forms and a corset.

A dress can FIT, but it doesn’t mean it fits in the right places. Sometimes a pretty dress doesn’t compliment you.

Femme clothes are, for the most part, designed for the cis gender female body. This means a bust and hips. My body is pretty rectangular and sometimes the most gorgeous gown fits like a pillowcase.

I packed this dress into my suitcase for the shoot and honestly? I just hoped for the best. The shoot started and as the afternoon progressed the outfits I brought were worn, photographed, and then (carelessly) tossed back into my suitcase.

There was time left for one more outfit, and this dress was the last one left. I shrugged and changed.

This was the first time I had worn the dress with my breast forms and corset. My body was completely different compared to the other times I tried on the dress.

It fell where it should. The dress fit the body it was designed for. I had the body (courtesy of my corset and forms) that it was designed for.

I am not saying that you need a certain figure or $400 breast forms to look cute in a dress. This is a reminder that clothes sometimes need a little help.

Love, Hannah

High Heels and Shallow Thoughts

The internet is a wonderful, horrible tool.

On one hand I am able to buy anything from books to panties to food from my couch.

On the other hand we are connected 24/7 with everything and everyone and we are expected to be reachable all the time.

Going online is a godsend for girls like us. The magic of the internet shows us that we are not alone, that there are so many others like us. We make friends, find places to buy heels that fit, learn about the differences in wig types… the list goes on and on and on.

Getting advice from others like us is also invaluable. We have a lot of the same struggles as each other, whether it is finding the confidence to go out en femme or how to tuck. Even to this day I use the color correcting tricks that I learned so many years ago and I think of it every time I blend my foundation.

The “hive mind” is also important. I like that a girl like us can ask a question about ANYTHING, whether it is about applying false eyelashes or coming out and there are always other t-girls and crossdressers happy to help. We come together and offer our opinions, thoughts, and perspectives in a desire to guide someone like ourselves. We’ve all benefited from the experience of others.

I know I have. Not only from the color correcting technique I use each and every time, but also from advice I’ve gotten on gender identity and coming out and going out in the real world. You are all wonderful people.

Coordinating an outfit is something I usually need help with. Sometimes I am unsure of which accessories I should pair with a dress or which blouse goes best with a skirt. Seeing photos of other t-girls has been very encouraging and educational. You are all beautiful and inspiring and have fabulous taste in clothes.

So, I thought I would ask for your help.

And yes, it’s a shallow post but what the heck, it’s the weekend.

The Breast Form Store sells amazing things such as breast forms (obviously), but they also sell thigh pads, lingerie, wigs, and shoes.

Speaking of shoes, the most amazing heel was made available on their website recently and I AM IN LOVE.

I told you this was shallow.

Look at this beauty.

It’s pink! Strappy! Platforms! AND GLITTERY.

Maybe it’s due to being immersed in BOY LIFE lately but my god, I need these heels.

The problem (and yes, I know it’s not a real problem) is I have NO idea what outfit to wear this with.

This is where I need help.

What dress is perfect for this? An equally pink glittery dress? Something else?

Let me know in the comments! Posting links to the perfect dress would be really appreciated.

Love, Hannah

Review: Bali Scarlett Wig

The very, very, very first wig I ever tried on was ordered from Frederick’s of Hollywood. Are they even around anymore??

Let’s Google them.

They are! Good for them.

The wig was cheap. It was around fifty dollars and, well, what did I expect for fifty dollars? Crossdressing takes time, patience, and money. I’ve learned that I need to INVEST in my look. I didn’t learn makeup without guidance and makeup lessons. My feet are not Barbie feet. They are not permanently arched making walking in stilettos as easy as can be. Makeup, heels… demanded practice and trial and error and learning from mistakes and (literal) missteps.

The wig was a disaster. It CRUSHED me. I had expectations of slipping it on and BAM, all of a sudden Elizabeth Hurley was in my mirror. I think I wore the wig for less than a minute and it went into the trash along with the packaging it arrived in.

It was not the magical experience I was expecting. In retrospect I expected too much out of it, especially for fifty dollars.

Discovering and coming into your look is a humbling and empowering journey. This wig killed any hope I ever had of being able to look femme.

Skipping ahead a few years, my wife and I looked over different styles online and soon I clicked “purchase” on a “proper” wig. No shade at Frederick’s of Hollywood, but there is a world of difference between a fifty dollar wig and wigs that cost hundreds of dollars. Different styles matter. Different blends, whether synthetic or heat resistant or human hair (or a mixture) will all create a different look. Different looks create different experiences. Different reactions.

My wig arrived and a few nights later my wife finished my makeup and soon It Was Time. I couldn’t help but flashback to my first wig and I was prepared for the worst. At the moment I had never felt and looked more femme. My makeup was done, I was wearing a blouse and a cute skirt, and of course, four inch black patent stilettos. The wig was the final puzzle piece.

On it went. And the Cinderella transformation I had been longing for finally happened. HE was gone. SHE was the reflection. I couldn’t stop staring. My wife gave me a supportive laugh and said she would meet me in the living room and would give me a little time with Hannah.

This was the second time I realized the transformative power of a wig. Thankfully this experience was an overwhelmingly positive one.

Over the years I’ve more or less committed to a similar style and color of my wigs. My natural hair is black so my wigs are black. The color matches my eyebrows and is less of a departure than if I were to go blonde.

But as I wrote in my last wig review for The Breast Form Store, getting out of your comfort zone can almost always be a good thing.

In addition to the Camila Wig my friends at The Breast Form store sent me to review, they also asked me to review their Bali Scarlett Wig. I was more than happy to do so.

If I have two tasks to do, I tend to get the more challenging one completed first. I get anxious about a lot of things and stepping out of my comfort zone can absolutely trigger my anxiety. The Camila Wig was a dark brown color and after a decade of black wigs this would be a new experience. I have friends who change up their wig colors and styles all the time but I don’t do this as easily as they do.

I modeled the Camila Wig first as I wanted to calm any anxiety related to something new as soon as I could. And yes, I know it’s silly to be nervous about a new wig color, but often times rationale and anxiety have absolutely nothing to do with each other.

Luckily I loved the Camila Wig. It wasn’t the shocking change that I had expected. I received a lot of really nice emails and comments about it. You all are so nice. Thank you.

I changed my outfit when it was time for the Scarlett Wig. Since this wig was black I thought a darker dress would be a nice contrast to the dark brown hair/white leather dress look I chose for the first wig.

I slipped on the wig and styled it a little. I was happy by how little styling I needed do to. It was pre-styled and I loved how the hair framed my face. My head, my face is very square from most angles but the waves just tumbled down and reshaped my look into a softer, rounder, and yes, more feminine face.

Although this was a new look, it felt familiar and comfortable. The wavey locks were a departure from my normal straight hair, but the color helped my feel more like ME.

After a few headshots, it was time for a few more… spontaneous pictures. I quickly realized that this was another of those transformative wigs. The Frederick’s wig was a disaster. My first proper wig was a realization that maybe, just maybe I had potential. This wig absolutely deserves to be mentioned in the same breath as these other life-changing wigs.

And yes, I know I am being dramatic. But I bet you can relate.

I felt… flirty. I felt sexy. I felt like the prettiest girl at the party. I was feeling myself… I was feeling LIKE myself.

I mean, look how happy I am.

This wig WAS me. This wig IS me.

I think this is a very good look for me.

You can see the confidence I was feeling.

And that’s the point of a wig, I think. How it makes you FEEL.

Hair can be intimidating. It can require a whole new skill set when it comes to styling. I think that’s why I tend to wear synthetic hair since human hair wigs are harder to maintain and require more styling. This wig in particular has a pre-styled look that is flattering and (thankfully) minimizes the more masculine features my face has.

Love this wig. I love how this look makes me feel. It’s fun to strut out of your comfort zone but there’s nothing like finding a look that feels completely natural, completely authentic…. completely YOU.

Love, Hannah

Review: Wig Pro Camila Wig

My wig completes me. It is the final part of my look and even if my makeup is a disaster and my dress isn’t as cute as I would hoping it would be, if my hair is looking good then somehow everything else comes together.

Until I started to wear a wig, I always felt like a “man in a dress”. I could be wearing a pink dress, lacey lingerie, and sky high stilettos after an hour long makeover but I would still feel like a boy. My first wig was… well, it was magical. I can’t describe it any other way. It completely transformed my look and I became… HER… in a way that I never experienced before.

Over time I learned a LOT about wigs. Different styles and cuts and colors of course, but learning about the differences between synthetic wigs, hand-tied wigs, heat resistant wigs… it was a bigger world than I ever could have imagined.

Of course, I also learned about what look suited me best. For years I have only worn black wigs as it was the same color as my boy hair. Whenever I got a new wig, I would notice how my… hm, attitude would change. Some styles made me feel more beautiful, some made me feel younger, more femme.

But there were also styles that did the complete opposite, but let’s focus on the positive.

Sometimes a new style pushes you out of your comfort zone. Sometimes it’s a a dress, a wig, or a makeup style that you would never select for yourself but when you do try it, often at the encouragement from someone else and you find a new look that is… well, perfect. Not only does it LOOK good, but it also… unlocks a new level of confidence that you didn’t know you had hidden inside.

I am fortunate to do the occasional review for The Breast Form Store. Sometimes it’s lingerie, heels, lingerie, thigh pads, lingerie, or breast forms, and sometimes it’s for a wig. And sometimes it’s for TWO wigs!

After a few messages back and forth about which wigs I was going to review, I was really encouraged to try a hair color that was different than my normal black. I wasn’t completely sure but goodness the enthusiasm from the Breast Form Store was contagious. Before I knew it, I was opening a box with two beautiful wigs in it. Both beautiful, one was my usual color, but the other… well, remember it’s a GOOD thing to get out of your comfort zone a little. 🙂

The first wig I wore for my photo shoot was the Wig Pro Camila wig. Although I have been wearing wigs for around ten years, I am still learning a lot about them, especially after the MN T-Girls wig fitting event last month. This wig has a lace front and although I heart lace, I had no idea how important this is when it comes to creating an appearance of a natural hairline.

My normal wig is a straight black style, and I keep to this look mostly out of intimidation. I have a hard enough time styling a blouse/skirt combination let alone styling long hair. What drew me to this wig was that it’s pre-styled and it gives me a very natural wavy appearance.

The wig is synthetic which I like. Human hair wigs tend to be pricier and require a lot more care. I also don’t care for heat-resistant wigs as I tend to play with my hair A LOT. Synthetic wigs aren’t as easily damaged by contact with skin (whether your shoulders, head, or fingers) compared to a heat-resistant style.

I was completely won over by this look, and this color.

But goodness, please tell me what you think! This was a bold break from my normal look and I would love to hear your thoughts!

Thank you to the Breast Form Store for my new ‘do and style!

Love, Hannah

Ask Hannah!

I am the aunt of a young man trying to find his true self. I’m having a hard time finding the essentials he needs like breasts forms and bras for him. I look online and I can’t find the right size for him the right shade for him and it’s stressing me out. Is there any chance that you might be able to point me in the right direction?

I love being able to recommend the wonderful products from The Breast Form Store at any opportunity I get.  So, I would encourage you to start there.

As for bras, I get mine from En Femme and again, from The Breast Form Store such as these sexy options.

Love, Hannah

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Another Review Preview!

This is the second outfit I wore for a review I am doing for The Breast Form Store. After my first lingerie shoot I wasn’t sure I would do another, but I thought this cute set would be perfect for the review. My first lingerie shoot was filled with mixed emotions but I was happy to realize that this time all those nervous butterflies and negative thoughts were gone.

I hope you like these pictures!

Love, Hannah

Ask Hannah!

I was wondering what I could use to give me some hip shape. I know there are lots of things online to buy but is there something I could use and make them myself? 

I’m sorry, I won’t be too helpful here. I am not sure how you could make your own.  I know I say it a lot, but crossdressing takes time, money, and patience.  I feel that this side of me requires investing, whether it is time or money.  My corset, thigh pads and hip pads aren’t cheap, but they are absolutely an investment.  They give me the shape I want and the quality is A-MAZ-ING.  My pads stay on, they stay in place, they move with me.  I don’t even feel them when I wear them.  I can’t imagine there’s anything that someone could make themselves and still have even a fraction of the quality that my thigh pads have.  

But since we’re talking about it, I am much more likely to spend money on clothes than, well, accessories, if you will.  It’s much more fun to buy dresses than jewelry or foundation.  I would much rather buy a couple cute outfits, but makeup and necklaces are also essential.  A new dress might be more fun to wear than thigh pads, but no matter how the dress is designed, a dress can’t give me the figure I want, my thigh pads do that for me, and they’ll likely do that for you.

Love, Hannah

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Ask Hannah!

I am very curious about crossdressing, please let me know where I can shop.

It all depends on what you’re looking for.

Every t-girl/crossdresser is different and we all need and want different things.  Thankfully there are quite a few options out there.  When it comes to retailers that design for and market to our community, I shop online with En Femme, Xdress, Homme Mystere, Glamour Boutique, and the Breast Form Store the most.

I like Xdress and Homme Mystere for their beautiful, feminine lingerie. I like the Breast Form Store for their practical stuff, like forms, pads, and gaffsI like Glamour Boutique if I want something on the sexy side, and En Femme is a wonderful place for day to day clothes.

Love, Hannah

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