2019 Transgender Stellar Awards

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The Transgender Stellar Awards celebrates outstanding work and contributions transgender people have provided in our community within the past year.

The Transgender Stellar Awards to give families, friends, allies and community advocates an opportunity to recognize “stellar” transgender individuals who have made considerable impact in our local community in the areas of Health & Wellness; Communications; Entertainment & Culture; Innovative Services/Inventions; Community Service(s); Teamwork; Transgender Youth of the Year and Transgender Adult of the Year.

Date: Saturday, August 17, 2019

Time: 1:00 p.m. – 3:00 p.m.

Location: Minneapolis Central Library

300 Nicollet Mall, Minneapolis, Minnesota 55404

Pohlad Auditorium 2nd floor

Free food, music, and entertainment

Voting Deadline: Wednesday, July 17, 2019 at 12:00 noon

Nominate and vote here!

Love, Hannah

 

Ask Hannah!

I am looking to start a friendship with a “T-Girl”. Is it part curiosity, part something new and different or something altogether different? Yes and yes. I would have said that I would like to date but I don’t believe you go far without forming a friendship first. Is there a safe site or place to begin a dialogue and maybe more if things are right?

Having not dated in a very long time, I am the last person one should ask advice from when it comes to dating.

I will say this: transwomen are women.  Transwomen are everywhere women are.  Whether it’s the grocery store or an online dating app.  Many dating apps allow more than two choices when it comes to gender identity these days. There may be websites out there specifically for t-girls but I have no idea what they are.  I’m sure Google can help.

That being said, t-girls are very used to, and very tired of, of being seen as a fetish, or, as you say, a curiosity.  Many men (and I am not saying you specifically are doing this) who specifically seek out t-girls because they have sexualized us and are interested in getting to know us because they want to be…intimate with us.  I can only speak for myself, but I think many t-girls are highly skeptical of a guy looking to meet a t-girl for friendship.

I will agree that a relationship needs to be built on friendship first and foremost.  However, you state that your goal in seeking out a t-girl for friendship is because you want to date a t-girl comes off as a little insincere.  I get unsolicited messages from men who just “want to get to know me” but it’s clear what they want.  This is something most t-girls have to live with.

Again, I am not saying that you are like most men who seek out t-girls for “friendship”, but most of us are tired of being seen as a sexual fantasy because of who we are.

Love, Hannah

 

 

Through Therapy, Transgender Women Find Their Voice

From MPR.org

This is a wonderful article about the work that the Courage Kenny Rehabilitation Institute in St. Paul is doing.  Of course, there is no standard as to what a woman should look or sound like, but I understand how we sound can easily be associated with dysphoria.

When Alice was growing up in the Midwest, she rarely saw her grandmother, who lived on the East Coast. Usually, they’d just keep in touch over the phone.

“Every time I called her in high school, she would say, ‘Oh, your voice is getting deeper, you sound like you’re growing into such a nice man, you’re going to be like your dad,'” Alice said.

Those were painful words to hear. Alice remembers artificially raising the pitch of her voice to thwart her grandmother’s comments.

It wasn’t until years later that Alice realized she was transgender. She started to publicly transition during her senior year in college. She’s 23 now and recently graduated from a speech therapy program that helps transgender people safely adjust how they speak, so they can sound more like themselves.

“I’m at a point where for like 90 plus percent of the time, I’m happy with how I sound and how I’m perceived by other people,” Alice said. “This is something I never expected to be in a position of. And it’s really exciting.”

Vocal training for transgender people is becoming more widely available as the community becomes more visible. But it can be fraught because each individual needs to decide the mannerisms they want to adopt, some of which may be considered stereotypical or even sexist.

Continue reading here.

Love, Hannah

 

 

 

Glamorous Corset Review: Dita Corset Update!

About two weeks ago I was sent a Dita Black Satin Corset from Glamorous Corset.  I fell in love hard with it within the first few minutes of wearing it.   I learned more about wearing a corset in an hour than I thought possible.

backThe main reason is that this is a proper, authentic corset.  It has steel boning (which prevents the corset from wrinkling and allows the corset to retain its shape and therefor helps you keep YOUR shape) as well as a generous amount of spiral steel boning which are the metal rings in the back for lacing your corset.  With so many spirals I am able to customize my corset where I want it to be tighter.  On big reason that I love this corset is because of how long it is.  I can make it tighter on top without the whole corset being too restrictive.  I can tighten the middle to cinch my waist even more without it constricting my torso.

CaptureThe corset has a steel busk in the front of it which is what the hook and eye are attached to.  This is the part of the corset that needs to work the hardest.  I have had corsets in the past where the fabric tore at this part but this feels very strong.  The hooks line up perfectly and fit very securely into the eyes.  The alignment is solid.

 

Over the first week I seasoned my corset.  Seasoning is when you wear the corset for a week or so for about an hour at a time to allow it to conform to your body.  The first time I put mine on and fastened it, I expected this process to be the other way around.  I thought it would be my body getting used to the corset.  The first time wearing it I counted down the minutes until the hour was up.  It was tight, it was wonderful.  But I was getting used to it.

Over the next few days, I was able to wear the corset without the same feeling of tightness that I had the first day.  I didn’t loosen the binding at all and I could feel both my body and my corset adjusting to each other.  After a few days I didn’t really notice it all except that my posture was amazing.

Before the first week was over, I surprised myself by cinching the waist.  After the first day I couldn’t have imagined being able to wear it tighter than it was, but it was true, the corset was adjusting to me.  Of course, I was also learning how to wear it and getting used to it too, but I understood what was meant by the corset conforming to me.

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Another perk was how I walked.  I walked differently.  My hips moved a little more and I had a little more… swing than usual.  Wearing high heels forces you in a way to walk different, and a corset isn’t that much different.  But when I combined stilettos and my corset… girls, I STRUTTED.

It takes about 7-10 days for a corset to season, and although I am beyond that period of time, I still wear mine for anywhere between two to three hours at a time, something I once thought would be impossble.  I think my corset has conformed to me, but I am building myself to being able to wear it for a whole day.  My “progress”, if you will, is going better and faster than I expected.

One of the intentions of a corset is to help create a curvier figure.  This corset gives me more of an hourglass figure and a smaller waist.  When I wear my breast forms and thigh pads it’s hard to believe that this is my body.  This corset was the missing piece for a more shapely figure.

A corset can be intimidating and requires patience and dedication.  In my experience this commitment has paid off tremendously.  If you are looking for a beautiful corset that is not only sexy but versatile, consider adding this to your wardrobe.

Glamorous Corset has also provided us with a discount on all their corsets if you want to add one to your wardrobe.  At check-out, use discount code HANNAH15 for 15% off all corsets.

Thank you to Glamorous Corset for this beautiful corset.

Love, Hannah

 

 

 

 

Ask Hannah!

What is the difference between being a crossdresser and being genderfluid?

Does it involve genderfluid people feeling like their internal sense of gender shifts around, while crossdressers don’t? (Even if both kinds of people wear female clothes, want to be treated like a woman, use feminine pronouns, etc.)? Or is there something else that makes genderfluid people and crossdressers different?

This is a wonderful and very nuanced question.

Let’s jump in.

First of all, I believe that both a crossdresser and someone who considers themselves genderfluid fall under the transgender umbrella.  My definition of transgender is pretty broad and inclusive and essentially covers any sort of gender identity or presentation that goes against traditional societal gender norms.

Under that umbrella are other designations.  For example, I am transgender, and perhaps bi-gender is a more specific label, if you will, for me.  I feel I have two very structured gender identities and presentations.  I am either him or her.

I think every crossdresser in the world will have their own definition of what crossdressing is.  Some crossdressers feel that is all about clothes for them.  Some feel it’s a sexual feeling.  Some have, as you put it, a shift in gender identity when they are dressed.  I did my best to summarize what I feel crossdressing is, but again, this is my perspective and likely different than someone else’s.  No one is going to be right or wrong.

For me, crossdressing comes down to simply wearing clothes that are typically associated with another gender.  This could be any article of clothing that is genderized, whether it is a tie or nail polish or suspenders or an evening gown.  You typically do not see a lot of women wearing tuxedos or a lot of men wearing pencil skirts.  I mean, they look amazing in them, but it’s not something you tend to see at the office or in the mall.

So, what is genderfluid?  Like so many terms and words in our world, there will likely never be a definition that fits everyone.  I can only speak for myself, but I would define a person who is genderfluid as someone who does not feel they have a fixed gender.  Their gender identity does not shift from day to day, or is influenced by what they wear. They may also use pronouns such as ‘they’ and ‘them’ as opposed to ‘him’ and ‘her’.

This is a little different from someone who is bi-gender.  As someone who is bi-gender, I present and identity as either boy or girl, but someone who is genderfluid typically does not identity as any gender, ever.  My gender presentation may go back and forth throughout the day, but it’s either one or the other.

I hope that makes sense!  Let me know in the comments if I am completely wrong. 🙂

Love, Hannah

 

Pride 2019!

It’s Pride weekend in the Twin Cities and the biggest event is the Pride Festival featuring everything from live music to food trucks to performers to vendors.

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The MN T-Girls were at the Pride Festival on Saturday and we had a wonderful day meeting new friends and catching up with old ones.

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It was a day filled with talking about everything from social issues to gender identity to shoe shopping.  We listened to others talk about their journey.  We listened to parents and partners talk about their loved ones  We talked about support and resources.  We talked about our group and our mission.

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Coming to Pride is a wonderful experience.  We are lucky to be in a city filled with so many amazing people.  We are honored that so many people shared so much of their story with us.

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I was also interviewed for today’s edition of the Star Tribune, but only one quote made it into the paper.  The quote was in response to the question about what it was like to be openly transgender today compared to a few years ago:

“There’s more representation, but I also think it’s a scarier place than it was a few years ago,” said Hannah McKnight, 43, of St. Paul, founder of MN T-Girls, a group for transgender women. “All the laws in the world” can’t necessarily protect people from transphobia and violence, she said.

Thank you to the MN T-Girls who helped run our booth.  I want to thank everyone who came to see us.  Unfortunately we had to leave Pride a little earlier than we had planned so if we missed you, I am truly sorry.  Due to a work commitment we will not be there on Sunday.  I hope you had an amazing time at Pride and hope to see you next year.

Love, Hannah