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Hannah’s Secret Fantasy

by Hannah

I am fairly well organized (but please don’t look in my closet as it is a MESS). I kind of have to be. I have a zillion folders on my laptop and I usually know where a certain photo or email or whatever is. This is true whether it is work-related, a legal document, or Hannah’s life.

In my work life as well as in Hannah’s world, I have folders labeled “various” which are more or less a graveyard for things that don’t really fall into any category but I know I need to keep for whatever reason. I rarely reopen these folders but when I do I find pictures or other things I had completely forgotten about.

Case in point, two weekends ago.

Unless this is your first time visiting my website, you probably know I heart lingerie. My infatuation ranges from simple pink cotton panties with a matching camisole to elaborate corsets. I suspect many of you share this adoration.

One of the more lively discussions our community has is “boy panties” vs “girl panties”. What I mean is a cute panty but designed for a specific anatomy. For example, “girl panties” are found at Victoria’s Secret, “boy panties” are found at Xdress or other designers.

For the purpose of this little discussion, I am gently setting tucking panties/gaffs aside.

Girl panties are not designed with room for a penis or testicles, but boy panties are. Boy panties tend to have a wider gusset or larger leg holes.

I have a lot of panties. Like, a LOT. Some fit better than others, regardless of the genitalia they were designed for. Some panties looooked so cute at the shop or online but goodness they simply don’t fit.

I like certain panties for different reasons but they simply need to fit. I hate falling out of a panty or wearing one that is soooo, ah, roomy, that I may as well be wearing boxers.

Some of us hate boy panties because, well, they kind of miss the point. And I get that. However, I appreciate a cute pair of panties that are designed with a little more fabric to keep everything where it belongs.

One thing I do hate about boy panties is the extra room in the pouch. I appreciate the wider gusset but I like my panties to smooooooth out the front. A bulge is going to be there, which is fine, but I don’t want so much room that everything just… hangs there. There’s a difference between a subtle bulge and, well, LOOK AT MY PENIS.

This is what I mean:

Super cute but it’s almost like a jock strap.

These panties, from En Femme, are the perfect “boy panty”, if you will.

Cute, satin-y, and lace! And they smoooooth out everything. Love these panties.

When I feel the itch to add to my panty drawer(s), I sometimes feel the choice comes down to price. For around $30 I can get five panties from Victoria’s Secret or, well, one “boy panty”. I love having a lot of panties and I have gotten quite good at determining which “girl panties” will fit but sometimes I’m wrong.

I totally understand why Xdress and other designers have the prices they do. It’s hard to be competitive at a price point when you are a small business catering to a niche demographic compared to a giant corporation with a brand that is known around the world. I happily wear panties from Glamour Boutique, Moot, The Breast Form Store, Xdress, HommeMystere, and En Femme.

Anyway, back to that ‘various folder’.

As someone who wears panties all the time and as someone who thinks about panties all the time, it’s not surprising that I’ve fantasized about the perfect panty. Essentially this would be a girl panty with a slightly wider gusset. That’s it. No extra room in the front, just a little more fabric between the legs to keep everything in place.

As I mentioned earlier I love a cute matching panty/cami set. If I was going to design a panty I would obviously need a cami to go with it. I like camis because I can sleep in them and I can wear them under boy clothes without the risk that a bra has.

I make no attempt to hide that I am transgender. I celebrate it, I acknowledge it. As I daydreamed about designing lingerie I was inspired by some of my panties that have words on them. “GIRL POWER” or “LOVE” stamped on the back. I thought it would be fun to have expressions that mean something to girls like us on them. “PINK FOG” or “GIRL MODE”, for example. This terms don’t mean anything to most people but we all know what these phrases mean.

Over the years I got to know the lovely people at HommeMystere and was sad to learn that they have called it a day. A few years ago we talked briefly (lol, briefly) about working together and I proposed an idea about a small lingerie line that featured everyday cotton or satin panties with phrases that mean something to us. Something fun and playful and cute.

The idea never really went anywhere but I used some of the images on their website and edited them a bit to illustrate what I was thinking. These are the files that I rediscovered in one of the ‘various’ folders that are sprinkled across my laptop.

I still love this idea and I would still love to see it become a reality. So, if anyone out there is looking to partner with me, drop me a line, lol. 😉

Love, Hannah

It’s Friday, I’m in Love (with Lingerie)

by Hannah

Every once in a while I scroll through my website and I am often struck by the seemingly randomness of what I write about (as well as the missed typo). Some posts focus on legislation, some are reflections on living the bi-gender life, some discuss marriage and relationships. There are also product reviews and recaps of days I spend en femme or the activities the MN T-Girls have.

At my very core and in my heart of hearts, I am someone who is in love with clothes and how they make me feel. Yes, this is a little superficial and hollow but I think a lot of you understand and can relate. Many of us are drawn to… something and it makes us so happy.

And there’s nothing wrong with something that makes you feel happy, as long it doesn’t cause any harm to yourself or others.

I love lingerie. I always have. I’ve been fascinated and enamored by it for my entire life. And the more elaborate the better. Waist cinchers, seamed stockings, a bustier, corsets, garter belt… the list goes on.

I love the opposite worlds, so to speak, of wearing a suit (if I have to wear a suit) but underneath the tie and dress shirt I’m wearing an elaborate lace bra with matching panty and black stockings. I love the tug of the garter belt when I move.

It’s not uncommon for me to go through periods of time where I become, well, obsessed is a little… unhinged, but you know what I mean, with certain types of clothes, specifically lingerie. I shop for panties or nightgowns or anything else that is beautiful.

Lately I am all about camisoles and matching panties, especially the ones that Xdress offers. It’s a wonderful feeling to wear incredibly intricate lingerie under a shirt and tie, but there’s just as much magic to wear something as comfortable as a cami and panty under casual clothes while working from home.

This morning I chose Xdress’ Ashley camisole and matching thong.

This isn’t a review or a plug for Xdress or anything along those lines. No, this is just a little expression of how clothes make me happy. I love that I can write something that others like myself can connect with. I love sharing resources for support or places for girls like us can get a makeover or buy heels.

And! I love that I can just be a little shallow and write about how much I love lingerie or anything else in my closet. People like myself (and yourself, I imagine) often don’t have a lot of opportunities to just… share their excitement and love of clothes with others. For the most part we may keep this side of us secret and assume (often correctly) that most people don’t understand or really, even care.

Anyway, that’s my totally superficial and completely unnecessary glimpse into my mind and lingerie drawer for the day.

But tell… am I alone in this? Is there something you are absolutely in love with?

Love, Hannah

Ask Hannah!

by Hannah

I love to have my husband wear “girly” panties, and I’m super tempted by the adorable styles at XDress! I’m curious as to what your experience is with their sizing. I would love to purchase a few, but their prices are a bit steep, and although they say they’ll take exchanges I’d hate for them not to fit my guy. We’ve had varying experiences with other brands as far as the accuracy of the size charts. Any advice you could offer would be appreciated.

I heart Xdress and they absolutely have adorable panties. Based on my experiences with them, I do find that their size charts for panties, bras, bodysuits, and camis run true to size, but their dresses run a teeny bit small.

Panties from designers like Xdress cost a little more than panties from Victoria’s Secret but that’s not a surprise when you compare a relatively small, independent business like Xdress compared to a giant corporation. Designers like Xdress are also a specialty business that cater to a niche (but sexy) consumer base. Panties for people with the body that I have and (presumably) your husband has take different things into consideration. More room in the gusset and in the front, and wider leg holes.

If you are looking for other options, you may want to check out Homme Mystere. They also have super cute panties (that are also true to size) and run about $15 to $22. However, being based in Australia means it takes forevvvvvver for the post office to deliver but they are always worth the wait.

Waist cincher from Xdress, bra, panty, garter belt from Homme Mystere

Love, Hannah

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Ask Hannah!

by Hannah

I am very curious about crossdressing, please let me know where I can shop.

It all depends on what you’re looking for.

Every t-girl/crossdresser is different and we all need and want different things.  Thankfully there are quite a few options out there.  When it comes to retailers that design for and market to our community, I shop online with En Femme, Xdress, Homme Mystere, Glamour Boutique, and the Breast Form Store the most.

I like Xdress and Homme Mystere for their beautiful, feminine lingerie. I like the Breast Form Store for their practical stuff, like forms, pads, and gaffs.  I like Glamour Boutique if I want something on the sexy side, and En Femme is a wonderful place for day to day clothes.

Love, Hannah

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Ask Hannah!

by Hannah

–What sort of bra do you recommend and how do you know what size to buy?


-Do you have actual breasts or do you use/wear forms? Just starting to explore and very confused about forms. What is the correct or proper shape to look for, teardrop, oval, triangle, round ? I have yet to find 2 articles supporting the same shape so I’m confused. The one thing I have found that seems to be standard is that silicone has the best feel, movement, bounce, fiber fill & foam don’t so now if I can understand the shape to look for or go with I have a starting point.  


Both of these questions bounced into my email within a day of each other and since they are similar I thought I’d tackle them in one post.


I have a LOT of bras.  I have bras that I wear en femme, and I have bras that I wear for underdressing.  Basically the bras that I wear under my boy clothes are ones without any sort of padding, shape, or push-uppiness.  That’s not a word but you know what I mean. Most of these bras come from Xdress and Homme Mystere.


The bras I wear en femme are more varied and more… uh, practical.  I have bras that are strapless, I have bras with an embroidered pattern, push up bras, and bras of many colors.


A girl needs a white or beige bra because some outfits and blouses are a LITTLE see through and a black or darker color will show through some tops.  I mean, if that’s the look you’re going for, then have at it.  


Strapless bras are for strapless dresses, or dresses and tops where the shoulders are see-through or mesh, for example.  


I don’t wear bras with a texture to the cup if I am wearing a tight blouse as the texture can show through.


See?  Lingerie can be practical.  


As for sizing, if you’re not comfortable meeting with a bra fitter, you can take your own measurements.  I wear a 34B bra.  The number refers to my chest measurement/band size, the letter refers to cup size.  A rule of thumb is your band size is your chest measurement and then add four (round up if needed).


Third Love has an EXCELLENT guide for determining your bra size and I would encourage you to take a look as they know more about this then I ever will.

I don’t have breasts but I wear forms.  They are not the best quality but they do the job.  They are silicone….ish.  Not as high quality as my thigh and hip pads from The Breast Form Store and I would agree with what you are reading in that silicone feels better than anything else.  My forms have a somewhat similar feel to my silicone pads but I don’t feel my forms are a part of me the same way my thigh pads do.


Shape comes down to personal preference, I think.  Breasts come in all shapes and sizes so I don’t think there is such a thing as the correct shape.  I would spend some time looking at The Breast Form Store‘s website and chatting with one of their fitters (Hi Eden!) for some guidance in finding forms that you feel are the right ones.

Love, Hannah

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Ask Hannah!

by Hannah

I am in the process of opening up an online store for crossdressers. What products would you recommend me to sell?  What do crossdressers need the most?

Congratulations on taking this step!  If there’s one thing I love, it’s more options when it comes to shopping.

Years ago the idea of a store specializing in clothes for girls like us was inconceivable but I am amazed at how many options are available these days.  Even though there’s quite a few options, each one is different from each other and can all happily coexist.

Every t-girl/crossdresser is different and we all need and want different things.  Thankfully there are quite a few options out there.  When it comes to retailers that design for and market to our community, I shop online with En Femme, Xdress, Homme Mystere, Glamour Boutique, and the Breast Form Store the most.

I like Xdress and Homme Mystere for their beautiful, feminine lingerie. I like the Breast Form Store for their practical stuff, like forms, pads, and gaffs.  I like Glamour Boutique if I want something on the sexy side, and En Femme is a wonderful place for day to day clothes.

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Dress from En Femme

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Dress from Glamour Boutique

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Thigh pads from the Breast Form Store

What you want to be known for?  What are you most passionate about?  There are a lot of options out there, but I always love finding a new place to buy heels and lingerie 🙂

I am not sure if this helps but I did write a little about what I think are “must-haves” for a girl like us.  Of course, we all have different perspectives on what we think are essentials.

What do you girls think are essentials?  What should a new store sell?  Please comment below!

Love, Hannah

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Overthinking in Lingerie

by Hannah

xI don’t think it’s uncommon for us to modify how we identify throughout our lives.  As soon as I heard the word, I privately considered myself a crossdresser.  About ten years ago, I knew this was more than just finding joy and comfort in clothes that are typically associated with the gender different than the one I was assigned to at birth and I felt that identifying as transgender was a better fit.

If I wanted to put a finer point on myself, bi-gender is probably the best word for me, as I am happy and comfortable and secure presenting and living as either a boy or a girl. However, since transgender covers a lot of territory, I primarily stick with that.

Whether I am a crossdresser or transgender, I would never be so bold to claim to be brilliant, but I can have brilliant thoughts.  I’ve been a bit of a shopping spree lately and yesterday I received a super cute cami and panty set from Xdress.  Yesterday was a long day and it was a late night, so falling asleep in cute lingerie was the perfect way to end the day.

If you’re not familiar with Xdress, they make lingerie for men.  The models on their website are men wearing their beautiful bras and panties.  From what I gather, their target market is men who love to wear cute, feminine undies.  Their models are very male, no makeup or wigs, they are not presenting as a girl.  This lingerie is different than En Femme and their new Carmen Liu line of lingerie.  This lingerie is beautiful but also practical as it is designed to hold breast forms and to tuck our feminine flaw.

As I woke up this morning, I realized that my lingerie wardrobe is divided between bras and panties that I wear en femme and bras and panties that I wear in male mode.  Although this new set from Xdress is beautiful, it’s not something Hannah would wear.  When I am dressed, I have different needs from my lingerie.  I need my gaff from the Breast Form Store, for example.

In male mode I do wear lingerie “for girls” and lingerie from Xdress and Homme Mystere.  I underdress each day and my panties are either panties “for boys” or panties “for girls”.  I am always wearing something.

My revelation this morning was that we can shift our gender identity throughout our lives, but we can also shift our gender identity throughout the day.  I decided that when I am in male mode, I could be considered a crossdresser.  But Hannah is not a crossdresser, she is transgender.  I could wake up in cute lingerie like I did this morning, wear a matching bra and panty under my boy clothes, and I would be crossdressing all day.  But as the day progresses and I am preparing to go out, my gender identity shifts to being transgender.

I suppose that labeling ourselves is rather pointless and I doubt anyone else thinks about this as much as I do, especially before they have had their coffee, but this was going through my mind as I lay in bed.  Never let it be said that I don’t overthink.

At any rate, I am now awake, having my coffee, and sharing these perhaps not as brilliant thoughts I had imagined they were with you.

Love, Hannah

 

 

 

Beautiful Nights

by Hannah

Many of us are missing the days when we could go out en femme.  Due to the virus I’ve been stuck at home and I am looking forward to the day when I can schedule a makeover and hit the mall.  Or even the gas station.

It’s important that we stay in touch with this side of ourselves.  When we are not able to dress fully, I find that underdressing is a wonderful and intimate way to be beautiful. Yes, I can dress at home, but it’s not the same.

The lockdown is giving me a lot of time to shop online.  Purchasing heels and cute dresses is giving me something to look forward to once it is safe for us to go back out.  It’s also a way we can continue to support businesses that support our community as the virus is having an economic impact on almost every company.

Since underdressing is a way to stay in touch with my femme side, I have been buying a lot of lingerie lately.  I wanted to share what I have ordered this week in case you are looking for some new lingerie to wear.

I am in love with the new picnic camisole and panty from Xdress!

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I usually wear short nightgowns to bed, but I am so excited to wear this gorgeous satin nightgown from The Breast Form Store!

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How beautiful is this Yumi tank, and matching Yumi panty from HommeMystere.?

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And finally I added new panties from En Femme including High Sheen Satin Floral Panty and Satin Floral Hot Panty.

 

I miss the days when we could be beautiful, but at least I have beautiful nights to look forward to.

What’s catching your eye these days?

Love, Hannah

 

Ask Hannah!

by Hannah

Have you ever thought about modeling as a bride for one of your photo shoots?  I know you’ve modeled before, so I was just curious.

I would love to do a photo shoot as a bride or a bridesmaid!  I’ve done quite a few shoots over the past few years both solo and with the MN T-Girls, and I am lucky to work with Shannonlee, an amazing photographer and the shoots are always better when Corrie does my makeup.

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I also had the honor to work with Christie Williams of Grinkie Girls in March of 2018.

A few years ago I did modeling for Glamour Boutique and it was so much fun.

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I would love to do more modeling, period.  Last year I did some writing for Xdress and I was confused and disappointed when all of a sudden our partnership stopped.  I thought it would be fun to model for them and I did a shoot modeling one of their dresses.  I thought if Shannonlee and I put together a small portfolio it might entice them for modeling work but as the partnership dissipated without knowing why, my enthusiasm for the project died with it.

But here are a couple pictures from that day:

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But back to your question.  Yes, I would love to a do a bridal shoot!  I am becoming more drawn to “theme” shoots where I model one or two dresses in a really beautiful location.  The problem with a bridal shoot is that the dresses tend to be expensive and I can’t bring myself to spending that much money on one.  Ideally I would love to do a series of photos with me shopping for a dress and trying different ones on.  I would follow it up with perhaps a series of getting a makeover and then a shoot with the dress itself.

So, unless someone wants to buy me a gown, I am not sure that will happen anytime soon, but a t-girl can dream.  🙂

Love, Hannah

 

 

 

Ask Hannah!

by Hannah

Who carries the men’s blue lace shorts lingerie. Wish I could attach photo but they are a bit short and not as loose in the legs as the one on Xdress website, the black ones.

I really have no idea.  I am sure there are many blue lace shorts so I’m sorry that I can’t be more helpful.

If you think about it, this is really an amazing time for those who are non-gender conforming , crossdressers and anyone that loves to wear pretty undies.  You can shop for a variety of options at Xdress, Bodyaware, HommeMystere, Glamour Boutique and whatever else you find by googling “lingerie for men”.

I can’t speak for everyone, but lingerie was definitely my gateway to this wonderful world and ultimately to who I am today.

Love, Hannah