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Thank you for your blog. It helps people like me, who often feels alone, because I have what I call dual identity and I find it not always easy to find the right balance in my life.
The reason I am righting to you is that I was wondering if you could give me some advice. It is related to wigs.

I think your wig(s) suit you quite well, and I was wondering how you found it. I live in Canada, and it is very rare to find a wig store, and my experience with a few of them them have been disappointing. I have quite a big head and all the wigs I saw in the stores that I went to ere either too small or unflattering.

So, I tried buying wigs online and this also have been disappointing, because you only know when you receive them if they suit you or not. I must have bought over a dozen, and only two of them were partly ok. They fit me, and did not look too bad on me, but I am only half happy when I wear them. And they are starting to get worn out.
So I was wondering if you tried your wigs in a store or online.

Do you have any tips on how to find a good one?
I hope my questions are clear.
Thank you for your work and your smile.

Thank you for your kind words! I bought my current wig at Creative Hair Design. I wasn’t tooooo sure about it when I first tried it on but the more I wear it the more I like it.

I have had a lot of wigs over the years and I have purchased most of them online, specifically from Wigs Us.

Finding the right wig is a lot of trial and error. Wigs can be made of different fabrics. Heat-resistant tend to be the most affordable but are a bitch to take care of and tend to wear out sooner. Human hair (that sounds so creepy) are expensive and require a lot of care but in the long run tend to be a very good investment.

Many wigs are adjustable so there is that.

Buying wigs online opens up a lot of options buuuut if you select one that is not the right look for you then you’re kind of stuck with it as you usually can’t return it. If you have the option to visit a wig salon then do it. I’ve shopped for wigs in person many times and yes, every experience has been positive. Businesses will vary and people will react differently to a girl like us but I’ve never EVER had a “non crossdresser friendly” experience at a wig shop.

If there are not a lot of options for wig shops in your area, well, it might be time to take a trip to a larger city with more options. Is this expensive? Yes. Finding our look, a look we are happy with, a look that is truly US is an investment. This side of us takes time, patience, and money.

Love, Hannah

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I’m in the Twin Cities and rocking a new wig… I want to make sure it’s well maintained, so I wanted to ask if you know of any trans friendly wig services (specifically for washing) in the area.

I can’t say enough good things about Creative Hair Design! The MN T-Girls visited there a few months ago and it’s where I bought my current ‘do.

They have two locations. One is appointment only, the other accepts walk-ins.

Have fun!

Love, Hannah

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Review: Bali Scarlett Wig

The very, very, very first wig I ever tried on was ordered from Frederick’s of Hollywood. Are they even around anymore??

Let’s Google them.

They are! Good for them.

The wig was cheap. It was around fifty dollars and, well, what did I expect for fifty dollars? Crossdressing takes time, patience, and money. I’ve learned that I need to INVEST in my look. I didn’t learn makeup without guidance and makeup lessons. My feet are not Barbie feet. They are not permanently arched making walking in stilettos as easy as can be. Makeup, heels… demanded practice and trial and error and learning from mistakes and (literal) missteps.

The wig was a disaster. It CRUSHED me. I had expectations of slipping it on and BAM, all of a sudden Elizabeth Hurley was in my mirror. I think I wore the wig for less than a minute and it went into the trash along with the packaging it arrived in.

It was not the magical experience I was expecting. In retrospect I expected too much out of it, especially for fifty dollars.

Discovering and coming into your look is a humbling and empowering journey. This wig killed any hope I ever had of being able to look femme.

Skipping ahead a few years, my wife and I looked over different styles online and soon I clicked “purchase” on a “proper” wig. No shade at Frederick’s of Hollywood, but there is a world of difference between a fifty dollar wig and wigs that cost hundreds of dollars. Different styles matter. Different blends, whether synthetic or heat resistant or human hair (or a mixture) will all create a different look. Different looks create different experiences. Different reactions.

My wig arrived and a few nights later my wife finished my makeup and soon It Was Time. I couldn’t help but flashback to my first wig and I was prepared for the worst. At the moment I had never felt and looked more femme. My makeup was done, I was wearing a blouse and a cute skirt, and of course, four inch black patent stilettos. The wig was the final puzzle piece.

On it went. And the Cinderella transformation I had been longing for finally happened. HE was gone. SHE was the reflection. I couldn’t stop staring. My wife gave me a supportive laugh and said she would meet me in the living room and would give me a little time with Hannah.

This was the second time I realized the transformative power of a wig. Thankfully this experience was an overwhelmingly positive one.

Over the years I’ve more or less committed to a similar style and color of my wigs. My natural hair is black so my wigs are black. The color matches my eyebrows and is less of a departure than if I were to go blonde.

But as I wrote in my last wig review for The Breast Form Store, getting out of your comfort zone can almost always be a good thing.

In addition to the Camila Wig my friends at The Breast Form store sent me to review, they also asked me to review their Bali Scarlett Wig. I was more than happy to do so.

If I have two tasks to do, I tend to get the more challenging one completed first. I get anxious about a lot of things and stepping out of my comfort zone can absolutely trigger my anxiety. The Camila Wig was a dark brown color and after a decade of black wigs this would be a new experience. I have friends who change up their wig colors and styles all the time but I don’t do this as easily as they do.

I modeled the Camila Wig first as I wanted to calm any anxiety related to something new as soon as I could. And yes, I know it’s silly to be nervous about a new wig color, but often times rationale and anxiety have absolutely nothing to do with each other.

Luckily I loved the Camila Wig. It wasn’t the shocking change that I had expected. I received a lot of really nice emails and comments about it. You all are so nice. Thank you.

I changed my outfit when it was time for the Scarlett Wig. Since this wig was black I thought a darker dress would be a nice contrast to the dark brown hair/white leather dress look I chose for the first wig.

I slipped on the wig and styled it a little. I was happy by how little styling I needed do to. It was pre-styled and I loved how the hair framed my face. My head, my face is very square from most angles but the waves just tumbled down and reshaped my look into a softer, rounder, and yes, more feminine face.

Although this was a new look, it felt familiar and comfortable. The wavey locks were a departure from my normal straight hair, but the color helped my feel more like ME.

After a few headshots, it was time for a few more… spontaneous pictures. I quickly realized that this was another of those transformative wigs. The Frederick’s wig was a disaster. My first proper wig was a realization that maybe, just maybe I had potential. This wig absolutely deserves to be mentioned in the same breath as these other life-changing wigs.

And yes, I know I am being dramatic. But I bet you can relate.

I felt… flirty. I felt sexy. I felt like the prettiest girl at the party. I was feeling myself… I was feeling LIKE myself.

I mean, look how happy I am.

This wig WAS me. This wig IS me.

I think this is a very good look for me.

You can see the confidence I was feeling.

And that’s the point of a wig, I think. How it makes you FEEL.

Hair can be intimidating. It can require a whole new skill set when it comes to styling. I think that’s why I tend to wear synthetic hair since human hair wigs are harder to maintain and require more styling. This wig in particular has a pre-styled look that is flattering and (thankfully) minimizes the more masculine features my face has.

Love this wig. I love how this look makes me feel. It’s fun to strut out of your comfort zone but there’s nothing like finding a look that feels completely natural, completely authentic…. completely YOU.

Love, Hannah

Review: Wig Pro Camila Wig

My wig completes me. It is the final part of my look and even if my makeup is a disaster and my dress isn’t as cute as I would hoping it would be, if my hair is looking good then somehow everything else comes together.

Until I started to wear a wig, I always felt like a “man in a dress”. I could be wearing a pink dress, lacey lingerie, and sky high stilettos after an hour long makeover but I would still feel like a boy. My first wig was… well, it was magical. I can’t describe it any other way. It completely transformed my look and I became… HER… in a way that I never experienced before.

Over time I learned a LOT about wigs. Different styles and cuts and colors of course, but learning about the differences between synthetic wigs, hand-tied wigs, heat resistant wigs… it was a bigger world than I ever could have imagined.

Of course, I also learned about what look suited me best. For years I have only worn black wigs as it was the same color as my boy hair. Whenever I got a new wig, I would notice how my… hm, attitude would change. Some styles made me feel more beautiful, some made me feel younger, more femme.

But there were also styles that did the complete opposite, but let’s focus on the positive.

Sometimes a new style pushes you out of your comfort zone. Sometimes it’s a a dress, a wig, or a makeup style that you would never select for yourself but when you do try it, often at the encouragement from someone else and you find a new look that is… well, perfect. Not only does it LOOK good, but it also… unlocks a new level of confidence that you didn’t know you had hidden inside.

I am fortunate to do the occasional review for The Breast Form Store. Sometimes it’s lingerie, heels, lingerie, thigh pads, lingerie, or breast forms, and sometimes it’s for a wig. And sometimes it’s for TWO wigs!

After a few messages back and forth about which wigs I was going to review, I was really encouraged to try a hair color that was different than my normal black. I wasn’t completely sure but goodness the enthusiasm from the Breast Form Store was contagious. Before I knew it, I was opening a box with two beautiful wigs in it. Both beautiful, one was my usual color, but the other… well, remember it’s a GOOD thing to get out of your comfort zone a little. 🙂

The first wig I wore for my photo shoot was the Wig Pro Camila wig. Although I have been wearing wigs for around ten years, I am still learning a lot about them, especially after the MN T-Girls wig fitting event last month. This wig has a lace front and although I heart lace, I had no idea how important this is when it comes to creating an appearance of a natural hairline.

My normal wig is a straight black style, and I keep to this look mostly out of intimidation. I have a hard enough time styling a blouse/skirt combination let alone styling long hair. What drew me to this wig was that it’s pre-styled and it gives me a very natural wavy appearance.

The wig is synthetic which I like. Human hair wigs tend to be pricier and require a lot more care. I also don’t care for heat-resistant wigs as I tend to play with my hair A LOT. Synthetic wigs aren’t as easily damaged by contact with skin (whether your shoulders, head, or fingers) compared to a heat-resistant style.

I was completely won over by this look, and this color.

But goodness, please tell me what you think! This was a bold break from my normal look and I would love to hear your thoughts!

Thank you to the Breast Form Store for my new ‘do and style!

Love, Hannah

Cute and Creative!

Yesterday the MN T-Girls had our monthly event and it was so much fun! We spent the afternoon at Creative Hair Design in Roseville, Minnesota. Creative Hair Design sells wigs, toppers, hair pieces, and hair extensions. The timing was perfect as I am waaaay overdue for a new ‘do.

We were treated to a private shopping event where we all had the opportunity to try on new wigs and pick out a new look. Before the shopping got started we learned a lot about different types of wigs, whether they are heat defiant, lace front, or hand tied. I was surprised at how much I didn’t know about wigs. Their website has a nice comparison between the different types if you’re curious.

After trying on a few different wigs I ordered a new style and I am excited for my new look.

Thank you to Creative Hair Design for a fun afternoon!

Love, Hannah

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Hi Hannah, I was wondering if you know of any transgender friendly hair salons that do wig styling in the Minneapolis/Saint Paul area?

Hi! There are several places I would look into. All three of these businesses sell wigs.

Creative Hair Design
Merle Norman

Rita Ambourn

Anyone in the Twin Cities know of anywhere else?

Love, Hannah

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My problem is that the caps in wigs aren’t deep enough for men, they don’t stay on. I need to find a way to keep a wig on to the point that if I had my hair pulled it would really be hard for it to be taken off or fall. 

Like almost everything else we want to wear, wigs come in different sizes.  Before shopping for a wig, measure your crown (basically the top of your head) so you know what size you are.  Some wigs are adjustable, most have an elastic band so there is a little stretch.  Wigs can be pricey (remember, crossdressing takes time, patience, and money) so it’s important that you do your research before you buy.  Reading descriptions and online reviews (if possible) are pretty helpful.  

There are ways to secure your wig including clips and even glue.  Depending on what method you use it may not withstand getting pulled hard, of course.  I have found online tutorials and YouTube videos on drag to be especially helpful when it comes to wearing wigs.  As most drag queens perform it’s pretty essential that their fabulous hair stays in place so some of the tricks they use are very helpful for everyday wear.

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Love, Hannah

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My hair is thinning on top and back. I’m trying to decide if a wig topper would blend in with my shoulder length blonde hair.  Will it be more comfortable in the hot summer?  With a large head, wig selections is limited, so who will be helpful to match color without buying things like test color kits?

A wig topper is designed to conceal hair loss at various stages and different areas of the scalp.  Some toppers offer more coverage on the top, while others cover the sides or back of the head. A topper is also ideal for adding volume to thin or fine hair.

Personally I do not find that wearing a wig in the summer is uncomfortably hot.  The wigs I wear are a human hair/synthetic blend, so perhaps that has something to do with it.  But if wearing a wig feels uncomfortable in the heat, I would imagine a wig topper would be more comfortable.

A wig topper might be a perfect option for you and will probably be a little trickier than purchasing a full wig, especially if you want it to match your hair color and your hair style (curly, straight, wavy, etc).  Depending on your level of comfort, it would probably be easiest if you visited a wig store yourself and seeing what the options are and what they recommend.

If you are not comfortable doing this, then I am afraid your only options will be trial and error (which could be expensive) or purchasing a test color kit.  Rest assured that wig stores are very much accustomed to girls like us.  You aren’t the first, the only, or the last member of our community to ask for help.

The reality is that building your wardrobe, discovering your look, learning makeup, finding heels that we can walk in, takes money, time, patience, and tenacity.  There’s value in investing in ourselves, whether it is putting in the time to learn a new language or spending money to find the wig that suits us best.

Love, Hannah

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I would like to ask you a question about wigs, specifically correct sizing.  I have owned several cheap wigs in the past and recently purchased a couple of good quality wigs. In purchasing them I think I have them sized correctly, they feel good and stay in place, my issue is if I wear a wig for any length of time, a couple of hours or more, they leave a mark on my forehead. Is this common? Have I once again listened to the website’s instructions and purchased a wig too small?

I look at size charts on websites as merely are as a suggestion.  I can take my measurements and order a dress size that lines up with the chart and still get a dress that is not the right size.  It can be frustrating, especially when you order something that can’t be returned, like lingerie, heels, or a wig.  If you are ordering from a website that has reviews from people who have purchased the same item, read them and see if others comment on whether or not the item runs large or small.

You can wear something that fits perfectly but still leaves impressions on your skin.  I had a bra fitting and I only purchase bras that are my correct size, but they still leave a mark.  Same with stockings or tights or clip-on earrings.

When it comes to wigs, and almost everything we wear, it comes down to whether or not it stays in place.  If your wig is too small, it will slowly creep up and not be secure on your head.  If it is too big, it will move around.  It sounds like your hair fits well, feels good, and stays in place.  The impressions on your skin might just be something that comes with the territory.  Sacrifice over comfort, if you will.

If you want to avoid impressions on your forehead, I would recommend buying a size larger than what you may need, and using other methods to secure it.  You may want to consider wearing a wig cap which would prevent your wig from moving around. They are available in both a mesh and a nylon style. Other girls use special wig tape, bobby pins, or hair clips to keep their hair in place.  Many wigs also are adjustable and you can modify the size of it to fit your head.

Love, Hannah

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Recently I have been having trouble keeping my wig on. It seams to ride up the back of my head after an hour or two wearing it. Any suggestions?

You may want to consider wearing a wig cap which would prevent your wig from moving around.  They are available in both a mesh and a nylon style.  Other girls use special wig tape, bobby pins, or hair clips to keep their hair in place.

However, selecting a wig that is the right size is also important.  If the band isn’t large enough, or stretchy enough, your wig will simply not fit right.

I hope this helps!

Love, Hannah