I love PVC, vinyl, latex, and leather clothes. They are very much my weakness and when I see a shiny dress it will very likely find it’s way into my closet and into my suitcase when I choose outfits for a photo shoot.
When I saw this dress from En Femme I knew it was inevitable it would be mine. It would be silly to pretend otherwise. It fit perfectly and it has pockets for my forms which would circumvent a need to wear a bra. Some outfits are cut in a way where a bra isn’t always going to work and I need a bra to keep the girls in place.
And yes, I know there are adhesives to help with keeping things where they belong but when I have a photo shoot I sometimes go back and forth between outfits where I wear my forms and outfits when I don’t. It’s easier to just pop them into my bra as needed.
I was a little… reluctant to use the pockets for my forms. It sounds silly but it was strange for me to wear forms but not have them against my skin. Do you know what I mean? I slowly got over that with En Femme’s designs, starting with one of the bathing suits I reviewed for them.
I have a lot of clothes and I have a lot of pictures of me wearing clothes (and a lot of pictures of me NOT wearing a lot of clothes).
Sometimes there’s a photo of a dress that I don’t necessarily like but I love how the photo turned out and it changes my perspective on it. There are also outfits that I love that I can’t seem to get a good picture of. This isn’t the fault of my photographer, mind you. Shannonlee always does amazing work… especially considering her model.
I am not saying I am a hideous monster by any means, but I am not a model… not really. I mean, I do modeling but I can’t bring myself to calling myself a model. Does that make sense? I don’t know how to pose or, well, HOW to model. If a good picture is taken it’s a combination of Shannonlee guiding me, her talent, the outfit, and sometimes a bit of luck.
Not to get into the specifics of anything, but when I am doing a photo shoot for En Femme there’s an agreement that some pictures taken are for En Femme to publish and use for marketing and I don’t necessarily have the permission to post them on my website or social media. The publishing rights, if you will, are En Femme’s.
And that’s absolutely normal. That’s showbiz, baby.
Sometimes Shannonlee will take a photo for En Femme that I absolutely love… but I can’t post it. And that’s okay, it happens. There will be other photos that I like. Luckily we usually take so many pictures that even if I am not able to share that specific one there are others similar enough that I like that I can post.
BUT not always.
We did a shoot for En Femme in the summer of 2020 and one of the outfits I modeled was a cute top and skirt. Loved this look. We took our normal amount of pictures and when it came time to send them to En Femme I was a little crushed that there were only a handful that I liked.
Again, this isn’t the fault of Shannonlee. If my head was tilted in a certain way my jawline may have looked more masculine than I like. Perhaps the angle of the shot made my shoulders looked too blocky. And so on. Essentially the only photos of the outfit that I liked would be sent to En Femme and I wouldn’t have the right to share any of it. There were no leftovers, in a way.
Again, this is absolutely normal. I have written things for transgender magazines and websites that I am not able to share on my own site so it’s part of business, I suppose.
I’ve always meant to wear the outfit for another photo shoot so I could post it. So I did! This was one of my looks from the most recent MN T-Girl’sphoto shoot. What I love about these photos is how much fun I am clearly having, especially in the last one where I am cackling like a loon.
Preparing for photo shoots is tiresome. The studio is booked in advance, settling on a date that works for Shannonlee, scheduling my makeover, deciding on outfits, and coordinating the details with the other girls who are coming is a lot of work. The day of the shoot is a lot of running around and preparing for things going wrong. By the time the shoot begins I am already exhausted.
But once it does begin I’ve kind of done everything that CAN be done. It’s showtime, baby. I may as well have some fun. I shook off the stress of the morning, I tried to push the hectic workweek behind me, I tapped into the fun and bliss that Hannah represents to me.
And I think you can see the joy in these pictures. I’m glad I have photos of this outfit that I can post… but I am also glad I have this happy moment captured.
I hit another milestone recently when I modeled a new suit, also from En Femme. This time? A two–piece.
When I opened the package I was… well, excited and a little intimidated. Which was kind of silly as I’ve modeled and reviewed lingerie before and a swimsuit is similar in what it reveals, but a swimsuit is meant to be worn in public. And a two-piece is meant to, well, reveal more than a tank suit.
But like most things that scare me when it comes to clothes, I wore it anyway.
When I think of femme clothes I have to consider how they will fit my body. If a top has a plunging neckline, I have to think about how it will look when it comes to wearing breast forms. If a skirt is tight I have to think about tucking and which gaff I will wear.
Simply put, a bikini designed for a cis girl body won’t flatter me.
However, like everything else I’ve ever worn for En Femme, this suit fit perfectly. The measurements were spot on, there is enough stretch where needed, and it compliments my body and proportions.
The top fits like a typical sports bra but is made of a Lycra/Nylon blend. The fabric creates a subtle shine and draws attention to the suit. And! The top has pockets for breast forms. The suit can also be worn without forms but it doesn’t look baggy without them. I was a little concerned if my forms were tooooo big for the suit and would show off more cleavage than I would like but this wasn’t an issue at all. I mean, I like showing a little skin but I don’t like a top or a neckline that reveals my forms.
The bottoms also fit very nicely. The back is wide enough for my, well, bottom and the gusset is wide enough for my body parts. No gaff is needed with this suit has it has built-in compression. Worn properly, it will create a nice, smooth front. No matter how much I moved everything remained in place.
A similar product to the bottoms is the Carmen Liu White Lace Classy Thong, also by En Femme. Both of these items are not QUITE a gaff but will flatten and smooth your front.
Sizing with En Femme is rarely an issue and I will advise you take their recommendation to heart and know your measurements and select the appropriate size. The suit is available in black or pink but obvs I HAD to have the pink.
New clothes can lead to new adventures. Wearing beautiful gowns make me want to attend a glamourous event. This suit is pushing me to the beach… a place I never thought I would be comfortable to go to. I felt beautiful and confident.
Thank you En Femme for designing clothes for my body and for this sexy and practical suit.
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New in the Learning Center is Hannah McKnight’s latest article on Building a Better Wardrobe – Part 2. Hannah knows a thing or two about clothing and what she looks for to create a look for herself. But when just starting out, it’s nice to have some advice. Or you may be wanting to go beyond that first item you purchased and now you’d like to go a little further. Hannah is here to help.
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New in the Learning Center is Hannah McKnight’s latest article on Building a Better Wardrobe – Part 1. Hannah knows a thing or two about clothing and what she looks for to create a look for herself. But when just starting out, it’s nice to have some advice. Or you may be wanting to go beyond that first item you purchased and now you’d like to go a little further. Hannah is here to help.
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I keep a lot of physical reminders from previous moments in my life. These could be ticket stubs from a concert or a small rock I picked up from when I saw the ocean for the first time. I associate objects with moments, even if the moment hasn’t occurred yet. This is especially true when it comes to clothes.
During the early days of the pandemic, I found myself buying dresses that I never thought I would wear. Several of these outfits had very thin shoulder straps which I previously avoided as I felt they exposed too much of my torso and I would look too masculine in them. The pandemic reminded me (and still does) that life is short, but what’s even shorter is the time that we have to do what we want.
And yes, this is going to sound shallow and superficial but whenever things seemed bleak and depressing I would often brighten a little when I thought about my new, never worn dresses and they would give me something to look forward to. I daydreamed about the world being a little safer to schedule a makeover, put on a cute dress, and just… try to pretend things were normal.
Over the last two years it felt like the end of the pandemic would never come. Sometimes it still feels that way. Similarly, here in Minnesota it sometimes feels that spring will never arrive. It starts and stops, two steps forward, one step back. We will have a beautiful March day when it hits fifty degrees (which is warm for a Minnesota March) but the next day we’ll get a little snow.
I look forward to different styles and outfits as the seasons change. In July, when the weather is unbearably hot (yes, it does get hot in Minnesota, lol) I start to look forward to sweaters and leather skirts that are perfect for autumn.
Of course, the opposite is also true. Seeing a cute, summery dress makes me long for the days when ice isn’t covering the sidewalk and I don’t have to wear a zillion layers to go outside.
If there was ever a dress made for strutting down the sidewalk on a warm spring day, this is it.
The versatility of this dress surprised me. I think this would look cute with simple sandals or even wedge heels. I don’t have enough opportunities to wear white stilettos so I used this dress as an excuse to glam up.
Alternatively black heels would work just fine and would dress up this outfit even a little more.
Dresses with sleeves rarely flatter my arms, regardless of the length. If a dress has long sleeves they usually only fall far below my wrist. Capped sleeves, such as this dress, tend to bunch up as many dresses aren’t designed for people with shoulders as broad as mine. These sleeves fell perfectly and are another reminder of how En Femme designs dresses for people with the body shape, size, and structure that many of us have.
And of course, my favorite feature of this dress is how short and swishy it is. As perfect as this dress is for a summer day, you may think twice about wearing it if it’s a windy day. Of course for some of us the combination of a breeze and a swishy dress might be what someone is looking for. 😉
The neckline plunges and I think it’s quite flattering if I do say so myself.
These photos were taken on a very, very cold day earlier this year. The frigid temperature paired with this summery dress made me long for warmer weather. Today is the first of April and I am hoping that warmer days, days perfect for this dress, are just a dream away.
In the third and final installment of Change Your Gender, Change Your World, Hannah McKnight, our resident expert, describes the butterfly effect and how it can be used to understand the journey in accepting one’s identity.
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