Ask Hannah!

I love reading about your adventures and experiences.  You say that you think you are too tall to pass in public.  Would you tell me how tall you are without shoes, & then how tall of a heel that you wear?
The reason that I ask is that I am 6ft 4 in. barefoot, I wear 2 1/2 inch heels, as that is the lowest heel that I am able to find in a size 17 women’s shoe.  Flats do not seem to be available in that size.

I don’t think anyone is too tall to pass.  I don’t think anyone is too…anything to pass in public.  The only person’s opinion about whether or not you’re beautiful is your own.  What do you care if the guy you walked by at the store doesn’t like your look?  It doesn’t affect you.  You’ll never please everyone, so focus on making yourself happy.  I don’t think you can have standards as to what one should look like to look like a woman because then we have expectations on what a cis-woman “should” look like.  Have you ever looked at a cis-woman and thought she was too tall to look like a woman?  Every time I think I am the tallest girl in the mall, I see a girl taller than I am.

I say this because I’d like to do my part in moving our community away from the need to “pass” and helping others really examine why passing is a myth and ultimately an unrealistic expectation and holding us back.  I don’t know a single cis-woman who worries that she is not pretty enough or short enough or not girlish enough to “pass” as a woman in public.  I’ve never heard a cis-woman say that she is too tall and people won’t know she’s a girl.  Cis-women know that all women are different and have different bodies and are different sizes.  T-girls are not any different.

I digress.  I am a little over 6 feet tall and I wear everything from flats (no, I’m kidding, I don’t wear flats) to five inch stilettos.  I usually leave the stilettos at home and wear a 2 or a 3 inch heel when I go out. I am not trying to pass or blend in by wearing the shorter heel, I dress and wear what I wear based on what is appropriate to where I am going.  A tight mini dress and sky high heels are perfect for a club but you’ll stand out at Target.

So, mall outfits…

These, not so much.

I am surprised you’re having trouble finding flats in that size.  Have you visiting this site?  I think you’ll have better luck online.

I hope this helps!

Love, Hannah

‘Modern Family’ Makes History By Casting TV’s First Transgender Child Actor

Shows such as “Orange is the New Black” and “Nashville” have cast adult transgender actors to play transgender characters. But “Modern Family” newcomer Jackson Millarker, who openly identifies as transgender, is the first child actor to appear in such a role.

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Behind the Scenes!

In the fall of 2016, I started modeling for Glamour Boutique, a store that specifically caters to the crossdresser and transgender community.  Not too long ago, they interviewed me for for their blog and soon we started talking about doing some modeling for their new line of clothing.  The photos were taken by the always fabulous Shannonlee.  Shannonlee and I have done quite a few shoots in the past and I was thrilled to work with her again!

Here are some pictures of some of the behind the scenes action and candid moments.  It was such a fun day and you can see the final photos here.  Fun fact, the little tears in the paper are puncture holes from the stilletos I wore all day.  Those heels were high and are serious business!

 

 

 

 

 

Ask Hannah!

Do you have any other hobbies?  Or do you focus on crossdressing related activities in your free time?  Just curious.

I like to keep busy and I am almost always doing something.  Sitting on the couch watching tv is not something I do very often.  I do like to read and I stay active by running, biking and working out.  Although I feel I have two halves of my life, I try to maintain a balance between them and not let crossdressing dominate my life, despite what my website suggests.  Balance is important especially when you are married.

Balance with anything in life is tricky, especially to crossdressers who are newly out to their significant others.  When we come out to someone, especially our partners, it can go many different ways.  Sometimes our partners are willing to see how crossdressing will affect their relationship and will allow us to wear panties or dress at home or set boundaries.  Many relationships are damaged when limits or boundaries are broken.  Crossdressing alone usually doesn’t lead to a broken relationship.  I hear from many t-girls that their relationship was damaged when they violated the boundaries their wives set, such as being asked to not post pictures online or leave the house.  Lying to your significant other, whether about crossdressing or anything else never helps a relationship.  If a crossdresser has a supportive partner, it is so easy for us to just go from zero to sixty with this.  All of a sudden our drawers are filled with lingerie and our closets have dozens of dresses in them.  This can lead our partners into thinking where will this end and wondering what they have gotten themselves into.

Usually a crossdresser gets one chance to bring this part of us into a relationship.  If we let this part of us dominate our lives or overwhelm our partners, it can lead to some very hurt feelings.  So, we especially need to keep balance in mind because it is not fair to our partners or significant others or wives.

I will take this moment to remind all of us that if you are not married, please, please, please tell your partner about this part of you before you do get married.  It is not fair to spring this on them after you are wed.  I fully believe in putting all cards on the table before you commit to each other.

Anyway, balance.

I have a friend who loves football.  He met a girl a few years ago who also loved football.  He thought he hit the jackpot.  She loved watching the games, loved tailgating, wore her jersey proudly and knew as much about the teams as he did.  They met and fell in love over a shared interest they were both passionate about.  He was thrilled he found someone who supported his hobby.

After a while, football really took over his life.  Whenever a game was on, he’d watch it.  All weekend he’d sit in front of the television watching sports.  He’d go to the home games, he’d go to Fantasy Football drafts, he lived and breathed football.  It was all he talked about.  His wife’s interest, however, didn’t keep up with his.  It got to the point where she was exhausted by it.  It dominated their relationship.  Everything was centered around the game.  They’d fight about it, she was frustrated by how this took over their life and she was simply overwhelmed by it.  Although she loved football, she grew weary of it and hated that she lost her husband to something.

He on the other hand was confused by how she had changed.  He thought she was into football and thought she was supportive of his passion for it.  Unfortunately he let it dominate their lives.  It was all he talked about, all he watched, all he did.

Having a supportive significant other is a wonderful thing.  Whether they are supportive of a hobby, a job, or crossdressing.  The thing we all need to remember is that we can’t let anything take over our relationship.  When many of us come out to our wives, we find it hard to talk about anything else.  I was careful not to let this overwhelm my wife with this side of me.  I tried not to talk about it constantly.  Sometimes it was hard and sometimes I wasn’t paying as much attention to her as I should have and didn’t pick up on her thoughts and feelings.  Through honesty and communication we found a very balanced life when it came to my crossdressing.

Love, Hannah

 

The new Issue of Frock is Out!

unnamed.jpgFrock Magazine is a free transgender e-magazine for crossdressers and transgender people everywhere, full of features and articles about well known members of the transgender community, crossdressing clothes and clothing guides, makeup tutorials, transgender related movie and book reviews, trans-activism, news and fiction.

I’ve been contributing to Frock for a while now and the issue is out!

You can read it here!

Love, Hannah

 

‘Transparent’ Actor Jeffrey Tambor Says He Found His Dream Role

NPR recently interviewed actor Jeffrey Tambor, who plays Maura on the Amazon series Transparent.

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From the article:

Transparent is about a transgender woman named Maura who for decades was known to her kids as Mort, or Dad. Actor Jeffrey Tambor plays Maura and has just won a second Emmy for his performance. “When those roles come along, you don’t run away,” he tells NPR’s Kelly McEvers. “It’s a perfect role, you know? I thought I was gonna do Lear, but I’m gonna do Maura.”

Tambor isn’t transgender, and when he accepted his latest Emmy, he told the crowd that more trans actors should be given a chance to play roles like his: “I would not be unhappy were I the last cisgender male to play a female transgender on television,” he said.

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Minneapolis Police Announce New Transgender Policy

The new rules will require officers to address transgender people using their preferred names and pronouns. 

The Minneapolis Police Department has issued new guidelines on the treatment of transgender and gender nonconforming people, essentially restricting officers from singling out suspects based on their sexual orientation.

Police Chief Janeé Harteau and Mayor Betsy Hodges announced the new rules at an afternoon news conference at City Hall on Wednesday.

The policy change builds on the department’s mission of “learning and growing and understanding the people we serve,” Harteau told reporters at an afternoon news conference.

“We need to be able to interact with them properly,” she said.

The new rules compel officers to address transgender people using their preferred names and pronouns, while frisks and pat-downs will be conducted by “an officer of the gender requested by the suspect.”

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