Serving Glamour!

We all know the difficulty of finding clothes that fit our bodies.  A size 14 is not always a size 14.  Often times a dress fits perfectly around our hips but our shoulders are a different story.  I am always excited when I see a new company or designer making clothes for our bodies.  Not only does this give us another option, but it’s encouraging to see others supporting girls like us.

We can add Serving Glamour to the growing list of designers making clothes for us.

Serving Glamour provides access to modest and modern clothing and accessories specifically designed and chosen for transgender women and their unique body shapes so they feel fashionable and feminine in any social or professional situation.

Serving Glamour is owned and operated by Jennifer Walter BA, the wife of a transgender female mechanical engineer.  As a member of Tempe Fashion and Business Resource Innovation Center (FABRIC), Jennifer is working closely with local experts in fashion design and manufacturing to guarantee that Serving Glamour fashions and accessories are of the highest quality.

Serving Glamour sells shoes, clothing, accessories, and purses.  I had the honor of trying Jennifer’s custom wrap dress and I modeled it for my most recent photo shoot.  The dress feels silky and sensual, and I loved the sparkly pattern.

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The dress is flattering and I love the neckline.  It comes at a perfect angle and it shows off just enough cleavage. The skirt is also cut in a way to show off my legs when I want to, and I always like to show off my legs.

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The dress is sexy and flirty, and perfect for date night… and for Sunday brunch.

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I hope you like Jennifer’s dress as much as I do.  Please support her by signing up for her mailing list.

Thank you to Jennifer for the dress, and for giving girls like us another option for our wardrobes.

Love, Hannah

Drawing the Line

I noticed Too Faced cosmetics was trending on Twitter the other day and I was curious why.  I like Too Faced, actually.  In fact, the MN T-Girls did a makeup demonstration at Ulta a few years back and Too Faced sent over a few of their regional trainers to give makeovers, help us shop for products, and to demonstrate different techniques.

I assumed Too Faced was trending because of a new eyeshadow palette or something similar buuuuuut it wasn’t.  Basically the sister of the co-founder of Too Faced made some comments about a makeup artist who recently came out as transgender.  This caused, to say the least, backlash against Too Faced.

Whether or not someone you feel that Too Faced deserves the backlash based on what the co-founder’s family member said (God knows I don’t endorse or agree with everything my family members say), it made me think about the importance of supporting organizations that support our community.  Specifically I am thinking about the way we are viewed not only by the corporation itself, but by the employees who work for them.

Case in point, Target.  Target came out a few years ago saying that their guests should use the restrooms and changing rooms that match their gender identity.  This caused some boycotts which likely affected their business.  I’m sure Target was aware of what this stance would cause, but they did it anyway.  Risking profits by making this their policy says to me that they really do support us.

I shop at Target in both male mode and en femme.  When I am there en femme I have always had a positive experience.  I feel welcome there by the employees and I feel welcomed there by the corporation, based on their policy.

Of course, not every corporation is like Target.  I was disappointed to hear a CEO from Victoria’s Secret make some disparaging comments about our community.  I was even more disappointed by the company’s response to what was said.  I had been shopping at Victoria’s Secret for years as both genders.  In male mode I was mostly ignored (thankfully), but Hannah was always welcomed there.  I made the decision to stop shopping there, but in doing so I discovered so many other options for my lingerie from companies that truly do support our us.

If we want more businesses to support our community, then our community must support the ones that already do.

I don’t frequent businesses that have beliefs or a corporate culture that don’t align with my own morals and values.  It does make it a little different when the experience is positive at a store level (such as shopping at a Victoria’s Secret store) but is very different from a company culture perspective.  I missed shopping there (until I tried other options), but I couldn’t bring myself to spend money where they employed a CEO that didn’t think a transwoman should be allowed to model for them.

Of course, I am not so naive to think that it’s possible to live a life where you never interact or have to deal with people who you disagree with.  I am related to people who prefer to live in a world where the LGBTQ+ community doesn’t exist, after all.  I would like them to change, but I know they likely won’t.  I would like for all organizations to be welcoming and supportive of our community, but it’s not realistic.  However, I believe you can voice your opinion with your purse more than you can with your tweets.

I often wonder where I should draw the line.  I wonder if I am a hypocrite in some ways.  Yes, I won’t eat Chick-fil-A but how well do I know the values of the owner of the coffee shop that I go to?  Should I toss out my Harry Potter books?  Do I need to google every organization that I interact with?

I try to live a highly principled life but I often wonder where I should be drawing the line.

Love, Hannah

 

What a T-Girl Wants

Shopping can be overwhelming and it’s hard to know where to start when it comes to creating a wardrobe, but I hope this guide I wrote for En Femme helps!

I’ve been meaning to write a guide like this for a while, and En Femme’s current Insider Sale was a perfect time to do so.

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Featured, Must-Have Winter Fashions!

Want an extra opportunity to save before the holidays? Take 25% off your order (just for subscribers!) by using code ENFHOLIDAY and complete your holiday party look.  Looking for some inspiration as you put together your New Years Eve ensemble? Head over to our Learning Center and have a look at Hannah McKnight’s wish list – suggestions from our expert self-described T-girl!  Read it here>>

Love, Hannah

Our Feminine Flaw

When I was young, I would think about the things I thought I would need to be beautiful.  A gorgeous wig, makeup, lingerie, a dress, and heels were always on the list.  As I grew older, I started to think about the things I needed to… ah, minimize or downplay.  Things like my adam’s apple, or my broad shoulders for example.  I thought if I ever had the courage to go out en femme, surely something like that would give me away.

Once I realized I would never pass, and that there was no such thing as passing anyway, I stopped worrying about things that would “give me away”.

Although I no longer am concerned about being clocked, I still strive to look as amazing as possible.  Over the last year I had added breast forms and Jolie Thigh Pads from The Breast Form Store to my closet.  For years I wanted to be as… authentic as possible, but seeing what forms and pads can do for my shape, I wonder why I waited so long.  I mean, look at my figure here.

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I have forms that boost my bust, pads that give my figure shape, but besides a tight pair of panties and stockings, nothing to really, uh, help with my feminine flaw.  I have gotten a few emails asking about tucking and gaffs but I never have tried a gaff before.

What is a gaff?  Basically it’s an undergarment that is designed to flatten out a penis and testicles to create a smooth appearance.  Usually a gaff is styled like a thong.

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Thanks to the generosity of The Breast Form Store, I have been sent a variety of styles to review and over the past few days I have been trying them and I’d love to share my thoughts on them.

The Breast Form store has a good selection to choose from, and I’ll be reviewing the Divine Collection and the Gold Seal Collection.

We are likely going into TMI territory here, so proceed with caution.

Wearing a gaff is not a magic garment that will automatically flatten out your genitals.  You need to tuck.  Tucking is basically pushing your genitals between your legs, and usually reaching around to pull them back and then using a gaff to hold them there.

That sounds like it hurts.

But it doesn’t.  If it hurts then you are doing it wrong.  Is it uncomfortable?  Well, no, but you definitely feel it.  Both of these gaffs do a remarkably effective job of holding things in place.

I have worn these gaffs over the past four days doing normal everyday things.  Walking, going up and down stairs, sitting, you know, normal things.  The gaffs kept everything in place.  I got used to where things were.  Again, if you feel any sort of pain, then stop and readjust.

Most gaffs are thongs.  Thongs are amazing when it comes to reducing panty lines in skirts and dresses so when I dress I wear thongs exclusively.

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I have thongs that are made for boys, things that are made for girls, and thongs made for boys that look like thongs that are made for girls.  These gaffs are a new thing altogether in terms of the front panel.  Thongs for boys have extra fabric in the front.  Thongs for girls tend to be narrower in the front.  These gaffs have a wide front panel to make sure that everything is secure.  No matter how much I moved, I never needed to readjust and not once did I fall out.

I also liked that the gusset was wide enough.  The gusset is the fabric of a panty that is between the front and the back, basically the part that goes between your legs.  Since this is where you would tuck your parts, the gusset needs to be able to secure everything in order to prevent you from sliding or falling out.  Most panties and thongs are not designed to tuck, so the gaffs have a huge advantage here.

So, they functioned well.  They were well designed and did the trick in terms of keeping things where I put them.  But how effective were they?

I love leggings and I thought that this was a perfect excuse to wear them for a few days in boy mode.  Normally my anatomy is noticeable when I wear them, but the gaffs, along with tucking, created a very smooth shape.  I was impressed with how effective they were.

I did notice a few differences between the styles.

 

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I was sent two styles of the Divine collection.  One style was the thong, the other a tanga.  A tanga panty is not a thong, but it does not cover as much in the back as a traditional panty does.  I found that both the thong and tanga style were pretty similar in terms of comfort and tucking.  Both were equally effective in terms of keeping everything in place.  The Divine’s front panel is longer than the Gold Seal which made tucking easier as there was more fabric to push things down.

The Divine style also has a small pocket should you wish to insert a silicone vagina.

Gold Seal

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The Gold Seal style has a shorter front panel compared to the Divine style, but a slightly wider gusset.  Overall the Gold Seal style is smaller and tighter than the Divine style.  It took a little longer to get used to this gaff compared to the Divine style.  Since the front panel is shorter, tucking required a little more effort, however since the gaff is smaller compared to the Divine, and the gusset is wider, I felt that the Gold Seal kept things in place better and provided a smoother effect.

Both gaffs are wonderful and I would recommend either one.  Ultimately I prefer the Gold Seal because it provides a smoother, flatter look, but the Divine is more comfortable.  As a girl who prefers stilettos to flats, I am more than happy to forgo comfort over style.

I used to think that I didn’t NEED a gaff.  And no one NEEDS a gaff.  I didn’t think a gaff could do what a pair of panties or tights could do, but I was very wrong.

Thank you to The Breast Form Store for providing these gaffs for review!  I am excited to include them in my wardrobe.

Love, Hannah

 

 

Ask Hannah!

Hi there! So I’m planning a trip to Minnesota and plan to be out en femme during the trip – any suggestions on makeover places and shopping I could do that would be friendly?

I hope you have an amazing time!  I am happy to recommend a few places.  However, please take a look at something I wrote about looking for transfriendly places.

In terms of places that are unique to Minnesota, I really love getting my makeup done at Rita Ambourn in Saint Paul.  I have had a few makeovers there for photo shoots and have always loved the results.

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If you are looking for a makeover and photos, then you’ll have a wonderful time at La Femme Mystique.    I visited Ava last year and had an amazing time.

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As for shopping, you’ll be spoiled by the Mall of America.  You can also check out some other options here.  You can also see what the MN T-Girls have done on our monthly events.

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Have a wonderful trip!  I think you’ll have amazing time!

As always, be safe and have fun!

Love, Hannah

 

Ask Hannah!

I am hoping for some advice on taking my sister in law shopping for the first time. She recently transitioned and has asked for my help going shopping for more feminine clothing, not that I’m a fashionista by any means. I am so excited to bond with her in this way but I want to be as respectful as possible in what choices I offer as far as clothing and if there are any tips on making the experience as comfortable as possible for her too. If you have any guidance for me on styles that would be the most comfortable or flattering in these early stages of transition I would be forever grateful. She is a super tall, super skinny, gorgeous woman and I want to help her feel that way every day.
Thank you!

Building a wardrobe is one of the most fun, but overwhelming things we will ever do.  I have had to needed to shop for new clothes for male mode when I got a new job for example, but shopping for Hannah is a completely different, but much more fun (and expensive) experience.

When it comes to my wardrobe, I have clothes for every occasion.  Whether it is a sparkly dress for a holiday party or something casual for a day at the mall, I have an outfit (and shoes and accessories) to mach.

What I would recommend is to start by thinking about her goals.  Everyone needs clothes, but what is she looking for?  Professional attire for her job?  Comfy staples for running errands?  Start slow, start small, and then go from there.

Another goal to keep in mind is what style of clothes is she looking for.  Not only from a personal preference perspective (say that three times fast!) but from a physical one as well.  I am not very curvy but I like to create an illusion of hips.  My Jolie Thigh Pads from The Breast Form Store help a lot, but I also love what a cute peplum dress does for my figure.

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I like showing off my legs, so my dresses and skirts tend to be on the short side.  Granted, when you are over six feet tall a dress will usually be on the short side anyway.  I also like to avoid exposing my shoulders.  I have plenty of dresses that are sleeveless, but I usually don’t wear spaghetti straps.  Many of us have features we like to show off as well as features we like to downplay.

Truth be told, I know (and care) very little about fashion.  I wear what I like and what I think is cute.  Putting together a skirt and top combination is something I struggle with, but I find mannequins and Instagram quite helpful, to be honest.  This outfit is cute…

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… but everything I am wearing is exactly what a mannequin at H&M wore.  It looked cute on the mannequin and I thought I could pull it off.  Matching a strip top with a tan skirt was not something I thought would work, but seeing it on display won me over.

I look at the style category on Instagram for inspiration as well.  I saw a lot of girls wearing cute, pleated skirts and I had to have one.  The problem was knowing what top to pair with it.  I saw a lot of girls wearing a sleek black top with the skirt, so I thought a black bodysuit would be perfect.

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I think I was right.

I don’t try to keep up with trends or what’s in at the moment.  It would be exhausting to try to keep up.  Everyone should wear what they want to wear.

I would also recommend knowing your measurements.  Dress Barn and Forever 21 both have different ideas what a size 12 dress is, but if you know your measurements it will make shopping (especially shopping online) a million times easier.

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Knowing her goals and measurements are important, but the most important thing a t-girl needs, whether it is shopping or anything else, is something you have already given her: support.

You are a gem to help her, encourage her, and shop with her.  I would rather hit the mall with a supportive person than a fashion writer.  It’s obvious you are supportive and enthusiastic about helping her and right now (and always), she will need that more anything.

Have fun!

Love, Hannah

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Stealthing

Fifteen years ago I identified as a crossdresser.  I still do, I suppose, but I prefer t-girl.  I think bi-gender might be a more fitting label, however all these titles fall under identifying as transgender, in my opinion.

Regardless, I went from strictly underdressing to, well, who I am today.  I still underdress, but as I started to add makeup and clothes that weren’t panties and lingerie, I wanted to look as good as I could in dresses and pencil skirts.  I never thought I would want to wear padding or shape enhancers, but I have been completely won over with my Jolie Thigh Pads from the Breast Form Store.  The look is amazing, and feeling my curvier shape is incredible.  I look more natural when I wear them, as seen in the photo below.

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I have worn corsets in the past and I have always loved how sexy they looked, but I wasn’t wearing them for the practical purpose of obtaining a more hourglass look or a trimmer waist.  That changed when I received my Dita Corset from Glamorous Corset a few months ago.  Pairing the corset with my thigh pads and breast forms achieves a shapelier look beyond anything I could have hoped for.

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Seasoning a corset takes time and dedication.  I got used to wearing it in male mode, but like underdressing, I was always conscious of it being visible under my clothes.  The lacy edging of my panties or my bra strap is one thing, but a corset is a little different.

Glamorous Corset is here to help with some tips for ‘stealthing’, basically how to wear a corset in public.  I thought this would be helpful for those of us who underdress in male mode.  It certainly was helpful to me.

Love, Hannah