Saying OMG, YES to the Dress

This side of us can overlap into fantasy territory. Not necessarily sexual territory and it’s not uncommon for a girl like us to be a fantasy for someone else, but the fantasy is often daydreaming about THE dress or where we would wear an amazing outfit.

The degrees that this daydreaming can span can be extreme. We think about what outfit we would wear to simply having a cup of a coffee but we also daydream about what we would wear to a gala.

My adventures (if you can call them that) are the everyday kind. Shopping, having coffee, things like that. Don’t get me wrong, there is magic in the day to day, but this girl fantasizes about ballgowns and black tie parties.

I have dresses for “just in case” situations. I used to go to nightclubs and such but I don’t anymore. BUT if I ever did I have THE perfect dress for such an evening. I can’t imagine the oft daydreamed gala but I still look for THE DRESS that I would wear to such an occasion. I had such a gown but after I lost a significant amount of weight it no longer fit.

I look for ballgowns whenever I visit a second-hand boutique but I rarely find one that fits or that is within my budget. I mean, YES, I could find such a dress if I was willing to spend hundreds of dollars but even I can’t justify spending that much money for something that may never leave my closet.

I look on eBay but I don’t have much luck there either.

So, you can imagine how excited I was when I discovered Queenly. Queenly is a marketplace where you can find amazing dresses for those faaaaancy events we’ve been fantasizing about, whether it’s a wedding reception or staying in on a Saturday. I mean, many of us have dressed to kill just to stay in and binge watch a show. I have.

I spent toooo much time on Queenly looking at everything from bridesmaid dresses to prom dresses to cocktail dresses which is ironic considering I will likely never be a bridesmaid, go to prom, or drink again.

Although I doubt I will ever have a chance to wear a dress like this to an appropriately fancy party I can wear such a gown to a photo shoot. Queenly also regularly hires transgender models for their website so there’s another daydream that I have.

Every once in a while my hubris gets the best of me and I think I have what it takes to do more modeling. Queenly, like other designers, partners with Slay Models which, according to their website, is the premier management company representing transgender fashion talent. We see trans individuals as beautiful. Our strong commitment to developing them as successful models is not about quantifying the model’s gender, it is about their passion and commitment to being the best possible models they can be.

When I heard about Slay I thought maybe I should assemble a portfolio and submit to to them… but then I saw their current models and I was immediately humbled.

Each of these models are wearing dresses found on Queenly, by the way.

After spending a few days on Queenly I found quite a few dresses that fit my budget and really caught my eye. I eagerly wait for the giant box to be delivered.

And! Not only does Queenly have a zillion dresses they also have excellent customer service. I made a mistake with my order and they responded right away and fixed my silly error.

I don’t know about you but prom and wedding season makes me long for beautiful gowns and fancy events. I don’t think I will ever be asked to prom but perhaps I can organize my own black tie event. If I do, I will soon have THE dress for it.

Love, Hannah

New En Femme Blog!

My new blog for En Femme has been posted!

I hope you like it!

Love, Hannah

The Learning Center: Building a Better Wardrobe

New in the Learning Center is Hannah McKnight’s latest article on Building a Better Wardrobe – Part 1. Hannah knows a thing or two about clothing and what she looks for to create a look for herself. But when just starting out, it’s nice to have some advice. Or you may be wanting to go beyond that first item you purchased and now you’d like to go a little further. Hannah is here to help.

As always, Hannah imparts her wisdom in this first part of building a better wardrobe for yourself. Read it now>>

Spangla Lingerie!

I love lingerie and I have a special place in my heart and in my closet for lingerie that is designed for girls who have bodies like mine.

Mind you, this is not limited to consideration for my genitalia but also for bras and camis that are perfect for a wider chest, and broader shoulders, as well as panties with wider leg openings.

Although my closet is overflowing with pretty clothes and shoes “designed for women” and “designed for men” (if you want to oversimplify things) and I wear whatever I wish, I still love finding designers that make lingerie for people like myself.

Some of my favorite lingerie comes from XdressHomme MystereMootGlamour BoutiqueZheThe Breast Form Store, and En Femme.

I love these options for a few reasons, but one reason that stands out is how designers like these “normalize” lingerie for all genders. I remember discovering Xdress (known as Apres Noir at the time) and was struck by how exciting it was to find panties for my body. But they were an outlier, or at least I thought so at the time. “Lingerie for men” was a brand new thing (as far as I knew). However, with the growing options (which is a reflection of a growing demand and sloooow acceptance) it’s easy to daydream that maybe, JUST MAYBE, crossdressing isn’t as taboo as the world thinks it is. Maybe in a thousand years it will be common to find cute pink panties in the “men’s” section of a store.

I mean, a girl can dream.

I came across another designer that makes really cute lingerie for crossdressers and girls like me called Spangla. Spangla designs bras, panties, camis, and other pretty pieces of lingerie for people with the same type of body that I have.

I especially am drawn to the garter belts as they have wide suspenders. A small detail but I love attention to subtly. I also heart very feminine panties and goodness they have a lot of options.

My credit card is weeping as I look through their website because I want to buy SO. MANY. THINGS. There’s a lot I like here but unfortunately like a lot of designers that make panties for girls like us and like a lot of independent businesses, the prices are a little higher than “panties for girls”. This is not a criticism by any means. I totally get it. A giant corporation can afford to manufacture clothes in bulk, someone hand sewing a fabric rose on a pretty pink thong is going to be pricier. I am happy to financially support designers that support girls like me.

In summary, yay for more lingerie options for us!

Love, Hannah

Ask Hannah!

My favorite thing to wear is a lacy slip. Today, if you look at the slips sold (full & half), they have almost no lace. Are there companies out there who still sell lacy slips? To me, if you are going to wear something as sexy as a nylon slip, the lace is important. Love to find more companies who sell lacy slips. If you have some suggestions, I would love to hear about them.

I don’t know of a specific website but searching for ‘lace slip’ on Amazon and ‘purchase lace slip’ on Google both yield options.

I am not a slip girl, but I absolutely can relate to loving sexy, subtle details on my lingerie. Yes, pink panties are essential, but the same pair of panties with a small fabric rose on the front? YES PLEASE.

This question reminded me it’s not uncommon for us to become intrigued by a very specific piece of clothing. It could be a slip or panties or gloves or almost anything else. In some ways an article of clothing can be… hm, a gateway garment. I remember being very young and seeing a mannequin in the lingerie department of a store and just becoming enamored by the beautiful bra with matching panty and garter belt. I was fascinated by the idea of wearing what was being modeled.

And the fascination never, ever ended. It was just the beginning.

I hope you find the perfect slip. I hope all of us find the panty, the dress, the heels we’ve been dreaming of.

Love, Hannah

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Ask Hannah!

I love to have my husband wear “girly” panties, and I’m super tempted by the adorable styles at XDress! I’m curious as to what your experience is with their sizing. I would love to purchase a few, but their prices are a bit steep, and although they say they’ll take exchanges I’d hate for them not to fit my guy. We’ve had varying experiences with other brands as far as the accuracy of the size charts. Any advice you could offer would be appreciated.

I heart Xdress and they absolutely have adorable panties. Based on my experiences with them, I do find that their size charts for panties, bras, bodysuits, and camis run true to size, but their dresses run a teeny bit small.

Panties from designers like Xdress cost a little more than panties from Victoria’s Secret but that’s not a surprise when you compare a relatively small, independent business like Xdress compared to a giant corporation. Designers like Xdress are also a specialty business that cater to a niche (but sexy) consumer base. Panties for people with the body that I have and (presumably) your husband has take different things into consideration. More room in the gusset and in the front, and wider leg holes.

If you are looking for other options, you may want to check out Homme Mystere. They also have super cute panties (that are also true to size) and run about $15 to $22. However, being based in Australia means it takes forevvvvvver for the post office to deliver but they are always worth the wait.

Waist cincher from Xdress, bra, panty, garter belt from Homme Mystere

Love, Hannah

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Ask Hannah!

Which style of panties are best for a crossdresser to wear for comfort and feeling femme?

Anyone who wears panties will have a different perspective on this question. Ultimately what you feel is comfortable and feminine is completely up to you.

But since you asked…

In my opinion, I prefer panties that are designed for people with the same anatomy as myself. Victoria’s Secret designs panties for people without a penis, but there are many options for girls who have the same parts as I do.

Panties for boys/panties for girls tends to be… hm, a lively debate in our community. For some, “panties for boys” completely misses the point and I can absolutely see that perspective. Personally I don’t think it matters as long as they fit. I want panties that fit, I want stilettos that fit, I want dresses that fit. There’s nothing more annoying than falling out of my panties. I haaaate that.

Most panties “for girls” fit just fine as long as I am wearing my size. Of course, the style (tanga, thong, boyshort, etc.) matters as well. Panties “for girls” may require some tucking, however,

I buy a lot of panties “for boys” from XdressHomme MystereMootGlamour BoutiqueZhe, The Breast Form Store, and En Femme.

Panties by Moot

Feeling femme is different from person to person. I have a lot of pink cotton panties with feminine patterns on them. I also have satin panties with lots of ruffles. If I want to feel really femme I select panties that some would consider “sissy”. I am not drawn to the sissy lifestyle but my goodness the clothes are cute. Birch Place has a lot of really cute panties that you might like.

Again, everyone will have a different opinion on what feels femme to them. A girl doesn’t need to wear pink, lacey, panties with ruffles to be femme.

Love, Hannah

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Review: En Femme Wrap Dress!

I keep a lot of physical reminders from previous moments in my life. These could be ticket stubs from a concert or a small rock I picked up from when I saw the ocean for the first time. I associate objects with moments, even if the moment hasn’t occurred yet. This is especially true when it comes to clothes.

During the early days of the pandemic, I found myself buying dresses that I never thought I would wear. Several of these outfits had very thin shoulder straps which I previously avoided as I felt they exposed too much of my torso and I would look too masculine in them. The pandemic reminded me (and still does) that life is short, but what’s even shorter is the time that we have to do what we want.

And yes, this is going to sound shallow and superficial but whenever things seemed bleak and depressing I would often brighten a little when I thought about my new, never worn dresses and they would give me something to look forward to. I daydreamed about the world being a little safer to schedule a makeover, put on a cute dress, and just… try to pretend things were normal.

Over the last two years it felt like the end of the pandemic would never come. Sometimes it still feels that way. Similarly, here in Minnesota it sometimes feels that spring will never arrive. It starts and stops, two steps forward, one step back. We will have a beautiful March day when it hits fifty degrees (which is warm for a Minnesota March) but the next day we’ll get a little snow.

I look forward to different styles and outfits as the seasons change. In July, when the weather is unbearably hot (yes, it does get hot in Minnesota, lol) I start to look forward to sweaters and leather skirts that are perfect for autumn.

Of course, the opposite is also true. Seeing a cute, summery dress makes me long for the days when ice isn’t covering the sidewalk and I don’t have to wear a zillion layers to go outside.

The last few dresses I’ve reviewed for En Femme all inspired moments that would be perfect for the outfit I was wearing. It could be a party or a boring work meeting. In my final review for this little series I immediately panged for warmer, sunnier days when I tried on En Femme’s Fabulous Wrap Dress.

If there was ever a dress made for strutting down the sidewalk on a warm spring day, this is it.

The versatility of this dress surprised me. I think this would look cute with simple sandals or even wedge heels. I don’t have enough opportunities to wear white stilettos so I used this dress as an excuse to glam up.

Alternatively black heels would work just fine and would dress up this outfit even a little more.

Dresses with sleeves rarely flatter my arms, regardless of the length. If a dress has long sleeves they usually only fall far below my wrist. Capped sleeves, such as this dress, tend to bunch up as many dresses aren’t designed for people with shoulders as broad as mine. These sleeves fell perfectly and are another reminder of how En Femme designs dresses for people with the body shape, size, and structure that many of us have.

And of course, my favorite feature of this dress is how short and swishy it is. As perfect as this dress is for a summer day, you may think twice about wearing it if it’s a windy day. Of course for some of us the combination of a breeze and a swishy dress might be what someone is looking for. 😉

The neckline plunges and I think it’s quite flattering if I do say so myself.

These photos were taken on a very, very cold day earlier this year. The frigid temperature paired with this summery dress made me long for warmer weather. Today is the first of April and I am hoping that warmer days, days perfect for this dress, are just a dream away.

Love, Hannah

Review: En Femme Classic Short Sleeve Skater Dress!

I have a deep and emotional connection to clothes. And yes! That is a little shallow, but let me elaborate. The cute purple bodycon dress hanging in my closet? The one I haven’t worn in years? I wore it the first time I went out en femme. The beautiful, floor-length gown that I’ve only worn a few times? It was a gift from my wife. My go-to bra? Whenever I wear it I think about my first lingerie photo shoot. Panties keep me connected to Hannah’s life when I am in boy mode.

I can remember what I wore on most of the significant moments in Hannah’s life. The dress I wore at my first Pride festival. The skirt I wore the first time I went to a mall. I have dresses I am saving for certain occasions, whether it is a gala or simply going out to brunch.

When the pandemic started and I wasn’t going out as much, I bought a dress that I never thought I would have the courage to wear as the straps were quite thin and I felt they showed off my shoulders in a more masculine way than I was comfortable with. But not being able to go out was a reminder that life was short and I needed to do what I wanted while there was still time. I bought the dress, I wore the dress, and it will always represent that there may be a time when I am unable to do what I want and I should live and wear what I choose… without regrets.

Over the last two years, I’ve mostly avoided occasions where large amounts of people gathered, whether it was going to movie or a party. In my boy life, I am not much of a party goer. I like a quiet life. But Hannah is a different story. She’s not much of a partier but goodness does she like dressing up and socializing. Although lockdowns and social distancing prevented her from parties, I never slowed down adding to her wardrobe and buying dresses for a rainy day… or to put it more accurately, buying dresses for a future event.

Some dresses would be saved for a summer day, or an afternoon at the mall when it would be safer to be among a lot of other people. Some dresses were for future, unplanned parties. I would often add a dress to my wardrobe and have a small pang of sadness knowing that I have a perfect dress for a certain occasion, but the occasion couldn’t be planned at the moment. It was a reminder of how much of our lives had changed. So much of our lives were on hold.

I recently added a dress to my wardrobe that is perfect for a party, a party that can’t be planned quite yet, and it symbolizes that better days are coming. Our world, our lives are slowing returning to “normal”. Over the last two years it would often feel that brighter days were so, so far away. But now more than ever, hope is there. The sun will comes out tomorrow, if you will.

Many of my outfits are reminders of past days, previous adventures, significant milestones in my life. This dress, at the risk of sounding over-dramatic, is a reminder that parties, our lives will return.

Please know that I am not trying to gloss over how traumatic and devastating the last the last two years have been, or disregard anyone who is still impacted by the pandemic. We are all, on some level, traumatized by it. We are still, and will be for a long time, impacted by COVID.

Thinking about what I will wear to a party seems shallow in retrospect. But what keeps us going is fantasizing that better days are ahead. Hope keeps me from staying in bed all day. Adding a dress for a day that we dream of coming is the most optimistic thing I can do.

Goodness this is deep for a post about a dress, isn’t it? 🙂

What I am trying to say is that I want to talk about a dress from En Femme as part of a short feature of reviews.

As I looked through the outfits that I would be reviewing for En Femme, I started to think about what event, which occasion each item would be perfect for. The last dress I posted about would be perfect for the office. But this week’s dress? Perfect for the party that is coming, the party that although isn’t on the calendar quite yet, but feels closer than ever.

So, yes, this dress gave me a little hope. Optimism that the things that I previously took for granted, such as dressing up for a night with my friends, are slowing returning.

This week’s dress is En Femme’s Classic Short Sleeve Skater Dress.

This dress has an illusion neckline. I love the subtle and sexy see-though that mesh delivers. The dress is short! And I love a short skirt. As a t-girl I used to be self-conscious of my tallness, but I have really come to embrace my height. A tall girl means long legs, and goodness I work hard to keep my legs in shape.

Embracing my long legs was one thing. My shoulders? I still struggle. The last few years I have gotten more secure with them but I still have moments when I feel my arms and frame are too masculine. A dress with sleeves can really make or break how I feel about an outfit. One thing I absolutely appreciate about En Femme’s clothes is that they are designed for my body. If a dress has long sleeves, they are long enough for my arms. If the sleeves are capped, such as on this dress, they are designed to fall where they should. It creates a flattering effect. I love small, subtle details in my clothes. This can be a lacey pattern on my panties, or in this case sleeves that are perfect for my body.

Not only is the skirt complimentary to my legs, it has a nice feminine swish to it. When I stand it falls as it should, but when I sit it drapes itself on my body. And I love that.

As I mentioned, I love subtlety in my clothes. I love a tiny flash of my stockings when I walk. The skirt is short but if I need to be more modest I can do so.

Red is a bold color and goodness you have to be comfortable with drawing attention if you are going to wear it. Keep in mind that I am not saying I am cute by any means, but red will turn heads no matter what. When I selected my heels for this outfit I almost went with red stilettos, but to me the dress is a party dress, so I chose really sparkly heels.

I think red heels and this dress MIGHT be too matchy-matchy for my taste. I also considered really strappy, black stilettos but how often do we have a chance to wear glittery shoes? Not often enough.

I love this dress. I love how it fits, I love how it feels. I love how it made ME feel. The dress inspires daydreams of fancy parties, dressing to the nines, and a part of my life that I miss.

Life is short. Buy the dress. Whether it’s a dress for a day running errands or a cocktail party.

You can add this to your wardrobe and take advantage of a one time discount of 15% off your next purchase by using the code HANNAH15 at checkout.

Love, Hannah

Review: En Femme Modi Mid Bodycon Dress!

Part of my wardrobe is a result of daydreaming and fantasizing.

Some of my daydreams are of galas and fancy parties. I love looking at dresses that would be absolutely perfect for a black tie (or a little black dress) event. Once I was comfortable with leaving my house en femme and I started to do everyday things, my daydreams turned to wearing the perfect dress for spending the day shopping and running errands.

I love the variety of femme clothes. I love that I have dresses that are cute and casual and perfect for meeting a friend for a coffee. I love that I have dresses that would (hopefully) turn heads at a wedding reception.

It’s kind of amazing what I fantasize about when it comes to my life en femme. Running errands in my boy life is about as mundane as it gets but when I think about Hannah picking up a few things at Target then it becomes a LOT more exciting.

I doubt most people spend a lot of time envisioning what they will wear to a store and picking up a few groceries, but I bet a lot of t-girls do. I know I do.

The same thing can be said about going to work. I live my professional life in boy mode (with the exception of underdressing). I am “blended” when I work from home and wear leggings and a femme top. But I do fantasize about what I would wear if I went into the office en femme.

Only a t-girl would daydream about the outfit they would wear in a cubicle. 🙂

As I continue my little series of reviews for En Femme, I was reminded again of how much variety that “girl clothes” have to offer. My closet has everything from casual sundresses to dresses perfect for Sunday morning brunch to dresses designed for Saturday nights. If you know what I mean. 😉

Thanks to En Femme’s Modi Mid Bodycon Dress, I have an outfit that would be perfect for going into the office.

Even without seeing the dress itself, its name had my attention. God knows I love bodycon dresses. I work hard to keep my figure (of course, forms and a corset helps) and I loooove how flattering a bodycon dress can be.

At the same time, this is a modi dress, meaning the the hemline usually falls a little lower than my usual style. I love to show off my long legs, so I am drawn to a dress or a skirt that will hit above my knee.

Thankfully with this dress I didn’t have to compromise sexiness with modesty. A girl can wear whatever she damn well pleases, but I PROBABLY wouldn’t wear a super-short skirt to a work meeting.

Take a look!

I look like I am happy that it’s Friday but I am leaving another meeting that should have been an email.

And yes, I know it’s superficial and I’ll keep saying it until the day I die, but I love showing off my legs. I love a dress that appears to be modest, but has a subtle sexiness to it. My legs look realllllly good when I sit down. 🙂

The dress fits really nicely and like everything else I’ve ever worn from En Femme the shoulders are perfect for my body and the dress is complimentary when it comes to contouring. Essentially it gives an impression of hips and curves, particularly where the “top” and the “skirt” meet.

But most importantly, the sleeves are the perfect length. I tend to avoid dresses with longer sleeves as they usually fall to the middle of my forearm. But I also try to avoid sleeveless tops as I think my forearms are too… well, “male”. This dress is exactly what I need.

And it looks good from behind as well.

Again, I love an outfit with a hint of sexiness and the back of the skirt really emphasizes that subtlety.

As long as I being superficial, I love how the dress shows off my curves. My bottom and bust look reallllly good here, lol.

Like the previous outfit I reviewed, I paired this dress with really strappy stilettos. I like the contrast between a seemingly modest look with vampy heels that really catch your eye. If these heels cause you to wince just by looking at them, then a pair of black pumps would work perfectly.

I will likely never go to the office en femme. But it will be fun to live out a fantasy of running errands “after a day in the office”.

You can add this to your wardrobe and take advantage of a one time discount of 15% off your next purchase by using the code HANNAH15 at checkout.

Love, Hannah

Cute and Creative!

Yesterday the MN T-Girls had our monthly event and it was so much fun! We spent the afternoon at Creative Hair Design in Roseville, Minnesota. Creative Hair Design sells wigs, toppers, hair pieces, and hair extensions. The timing was perfect as I am waaaay overdue for a new ‘do.

We were treated to a private shopping event where we all had the opportunity to try on new wigs and pick out a new look. Before the shopping got started we learned a lot about different types of wigs, whether they are heat defiant, lace front, or hand tied. I was surprised at how much I didn’t know about wigs. Their website has a nice comparison between the different types if you’re curious.

After trying on a few different wigs I ordered a new style and I am excited for my new look.

Thank you to Creative Hair Design for a fun afternoon!

Love, Hannah