I don’t know if you are aware of this or not, but the Breast Form Store is sending out emails for the Hera breast forms with you in a red dress on a sofa.
At least I’m pretty sure it is you…
Yes! It is totally me.
I was lucky to review these forms and I am absolutely over the moon about them. I gave the Breast Form Store permission to publish certain photos and I was giddy to see them use one in their marketing.
I absolutely appreciate when I am notified when my pictures pop up across the internet so thank you for letting me know. Usually when this happens I am credited/identified but sometimes it’s for content I would prefer I wasn’t associated with… if you know what I mean,
Love, Hannah
Have a question for me? Oh yes you do. Ask me here!
When I was in my late teenage years and in my early twenties I was, in a way, just starting out. I had been trying on femme clothes for my entire existence but at this point in my life I was beginning to shop for my own clothes… clothes I didn’t have to sneak from my sisters.
This took a new set of skills. Not only did I need to learn about sizes and what would fit me (of course, there is no consistency when it comes to this) but I also had to, hm, be stealthy about this.
I had to learn about to browse through the lingerie department of a store so I wouldn’t stand out or draw too much attention to myself. I couldn’t look like I was shopping for my own wardrobe. I had to be quick but careful.
Selecting new panties also had the inevitable experience of interacting with the cashier, the arch enemy of a closeted crossdresser. Fortunately these days there’s the option of online shopping and self-checkout.
BUT! There’s also the reality that no one really cares. I worked retail in my teens and unless the customer was behaving very oddly I immediately put them out of my mind once I handed them their receipt. Yes, many, MANY men bought femme clothes and I knew WHY they were likely buying a bra. After all, I am One Of Them.
But even if I wasn’t? Let’s face it, people, of any gender, tend to buy lingerie for themselves.
Customers asked the same questions I did when I would shop for femme clothes. “If this doesn’t fit HER (implying they were buying stockings for a lady), can SHE return it?” Oh, I must have thought I was so clever when I asked the clerk these and similar questions. I felt that this line of dialogue would dispel any suspicion that I was buying this cute matching bra and panty for myself.
There are businesses in many cities that are frequented by masculine presenting people who are buying femme clothes. It’s not uncommon for these shops to be more on the fetishy side that sell size 15 stilettos, for example. I would shop at stores like these and the clerks knew I was looking at heels for myself so both the staff and I could drop any charade. Thank God.
Years ago, I was feeling particularly brave one evening. I was also feeling… hm, defiant? Apathetic? I was in the final days of a relationship that was ending and I was feeling a combination of excitement of a new start and anger and sadness over the break up. I hold no ill will towards her. We were both young and both navigating relationships and the new world that one in their early twenties is learning to live in.
She was the first person I ever came out to and well, it didn’t go well. Again, I have no ill will towards her because of this. We were both young and this was decades ago. Living outside the gender binary was not as common as it is now. PLUS! you can be as accepting and supportive of the LGBTQ+ community as you possibly can be… but it’s still a little weird and takes some getting used to when it’s your own significant other telling you that he likes to wear lingerie and high heels.
Since the relationship was on life-support and the plug was getting pulled any minute I saw no reason why I shouldn’t go shopping for lingerie and stilettos. Out of respect for my soon-to-be ex I didn’t dress (well, not that often) while we dated but there was nothing stopping me anymore.
I can’t remember the name of the business I visited and they are no longer operating but this particularly shop sold everything from PVC dresses to skyscraper heels to fetish wear to, well, normal clothes. I tried on a few dresses and heels and the salesgirl and I were chatting openly about, well, THIS side of me.
She opened the glass display case under the register and brought out a pair of breast forms. I immediately felt I was at a precipice of a new world. I was faced with crossing a threshold of my gender identity. Was THIS side of me only about clothes or was there something MORE? Did I simply like to wear lingerie OR was there possibly another gender identity sleeping in my heart? Breast forms symbolized the transition of wearing femme clothes to, well, presenting en femme.
I’m sure it was no more than a few moments but it felt like a lifetime passed as I considered purchasing them. I declined but happily bought a pair of black patent stilettos that would ultimately be purged as the cycle of buying femme clothes and tossing them a few days or weeks later would continue as it would for the next decade.
In retrospect I realize I was contemplating this side of me on a level I had never really considered too deeply before. Was THIS about wearing girl clothes or was THIS about presenting as a girl or was THIS about wanting to BE a girl?
Years would pass until I accepted and embraced what THIS was all about. It’s not just one easy answer. I love “girl” clothes. I’ll wear panties and leggings and nightgowns until I breathe my last breath. I love looking cute and having my makeup done. I love interacting with the world as a girl.
…but transitioning? No. That’s not the right direction for me.
For me, presenting en femme is a combination of a wig, makeup, jewelry, heels, clothes, and SHAPE. I am not trying to pass and I don’t believe in it and even if I did I have no illusion about my ability to blend in. I don’t try to “pass” or blend but I do want to look as femme as I can. There is a difference.
When I started to get serious about “real” clothes I started to invest a lot of time (and money) into my look. The right outfit, the right style, the right color, the right fit, the right everything. Most of us know that a dress looks and fits differently in boy mode vs girl mode. I have some dresses that zip up fine in boy mode but when I have my thigh pads and breast forms? That zipper is not going to zip. I also have dresses that look very unflattering in boy mode but look A-MAZ-ING when I have my corset on.
Through the trial and error of wearing femme clothes you start to learn the nuances of sizing and how inconsistent they are. If you order a dress online or buy heels without trying them on you quickly learn that sizes are more or less arbitrary. Sure, I may be a 12 dress size and most of my stilettos are also a 12… but that number means little when I am out shopping. It’s all about what FITS and what you feel when you wear an outfit.
Since we roll the dice on clothes when it comes to sizing and discovering our style we realize that THIS side of us requires time, money, and patience. It demands a financial investment. That’s NOT to say you NEED a pair of $400 thigh pads or a $200 corset, but whether it’s a pair of cheap panties or the lowest priced lipstick at the store, if you want SOMETHING, be it femme clothes or anything else, you’re PROBABLY going to have to spend money on it.
I don’t mean to trivialize gender identity or gender presentation but if I overly simplify who I am then I must accept that THIS can be, and for me it IS, a very expensive “hobby”.
I had no issue or qualms about dropping money on new shoes or outfits when I expanded my wardrobe from lingerie to proper clothes. Indeed, I was probably a little too… eager to do this and was very much lost in the Pink Fog. But I was always hesitant to invest in forms. It was more appealing to spend $400 on dresses and heels than to spend the same amount on pads.
Eventually I did order a pair of breast forms. But they weren’t REAL forms, mind you. Just a simple pair of silicone padded forms. But they did the trick. Not only on a practical and visual level, but they also impacted me on an… emotional(?) level. That’s not to say I was brought to tears or anything but I loved how they looked and how they made me feel. LOOKING pretty and FEELING pretty don’t always go hand-in-hand.
A few years ago I was sent a pair of forms by the amazing goddesses at The Breast Form Store. To say they changed my life would be an understatement. I felt… and looked amazing. I felt femme, I LOOKED femme. I couldn’t imagine dressing without them.
Whether it’s an iPhone or breast forms, things tend to be redesigned and improved. If you had asked what could be done to improve the forms I was sent I would be at a loss for words (yes, this CAN happen, lol). If anything, I felt that the nipple on these forms was a little too… ah, pronounced. It seemed like I was always nipping out no matter if I was wearing a tight dress or a padded bra.
Buuut I was delighted to find out how wrong I was. I was provided a pair of The Breast Form’s newest forms last year to review and I am delighted to share my thoughts after months of wearing them.
Their website describes the Hera as the ULTIMATE, most PERFECT crossdresser breast forms ever! I mean, that’s a pretty bold and definitive statement. But my God, they’re right, “It’s not bragging if it’s true”, as the saying goes.
If you’ve never worn forms before, terms like “silicone” mean very little. When it comes to forms, in my opinion, it comes down to how they LOOK and how they FEEL. The Breast Form Store’s website has a nice description of the, ah, technical aspects of these amazing forms so let’s chat about my experiences.
I don’t have natural breasts so I can’t comment on whether or not they feel NATURAL. However, I can absolutely attest to how they move with me. How they bounce when I strut. How I can wear them and feel their weight.
The Hera is described as “squishy” which sounds unappealing but it’s a perfect word. I’ve worn my Heras with sports bras and with lingerie and practical bras and there’s been no issue. My forms responded to my tight sports bra and they present themselves in all their cleavage glory when I wear a push-up bra.
There are many options when it comes to the Hera in terms of customization. I provided The Breast Form Store with my measurements and I feel and look proportionate with these forms. Simply put I am amazed at how natural and real I look and feel.
For over a year I’ve worn them each time I’ve gone out, whether it’s a day of shopping or for a photo shoot. Whether sitting, standing, walking, or laying down my forms move with me and rest in a natural way.
Are these forms cheap? No. Are they an investment? Absolutely. Do you NEED forms to be femme? Of course not. Will they help you “pass”? Well, I don’t believe in “passing” as this side of us is for US and what we want to wear and how we feel and think about ourselves.
If you are considering forms, whether it’s time for an upgrade or you’re ready for your first pair, I hope you consider the Hera.
Last year I strutted out of my comfort zone (and honestly? The more I do this, the more I love it) and reviewed and modeled a swimsuit for En Femme.
I hit another milestone recently when I modeled a new suit, also from En Femme. This time? A two–piece.
When I opened the package I was… well, excited and a little intimidated. Which was kind of silly as I’ve modeled and reviewed lingerie before and a swimsuit is similar in what it reveals, but a swimsuit is meant to be worn in public. And a two-piece is meant to, well, reveal more than a tank suit.
But like most things that scare me when it comes to clothes, I wore it anyway.
When I think of femme clothes I have to consider how they will fit my body. If a top has a plunging neckline, I have to think about how it will look when it comes to wearing breast forms. If a skirt is tight I have to think about tucking and which gaff I will wear.
Simply put, a bikini designed for a cis girl body won’t flatter me.
However, like everything else I’ve ever worn for En Femme, this suit fit perfectly. The measurements were spot on, there is enough stretch where needed, and it compliments my body and proportions.
The top fits like a typical sports bra but is made of a Lycra/Nylon blend. The fabric creates a subtle shine and draws attention to the suit. And! The top has pockets for breast forms. The suit can also be worn without forms but it doesn’t look baggy without them. I was a little concerned if my forms were tooooo big for the suit and would show off more cleavage than I would like but this wasn’t an issue at all. I mean, I like showing a little skin but I don’t like a top or a neckline that reveals my forms.
The bottoms also fit very nicely. The back is wide enough for my, well, bottom and the gusset is wide enough for my body parts. No gaff is needed with this suit has it has built-in compression. Worn properly, it will create a nice, smooth front. No matter how much I moved everything remained in place.
A similar product to the bottoms is the Carmen Liu White Lace Classy Thong, also by En Femme. Both of these items are not QUITE a gaff but will flatten and smooth your front.
Sizing with En Femme is rarely an issue and I will advise you take their recommendation to heart and know your measurements and select the appropriate size. The suit is available in black or pink but obvs I HAD to have the pink.
New clothes can lead to new adventures. Wearing beautiful gowns make me want to attend a glamourous event. This suit is pushing me to the beach… a place I never thought I would be comfortable to go to. I felt beautiful and confident.
Thank you En Femme for designing clothes for my body and for this sexy and practical suit.
If you’ve spent more than a minute on my website you will likely realize a few things:
-I heart clothes
-I overthink
-I overthink about clothes
I tend to associate a lot of memories, meanings, and emotions with a particular piece of clothes. Well, femme clothes. I have a lot of neckties that I absolutely have no idea where they came from. On the other hand I have an incredibly beautiful floor length ball gown which fit perfectly before I lost weight that I will never ever get rid of because it was one of the first dresses my wife bought for me.
I am enamored with certain items because of their beauty, even if they aren’t, well, practical. My six inch rose gold platform stilettos? I’ve worn them like twice but my goodness they are magnificent and will forever have a permanent spot in my closet.
Lingerie is a perfect example of pragmatism versus beauty. Tights are more practical than thigh high stockings held by a garter belt, but I chose stockings almost every time.
For years a corset was a perfect example of something that was visually stunning but not something I felt could be worn for long periods of time. But that was because I was wearing them wrong and I didn’t have a proper corset. My introduction to proper corsetry started with my Dita Black Satin Corset from Glamorous Corset.
It’s a stunning piece of lingerie and my goodness did I learn quickly that it required proper training as well as commitment. I had never heard of seasoning a corset before but I learned. Corsetry requires an insane amount of dedication and at first it was kind of intimidating but I quickly realized the benefits of following through.
While preparing for a photo shoot over a year ago I decided to wear my corset which I rarely did for long periods of time. This would be the first time I would wear it for more than several hours and it would be the first time I would wear it outside of my home when I would be getting in and out of a car, going up and down stairs, and doing a lot of walking. Again, it was intimidating and there was a learning curve but it didn’t take long to see the benefits of a proper corset and the results of the hours I put in seasoning it.
Since then I have worn my corset every time I present en femme. Yes, it’s a stunning corset but its equaled by the practical benefits of it. A perfect balance.
I was thrilled when I was contacted by Glamorous Corset asking if I would like to review their Lara Black Cotton Corset with Hip Ties corset. Yes please!
I sent in my measurements and within a few days I received a black velvet bag with the Lara corset in it.
Although I’ve been wearing my first corset for a while and I am very much used to it, I was still taken aback by the beauty of it not only in terms of appearance but also in construction and design of it. I love small, subtle attention to clothes, whether it is a small fabric rose on the front of a pair of panties, and in this case of the Lara I was drawn to the side ties of it. This is a steel boned corset which helps create a more defined (curvier) figure and helps with my posture. I couldn’t slouch if I wanted to.
My second impression? Yes this is beautiful but I have a certain affinity for my current corset and I couldn’t imagine wearing the new one in place of it. This thinking would change.
I spent about a week seasoning it and was quickly reminded that although I am used to A corset it doesn’t mean I am used to ALL corsets. When seasoning one you should wear it for about an hour at first and over time wear it a little longer as you progressively adjust the lacing. A quick reminder if what you’re wearing hurts (be it a gaff or a corset) you’re wearing it wrong. I wear my current corset for up to 14 hours at a time and I naively thought this new one wasn’t going to be as much of a learning curve as it was.
After thirty minutes or so I was very much aware of what I was wearing. It was a relief to take it off however over the next few days as it adjusted to my body it became more and more comfortable and by the end of the week I was wearing it for up to ten hours (in boy mode).
This was one of the items I wore for my most recent photo shoot and although one of my first thoughts was that I would continue to wear my Dita corset I realized that my Lara would now be my go-to corset.
Photo shoots can require a lot of creative movement and posing. This could be reclining or balancing on one stiletto. The Lara moved with me and complimented my figure with every gesture. The seasoning and expert design of it paid off.
I was a LITTLE concerned about stealthing (essentially subtly wearing a corset in public) but this wasn’t an issue as shown in the photo below.
This is a stunning corset. It marries beauty and practicality. It demands commitment. And isn’t that what this side of us is all about?
I keep a lot of physical reminders from previous moments in my life. These could be ticket stubs from a concert or a small rock I picked up from when I saw the ocean for the first time. I associate objects with moments, even if the moment hasn’t occurred yet. This is especially true when it comes to clothes.
During the early days of the pandemic, I found myself buying dresses that I never thought I would wear. Several of these outfits had very thin shoulder straps which I previously avoided as I felt they exposed too much of my torso and I would look too masculine in them. The pandemic reminded me (and still does) that life is short, but what’s even shorter is the time that we have to do what we want.
And yes, this is going to sound shallow and superficial but whenever things seemed bleak and depressing I would often brighten a little when I thought about my new, never worn dresses and they would give me something to look forward to. I daydreamed about the world being a little safer to schedule a makeover, put on a cute dress, and just… try to pretend things were normal.
Over the last two years it felt like the end of the pandemic would never come. Sometimes it still feels that way. Similarly, here in Minnesota it sometimes feels that spring will never arrive. It starts and stops, two steps forward, one step back. We will have a beautiful March day when it hits fifty degrees (which is warm for a Minnesota March) but the next day we’ll get a little snow.
I look forward to different styles and outfits as the seasons change. In July, when the weather is unbearably hot (yes, it does get hot in Minnesota, lol) I start to look forward to sweaters and leather skirts that are perfect for autumn.
Of course, the opposite is also true. Seeing a cute, summery dress makes me long for the days when ice isn’t covering the sidewalk and I don’t have to wear a zillion layers to go outside.
If there was ever a dress made for strutting down the sidewalk on a warm spring day, this is it.
The versatility of this dress surprised me. I think this would look cute with simple sandals or even wedge heels. I don’t have enough opportunities to wear white stilettos so I used this dress as an excuse to glam up.
Alternatively black heels would work just fine and would dress up this outfit even a little more.
Dresses with sleeves rarely flatter my arms, regardless of the length. If a dress has long sleeves they usually only fall far below my wrist. Capped sleeves, such as this dress, tend to bunch up as many dresses aren’t designed for people with shoulders as broad as mine. These sleeves fell perfectly and are another reminder of how En Femme designs dresses for people with the body shape, size, and structure that many of us have.
And of course, my favorite feature of this dress is how short and swishy it is. As perfect as this dress is for a summer day, you may think twice about wearing it if it’s a windy day. Of course for some of us the combination of a breeze and a swishy dress might be what someone is looking for. 😉
The neckline plunges and I think it’s quite flattering if I do say so myself.
These photos were taken on a very, very cold day earlier this year. The frigid temperature paired with this summery dress made me long for warmer weather. Today is the first of April and I am hoping that warmer days, days perfect for this dress, are just a dream away.
I have a deep and emotional connection to clothes. And yes! That is a little shallow, but let me elaborate. The cute purple bodycon dress hanging in my closet? The one I haven’t worn in years? I wore it the first time I went out en femme. The beautiful, floor-length gown that I’ve only worn a few times? It was a gift from my wife. My go-to bra? Whenever I wear it I think about my first lingerie photo shoot. Panties keep me connected to Hannah’s life when I am in boy mode.
I can remember what I wore on most of the significant moments in Hannah’s life. The dress I wore at my first Pride festival. The skirt I wore the first time I went to a mall. I have dresses I am saving for certain occasions, whether it is a gala or simply going out to brunch.
When the pandemic started and I wasn’t going out as much, I bought a dress that I never thought I would have the courage to wear as the straps were quite thin and I felt they showed off my shoulders in a more masculine way than I was comfortable with. But not being able to go out was a reminder that life was short and I needed to do what I wanted while there was still time. I bought the dress, I wore the dress, and it will always represent that there may be a time when I am unable to do what I want and I should live and wear what I choose… without regrets.
Over the last two years, I’ve mostly avoided occasions where large amounts of people gathered, whether it was going to movie or a party. In my boy life, I am not much of a party goer. I like a quiet life. But Hannah is a different story. She’s not much of a partier but goodness does she like dressing up and socializing. Although lockdowns and social distancing prevented her from parties, I never slowed down adding to her wardrobe and buying dresses for a rainy day… or to put it more accurately, buying dresses for a future event.
Some dresses would be saved for a summer day, or an afternoon at the mall when it would be safer to be among a lot of other people. Some dresses were for future, unplanned parties. I would often add a dress to my wardrobe and have a small pang of sadness knowing that I have a perfect dress for a certain occasion, but the occasion couldn’t be planned at the moment. It was a reminder of how much of our lives had changed. So much of our lives were on hold.
I recently added a dress to my wardrobe that is perfect for a party, a party that can’t be planned quite yet, and it symbolizes that better days are coming. Our world, our lives are slowing returning to “normal”. Over the last two years it would often feel that brighter days were so, so far away. But now more than ever, hope is there. The sun will comes out tomorrow, if you will.
Many of my outfits are reminders of past days, previous adventures, significant milestones in my life. This dress, at the risk of sounding over-dramatic, is a reminder that parties, our lives will return.
Please know that I am not trying to gloss over how traumatic and devastating the last the last two years have been, or disregard anyone who is still impacted by the pandemic. We are all, on some level, traumatized by it. We are still, and will be for a long time, impacted by COVID.
Thinking about what I will wear to a party seems shallow in retrospect. But what keeps us going is fantasizing that better days are ahead. Hope keeps me from staying in bed all day. Adding a dress for a day that we dream of coming is the most optimistic thing I can do.
Goodness this is deep for a post about a dress, isn’t it? 🙂
As I looked through the outfits that I would be reviewing for En Femme, I started to think about what event, which occasion each item would be perfect for. The last dress I posted about would be perfect for the office. But this week’s dress? Perfect for the party that is coming, the party that although isn’t on the calendar quite yet, but feels closer than ever.
So, yes, this dress gave me a little hope. Optimism that the things that I previously took for granted, such as dressing up for a night with my friends, are slowing returning.
This dress has an illusion neckline. I love the subtle and sexy see-though that mesh delivers. The dress is short! And I love a short skirt. As a t-girl I used to be self-conscious of my tallness, but I have really come to embrace my height. A tall girl means long legs, and goodness I work hard to keep my legs in shape.
Embracing my long legs was one thing. My shoulders? I still struggle. The last few years I have gotten more secure with them but I still have moments when I feel my arms and frame are too masculine. A dress with sleeves can really make or break how I feel about an outfit. One thing I absolutely appreciate about En Femme’s clothes is that they are designed for my body. If a dress has long sleeves, they are long enough for my arms. If the sleeves are capped, such as on this dress, they are designed to fall where they should. It creates a flattering effect. I love small, subtle details in my clothes. This can be a lacey pattern on my panties, or in this case sleeves that are perfect for my body.
Not only is the skirt complimentary to my legs, it has a nice feminine swish to it. When I stand it falls as it should, but when I sit it drapes itself on my body. And I love that.
As I mentioned, I love subtlety in my clothes. I love a tiny flash of my stockings when I walk. The skirt is short but if I need to be more modest I can do so.
Red is a bold color and goodness you have to be comfortable with drawing attention if you are going to wear it. Keep in mind that I am not saying I am cute by any means, but red will turn heads no matter what. When I selected my heels for this outfit I almost went with red stilettos, but to me the dress is a party dress, so I chose really sparkly heels.
I think red heels and this dress MIGHT be too matchy-matchy for my taste. I also considered really strappy, black stilettos but how often do we have a chance to wear glittery shoes? Not often enough.
I love this dress. I love how it fits, I love how it feels. I love how it made ME feel. The dress inspires daydreams of fancy parties, dressing to the nines, and a part of my life that I miss.
Life is short. Buy the dress. Whether it’s a dress for a day running errands or a cocktail party.
You can add this to your wardrobe and take advantage of a one time discount of 15% off your next purchase by using the code HANNAH15 at checkout.
The wig was cheap. It was around fifty dollars and, well, what did I expect for fifty dollars? Crossdressing takes time, patience, and money. I’ve learned that I need to INVEST in my look. I didn’t learn makeup without guidance and makeup lessons. My feet are not Barbie feet. They are not permanently arched making walking in stilettos as easy as can be. Makeup, heels… demanded practice and trial and error and learning from mistakes and (literal) missteps.
The wig was a disaster. It CRUSHED me. I had expectations of slipping it on and BAM, all of a sudden Elizabeth Hurley was in my mirror. I think I wore the wig for less than a minute and it went into the trash along with the packaging it arrived in.
It was not the magical experience I was expecting. In retrospect I expected too much out of it, especially for fifty dollars.
Discovering and coming into your look is a humbling and empowering journey. This wig killed any hope I ever had of being able to look femme.
Skipping ahead a few years, my wife and I looked over different styles online and soon I clicked “purchase” on a “proper” wig. No shade at Frederick’s of Hollywood, but there is a world of difference between a fifty dollar wig and wigs that cost hundreds of dollars. Different styles matter. Different blends, whether synthetic or heat resistant or human hair (or a mixture) will all create a different look. Different looks create different experiences. Different reactions.
My wig arrived and a few nights later my wife finished my makeup and soon It Was Time. I couldn’t help but flashback to my first wig and I was prepared for the worst. At the moment I had never felt and looked more femme. My makeup was done, I was wearing a blouse and a cute skirt, and of course, four inch black patent stilettos. The wig was the final puzzle piece.
On it went. And the Cinderella transformation I had been longing for finally happened. HE was gone. SHE was the reflection. I couldn’t stop staring. My wife gave me a supportive laugh and said she would meet me in the living room and would give me a little time with Hannah.
This was the second time I realized the transformative power of a wig. Thankfully this experience was an overwhelmingly positive one.
Over the years I’ve more or less committed to a similar style and color of my wigs. My natural hair is black so my wigs are black. The color matches my eyebrows and is less of a departure than if I were to go blonde.
In addition to the Camila Wig my friends at The Breast Form store sent me to review, they also asked me to review their Bali Scarlett Wig. I was more than happy to do so.
If I have two tasks to do, I tend to get the more challenging one completed first. I get anxious about a lot of things and stepping out of my comfort zone can absolutely trigger my anxiety. The Camila Wig was a dark brown color and after a decade of black wigs this would be a new experience. I have friends who change up their wig colors and styles all the time but I don’t do this as easily as they do.
I modeled the Camila Wig first as I wanted to calm any anxiety related to something new as soon as I could. And yes, I know it’s silly to be nervous about a new wig color, but often times rationale and anxiety have absolutely nothing to do with each other.
Luckily I loved the Camila Wig. It wasn’t the shocking change that I had expected. I received a lot of really nice emails and comments about it. You all are so nice. Thank you.
I changed my outfit when it was time for the Scarlett Wig. Since this wig was black I thought a darker dress would be a nice contrast to the dark brown hair/white leather dress look I chose for the first wig.
I slipped on the wig and styled it a little. I was happy by how little styling I needed do to. It was pre-styled and I loved how the hair framed my face. My head, my face is very square from most angles but the waves just tumbled down and reshaped my look into a softer, rounder, and yes, more feminine face.
Although this was a new look, it felt familiar and comfortable. The wavey locks were a departure from my normal straight hair, but the color helped my feel more like ME.
After a few headshots, it was time for a few more… spontaneous pictures. I quickly realized that this was another of those transformative wigs. The Frederick’s wig was a disaster. My first proper wig was a realization that maybe, just maybe I had potential. This wig absolutely deserves to be mentioned in the same breath as these other life-changing wigs.
And yes, I know I am being dramatic. But I bet you can relate.
I felt… flirty. I felt sexy. I felt like the prettiest girl at the party. I was feeling myself… I was feeling LIKE myself.
I mean, look how happy I am.
This wig WAS me. This wig IS me.
I think this is a very good look for me.
You can see the confidence I was feeling.
And that’s the point of a wig, I think. How it makes you FEEL.
Hair can be intimidating. It can require a whole new skill set when it comes to styling. I think that’s why I tend to wear synthetic hair since human hair wigs are harder to maintain and require more styling. This wig in particular has a pre-styled look that is flattering and (thankfully) minimizes the more masculine features my face has.
Love this wig. I love how this look makes me feel. It’s fun to strut out of your comfort zone but there’s nothing like finding a look that feels completely natural, completely authentic…. completely YOU.
Part of my wardrobe is a result of daydreaming and fantasizing.
Some of my daydreams are of galas and fancy parties. I love looking at dresses that would be absolutely perfect for a black tie (or a little black dress) event. Once I was comfortable with leaving my house en femme and I started to do everyday things, my daydreams turned to wearing the perfect dress for spending the day shopping and running errands.
I love the variety of femme clothes. I love that I have dresses that are cute and casual and perfect for meeting a friend for a coffee. I love that I have dresses that would (hopefully) turn heads at a wedding reception.
It’s kind of amazing what I fantasize about when it comes to my life en femme. Running errands in my boy life is about as mundane as it gets but when I think about Hannah picking up a few things at Target then it becomes a LOT more exciting.
I doubt most people spend a lot of time envisioning what they will wear to a store and picking up a few groceries, but I bet a lot of t-girls do. I know I do.
The same thing can be said about going to work. I live my professional life in boy mode (with the exception of underdressing). I am “blended” when I work from home and wear leggings and a femme top. But I do fantasize about what I would wear if I went into the office en femme.
Only a t-girl would daydream about the outfit they would wear in a cubicle. 🙂
As I continue my little series of reviews for En Femme, I was reminded again of how much variety that “girl clothes” have to offer. My closet has everything from casual sundresses to dresses perfect for Sunday morning brunch to dresses designed for Saturday nights. If you know what I mean. 😉
Even without seeing the dress itself, its name had my attention. God knows I love bodycon dresses. I work hard to keep my figure (of course, forms and a corset helps) and I loooove how flattering a bodycon dress can be.
At the same time, this is a modi dress, meaning the the hemline usually falls a little lower than my usual style. I love to show off my long legs, so I am drawn to a dress or a skirt that will hit above my knee.
Thankfully with this dress I didn’t have to compromise sexiness with modesty. A girl can wear whatever she damn well pleases, but I PROBABLY wouldn’t wear a super-short skirt to a work meeting.
Take a look!
I look like I am happy that it’s Friday but I am leaving another meeting that should have been an email.
And yes, I know it’s superficial and I’ll keep saying it until the day I die, but I love showing off my legs. I love a dress that appears to be modest, but has a subtle sexiness to it. My legs look realllllly good when I sit down. 🙂
The dress fits really nicely and like everything else I’ve ever worn from En Femme the shoulders are perfect for my body and the dress is complimentary when it comes to contouring. Essentially it gives an impression of hips and curves, particularly where the “top” and the “skirt” meet.
But most importantly, the sleeves are the perfect length. I tend to avoid dresses with longer sleeves as they usually fall to the middle of my forearm. But I also try to avoid sleeveless tops as I think my forearms are too… well, “male”. This dress is exactly what I need.
And it looks good from behind as well.
Again, I love an outfit with a hint of sexiness and the back of the skirt really emphasizes that subtlety.
As long as I being superficial, I love how the dress shows off my curves. My bottom and bust look reallllly good here, lol.
Like the previous outfit I reviewed, I paired this dress with really strappy stilettos. I like the contrast between a seemingly modest look with vampy heels that really catch your eye. If these heels cause you to wince just by looking at them, then a pair of black pumps would work perfectly.
I will likely never go to the office en femme. But it will be fun to live out a fantasy of running errands “after a day in the office”.
You can add this to your wardrobe and take advantage of a one time discount of 15% off your next purchase by using the code HANNAH15 at checkout.
My wig completes me. It is the final part of my look and even if my makeup is a disaster and my dress isn’t as cute as I would hoping it would be, if my hair is looking good then somehow everything else comes together.
Until I started to wear a wig, I always felt like a “man in a dress”. I could be wearing a pink dress, lacey lingerie, and sky high stilettos after an hour long makeover but I would still feel like a boy. My first wig was… well, it was magical. I can’t describe it any other way. It completely transformed my look and I became… HER… in a way that I never experienced before.
Over time I learned a LOT about wigs. Different styles and cuts and colors of course, but learning about the differences between synthetic wigs, hand-tied wigs, heat resistant wigs… it was a bigger world than I ever could have imagined.
Of course, I also learned about what look suited me best. For years I have only worn black wigs as it was the same color as my boy hair. Whenever I got a new wig, I would notice how my… hm, attitude would change. Some styles made me feel more beautiful, some made me feel younger, more femme.
But there were also styles that did the complete opposite, but let’s focus on the positive.
Sometimes a new style pushes you out of your comfort zone. Sometimes it’s a a dress, a wig, or a makeup style that you would never select for yourself but when you do try it, often at the encouragement from someone else and you find a new look that is… well, perfect. Not only does it LOOK good, but it also… unlocks a new level of confidence that you didn’t know you had hidden inside.
After a few messages back and forth about which wigs I was going to review, I was really encouraged to try a hair color that was different than my normal black. I wasn’t completely sure but goodness the enthusiasm from the Breast Form Store was contagious. Before I knew it, I was opening a box with two beautiful wigs in it. Both beautiful, one was my usual color, but the other… well, remember it’s a GOOD thing to get out of your comfort zone a little. 🙂
The first wig I wore for my photo shoot was the Wig Pro Camila wig. Although I have been wearing wigs for around ten years, I am still learning a lot about them, especially after the MN T-Girlswig fitting event last month. This wig has a lace front and although I heart lace, I had no idea how important this is when it comes to creating an appearance of a natural hairline.
My normal wig is a straight black style, and I keep to this look mostly out of intimidation. I have a hard enough time styling a blouse/skirt combination let alone styling long hair. What drew me to this wig was that it’s pre-styled and it gives me a very natural wavy appearance.
The wig is synthetic which I like. Human hair wigs tend to be pricier and require a lot more care. I also don’t care for heat-resistant wigs as I tend to play with my hair A LOT. Synthetic wigs aren’t as easily damaged by contact with skin (whether your shoulders, head, or fingers) compared to a heat-resistant style.
I was completely won over by this look, and this color.
But goodness, please tell me what you think! This was a bold break from my normal look and I would love to hear your thoughts!
Thank you to the Breast Form Store for my new ‘do and style!
In addition to writing for En Femme, I also do modeling and reviews for some of their products. There’s really nothing that I love more than getting a package from them and booking a photo shoot to model a few items. I received a few different outfits from them recently and had super fun shoot featuring some of their designs. Over the next four Fridays I will be spotlighting some of their clothes.
I am a dress girl. I heart them. I love the variety of styles, fabric, patterns, everything. I love that there’s a dress for every single occasion that I can think of.
Skirts? Not so much.
I mean, I heart them too, and I have quite a few of them in my closet, but skirts intimidate me. To clarify, I am not afraid of them, but skirts need to be paired with a top, obviously. This is where I get a little less confident about planning an outfit.
I don’t feel I am very good when it comes to matching a top with a skirt. The fabrics need to be complimentary, the colors and patterns must pair well with each other, and I am never quite sure if a top should be tucked into the skirt or not.
So, no matter how much I might love a particular skirt, I go for a dress almost every single time.
A few weeks ago I opened a package from En Femme and looked at the clothes I was sent. I thought about which heels I would pair with each dress as well as what accessories I would wear. I also thought about where I could where each outfit. Some were perfect for the office, others for a night out.
And then I got to a skirt.
Specifically En Femme’s Sylvie Skirt. My first thought was a LITTLE… well, panic isn’t the right word, but my mind started to race with thoughts of wondering what to wear with it. This anxiety (and yes, I know it’s silly to feel anxiety over a cute skirt) caused me to consider skipping modeling this particular item.
Buuuut my second thought was being struck at how the skirt FELT. I loved the feel of it. It felt smooooth.
I held the skirt up and saw that it was a midi skirt, meaning that it was going to hang past my knees. I rarely, if ever, wear skirts or dresses that are this long. As much as I loved the feel of the skirt, I still wasn’t sure if I would model it. Despite my uncertainty, I knew instantly which heels I would choose if I did wear it. More on that in a bit.
Buuuut I had to try it on, of course.
And I fell in love.
Here’s why:
Look at that slit. Look at it!
How sexy is that??
I tend to avoid longer skirts and dresses because I love, love, love to show off my legs. I have loooong legs and I work hard to keep them in shape. Covering them up, even on chilly Minnesota January days, isn’t something I do.
I was completely sold on the skirt. I was absolutely going to model it, and I was absolutely going to wear it as I ran errands before my shoot.
But there was still the question of what I would pair it with. I thought about the tops and blouses in my closet but unlike the bolt of inspiration I had for the heels I planned on wearing, nothing was coming to mind.
And then I saw the Cap Sleeve Bodysuit in the package. Problem completely solved.
Here’s what I love about bodysuits. They tend to be form fitting and, like my legs, I like spotlighting my figure and curves. And! they also settle the question as to whether or not I need to tuck in the top I am wearing. Some tops and skirts combinations look better one way or the other, but honestly I hate tucking in my top. It’s a little different than tucking in a dress shirt when I am in boymode. When I tuck in a femme top it just never looks quite right on me. I think I always look a little frumpy.
What I love about En Femme’s bodysuits specifically is that they FIT me. They are wide enough for my shoulders (most “girl” bodysuits aren’t which leads to seams splitting), the sleeves (whether they are capped or extend to my wrist) are always long enough. They are also designed for longer torsos which creates a more flattering fit and there’s less… ah, strain on the snaps between my legs.
And of course, the gusset is wide enough for my anatomy.
I was thrilled (and relieved) the bodysuit and skirt complimented each other so well. When I do have to pair a top with a skirt I tend to play it safe with one item having a pattern (like the bodysuit did) and the other being a solid color (in this case, the skirt).
The morning of my shoot I put on this outfit and I loved how it looked with my shapewear (corset and breast forms). Clothes always look different when I have my foundations on. The bodysuit clung to my hips and just looked… sexy.
The skirt came next and although I could have gotten by without it, I thought a belt would look cute with it. I was right, lol.
As for the previously mentioned heels, I picked a very strappy pair. Since one of my initial thoughts was how long the skirt was, I thought wearing a very sexy pair of stilettos would pair well with a seemingly modest skirt. The high slit makes the skirt less modest than it appears, but I still wore the stilettos.
I ran a few errands before heading to the studio and honestly it was a new experience wearing a skirt with this high of a slit. When I walked (well, strutted) my leg found the slit every time. I loved it. When I stood the skirt appeared to be rather conservative but as soon as I moved….
Sitting in this skirt was also fun. I loved that I could either show off my leg or sit a little more modestly. Of course, showing off my leg was my preference.
The slit IS obviously high. I am well aware my stocking top is visible in these photos. I knew it would be… and I chose to wear to wear stockings because of that. But when I walked or sat down, it wasn’t visible (unless I wanted it be visible). For these photos I wanted to show off a little leg for ya’ll. 😉
One of the things I love about the femme side of my closet is the sheer amount of variety. There’s an outfit for every occasion I can think of. Some of my clothes are kind of… well, impractical for most situations. Yes, the five inch platform heels are gorgeous but let’s be honest, not really meant for running errands. Unless they are Sexy Errands.
But I also love the versatility of my clothes. This skirt is a perfect example of that. I can flash a little leg AND I can be modest. I heart subtle sexiness.
Love this outfit. I love every inch of it. You can add this to your wardrobe and take advantage of a one time discount of 15% off your next purchase by using the code HANNAH15 at checkout.
Thank you to En Femme for the lovely and sexy outfit.
Hannah McKnight 