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Change is inevitable. Growth should be as well. It’s perfectly acceptable to change your opinion on something as years pass or when new information is presented. Time and experience can impact your perspective of something.
This is especially true when it comes to our gender identity. Many of us, myself included, were at one point convinced that this was just about panties (or something similar) but then a little time passed by or we were drawn to, well, something else, such as makeup or skirts. We dipped our toes into new waters and realized that makeup or skirts felt right.
Although we insisted (to our partners and to ourselves) that this was just about panties, we realize that no, this ISN’T just about panties. There’s more and we are just beginning to scratch its surface.
If our gender identity or our wardrobe wishes are evolving, it’s important we are continuing to be honest with our partners and with ourselves. Coming out initially isn’t easy, but in a way we need to keep doing it. We have The Talk, and that might be it for a while. But if your heart is being pulled into a new direction, then we must, well, come out again.
And that’s not easy.
Our partners are likely already on edge about what we’re wearing, and they are likely thinking about where all this is going and if we are being completely honest with ourselves and with them. If they learn that, well, we’re not, then their fears can deepen that there’s something more going on than we are revealing.
Honesty is crucial in any relationship, and is crucial when it comes to our (likely) evolving identity.
Love, Hannah
Hannah McKnight 
Holding back on who we are or want to be for fear that we will hurt someone else or not be loved once we reveal how we want to identify ultimately hurts ourselves and the other individual we are emotionally involved with. Life is short and precious. Do both of you a favor and get honest. Of course it isn’t easy and will hurt, but everyone will be able to move on and be free to live their lives openly and honestly.
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This article could be describing me!
It started with panties, which satisfied me for a long time. Gradually it developed into lingerie, including stockings, garter belts, bras, etc, which felt like the pinnacle of my desires and that I would never need more than this. I told my girlfriend, who is my wife now, which was hard but an important thing for me to do. She was sceptical at first but with my reassurance that I just wanted to wear lingerie occasionally, which was the truth at the time, she accepted it. Being able to wear lingerie openly around her was amazing. I bought all types of lingerie and developed quite a collection. I even tried wearing heels with my lingerie, which at the time seemed beyond anything I could imagine wanting to do. Things contined like this for several years and it became a normal part of our relationship.
Despite my satisfaction about everything I gradually started wanting to try even more. I didn’t tell my wife because of how I’d reassured her before about it all being just about lingerie. I tried wearing a dress, but only secretively. I loved it! I imagined how I’d look wearing makeup and a wig, and found myself wanting to try it. Eventually, after a lot of soul searching and hesitation, I made myself an appointment at a crossdressing makeover company in the city. It was an amazing experience. I was transformed with makeup, a wig and had access to an extensive wardrobe of dresses and outfits. Spending a day en-femme felt wonderful. A photoshoot was included and the results were beyond my wildest hopes about how feminine and convincing I could look.
I really am struggling to find the right way to tell my wife about these developments. She’s been amazing about the lingerie, but I think she might struggle to accept more than that. I’ve been for a makeover three times now and know I’ll want to go again. I’d love it if she could be part of it and I’d love for her to see me transformed en-femme. My worry is that she won’t be as supportive with this progression and that she’ll think I’ve been deceptive about the extent of it all along.
Currently I’m dealing with this dilemma. I don’t know if I’ll be able to tell her or if she could accept it if I did.
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I think this is sometimes why we have so much trouble talking about this. How can we explain what this means to someone else, when we don’t even know?
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