I am looking to start a friendship with a “T-Girl”. Is it part curiosity, part something new and different or something altogether different? Yes and yes. I would have said that I would like to date but I don’t believe you go far without forming a friendship first. Is there a safe site or place to begin a dialogue and maybe more if things are right?
Having not dated in a very long time, I am the last person one should ask advice from when it comes to dating.
I will say this: transwomen are women. Transwomen are everywhere women are. Whether it’s the grocery store or an online dating app. Many dating apps allow more than two choices when it comes to gender identity these days. There may be websites out there specifically for t-girls but I have no idea what they are. I’m sure Google can help.
That being said, t-girls are very used to, and very tired of, of being seen as a fetish, or, as you say, a curiosity. Many men (and I am not saying you specifically are doing this) who specifically seek out t-girls because they have sexualized us and are interested in getting to know us because they want to be…intimate with us. I can only speak for myself, but I think many t-girls are highly skeptical of a guy looking to meet a t-girl for friendship.
I will agree that a relationship needs to be built on friendship first and foremost. However, you state that your goal in seeking out a t-girl for friendship is because you want to date a t-girl comes off as a little insincere. I get unsolicited messages from men who just “want to get to know me” but it’s clear what they want. This is something most t-girls have to live with.
Again, I am not saying that you are like most men who seek out t-girls for “friendship”, but most of us are tired of being seen as a sexual fantasy because of who we are.