As many states have shelter in place guidelines and we are all doing what we can to slow the spread of COVID-19, most of us are spending a lot more time at home. For some of us, this gives us more opportunities to dress and work from home en femme. For others, it means a lot less time to dress.
Being who we are is essential, and I personally know that these past two months have really shown how vital it is for me to be me. Yes, I can dress at home, but it’s not the same.
Still, I am thankful that I have at least that much.
We all know how we feel when we cannot express ourselves. It’s not uncommon for us to feel depressed, anxious, and frustrated. I know how you feel. We all know how you feel.
I recently wrote an article for En Femme about how this point in history can impact this side of us as well as what we can do to still stay in touch with our femme side. I shared some ideas about everything from practicing walking in stilettos to watching makeup tutorials.
But on a more serious note, I wanted to advise caution when it comes to having “the talk” with your significant other in times like this. Yes, you and your partner are likely having a lot more time together, and it might seem like a good opportunity to share this side of you if you haven’t already.
When we come out, we need to be aware and respectful of how our partner is feeling, or anticipating and being prepared for how they may react. This revelation will forever change your relationship and will likely cause stress and tension and a lot of questions.
With the world the way it is currently, things are stressful and scary enough. Adding something like this revelation into the mix is going to make things even more stressful than they already are.
I understand wanting to have this talk right now. If you are feeling stressed and tense because you can’t dress, it’s natural to want to have the talk to have the chance to be en femme. We always need to be aware of the pink fog and how this side of us can cloud or judgement and we may make decisions that might seem like a good idea at the time, but we are not thinking about the impact these choices will create.
If you need support, and we all do, please seek it out. This is a good time to remind us all of Trans Lifeline.
Trans Lifeline is a national trans-led 501(c)(3) organization dedicated to improving the quality of trans lives by responding to the critical needs of our community with direct service, material support, advocacy, and education. Our vision is to fight the epidemic of trans suicide and improve overall life-outcomes of trans people by facilitating justice-oriented, collective community aid.
Need to talk? Call! Our peer support hotline is run by and for trans people. We’re available 7am-1am PST / 9am-3am CST / 10am-4am EST. Volunteers may be available during off hours.
Take care of yourselves, girls. This too will pass.