From Concealing to Revealing

When I first started to fully dress I looked for clothes that would minimize some of my features. I found a new appreciation for layering and how contouring could downplay some of my more masculine facial features. When I started to go out of the house, I did my best to blend in instead of standing out.

But somewhere along the way in my (sigh) journey I stopped caring. I cared less about blending in and embraced my height and the fact that I am transgender and everyone who sees me or interacts with me knows I am transgender. I am going to stand out, so I may as well wear the stilettos and the bright pink dress.

But as confident as I was, I still avoided certain styles, namely dresses that revealed more of my shoulders than I was comfortable with. Spaghetti straps were a no-no. But a few months ago I had an epiphany. Global pandemics can do that to you. I decided that I was holding myself back, and I was tired of it.

So I bought the dresses I wanted to wear and I have never looked back. I wore the dress that kind of inspired this whole new way of thinking for a photo shoot in June and I wore several more of them for a shoot last month.

I have been doing more shopping online than I normally do. Again, a global pandemic can do that to you, but a dress kept popping up as a suggestion. I thought the dress was super cute but I thought I couldn’t pull it off as it was a little more revealing than what I normally wore.

But then I thought the hell with it and clicked “add to cart”.

A couple weeks later I wore it for a photo shoot and I would love to share some of the photos from that day. I hope you like them and I hope we all can overcome these invisible barriers in our lives.

Love, Hannah

7 thoughts on “From Concealing to Revealing

  1. wow you look amazing, very female looking, u could fool me if i see you walk by me, i would see a beautiful lady walking by me, you have the legs of a female and figure of a female, so why not show it off

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  2. I consider one of the major milestones in my life to be the time when I made a conscious decision to not give a damn what others thought of the way I dressed. It was a very freeing moment, and I have never looked back.

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  3. Hannah, that dress is amazing and you look gorgeous in it (love the heels)! I’ve been working up the courage to go for a more shoulder baring outfit, but I was wondering what you wear underneath the dress to support the “girls”.

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    1. Hi Tina

      Look for a “strapless” bra. Or “4-way” or “5-way” (you can wear various ways… halter, crisscross, strapless, etc.).

      Advertised as “strapless” is better. Personal experience is that the labeled band is a size down (something labeled as a 40 band is going to fit closer to a 38 band and the band will have a tight elastic).

      One of the styles I gravitate towards is maxi. This is one of my off the shoulder… if it lets me post a link here https://www.venus.com/viewproduct.aspx?BRANCH=7~72~&ProductDisplayID=70876. Looks like they are discontinuing it.

      I love the way the shoulders front and back, and upper back show, the way the halter tie hangs in the back. So feminine…

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  4. I had a shoulder phobia the first few I went out in public, more than a decade ago. Strangely, I came to understand that sometimes efforts to disguise masculine shoulders inadvertently called attention to them instead. Now I am more self conscious of having a farmer tan than I am about my shoulders or biceps.

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