I have been a Transvestite all my life and dress as a woman on a regular basis with full make up breast forms and an ever expanding wardrobe. I have now reached the stage where I am more content dressed as a woman and it feels more natural for me to be this way. I am beginning to wonder if I am becoming Transsexual and how fine is the dividing line between TV and TS?
The risk of asking for someone’s opinion is, well, getting their opinion. Sometimes another opinion isn’t the same as our own and it can sting a little. Having said that, it is my opinion that terms like ‘transvestite’ and ‘transsexual’ are a little outdated. You may define these terms differently but the prevailing perspective is that ‘transvestite’ is another word from crossdresser. Fun fact! The word’s origins are German with the original word being ‘transvestit’ which has its roots in Latin. ‘Trans’ is a Latin word for ‘across’ and ‘vestire’ means ‘clothes’. This website is very educational. ‘Transsexual’ usually means someone who has made changes to their body (physically or legally or with hormones) and presents as a gender different than the one they were assigned to at birth.
The dividing line is different from everyone. I admit I am not helpful with this question, unfortunately. I don’t feel that transitioning/living full time is the right step for me. I am happy in both of my genders and I don’t feel that choosing one over the other for the rest of my life is right for me. I like options. I think most of us feel calm and contentment when we are en femme. Many of us feel more relaxed when we are dressed. I feel that way too! But I realized it’s because I do relaxing things when I am en femme. When I am in boy mode I am go go go go and I work like a million hours a week. When I am en femme I am spending the day at a museum, dinner with friends, seeing a play, or shopping. These things are relaxing. Hannah does not work, the boy does. Hannah relaxes, the boy does not.
So yes, I am calm and relaxed en femme, but it’s not necessarily because I am en femme. It’s also because I am doing relaxing things en femme that I usually do not do in boy mode. When I am en femme I feel natutral. I feel the same way in boy mode. This is expected, however. I am content in both genders so of course I feem natural. I am bi-gender after all.
It sounds like you are wondering if perhaps transition is the right step for you. I can’t answer that. It might be! I would recommend you meet with a therapist specializing in gender identity and speaking with your doctor.
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