I purged the other day but it’s not what you think.
My closet has been just… overflowing with clothes and heels. Normally it’s a wonderful thing, but it had become out of control. I was essentially out of room.
And yes, I know this is not a bad problem to have. I know I am lucky to have so much clothes. I really, really do understand that.
Picking out something to wear or looking for a specific outfit was becoming unbearable. I couldn’t find anything and being able to look through my wardrobe was next to impossible. Same with my shoes. I have heels that I bought ten years ago that I’ve never worn.
So, it was time to go through everything. I started with dresses and found outfits I’ve never worn before and dresses I forgot I had. Some dresses were met with an “ew, why did I buy that?” and some were “OMG, this is so cute, why don’t I wear this more often?” Although it’s fun to buy new clothes, it’s equally fun to find something you forgot you already had. I sorted everything into two piles, one to keep, the other to put in storage in a hope chest (and now my hope chest is overflowing but that’s a problem for another day). As I went through these dresses I remembered learning the importance of knowing your measurements and that a dress might look cute online but it might be cringe when you get it.
I then moved onto tops and skirts, but I kept all of these. I don’t own a lot of blouses and skirts compared to dresses and there’s a lot of potential to put together a lot of different outfits with a good blouse and a cute skirt, so for practical purposes I held onto all of these.
The heels were next and goodness was I reminded of how much I’ve learned over the last decade or so. I used to buy almost any heel that was my size. It didn’t take long for me to learn that a size 12 doesn’t mean anything, you have to try on shoes (if you can) before you purchase them. I tossed the heels that didn’t fit and the heels that were too scuffed and scratched to wear again. By the time I was done, the shelf in my closet was no longer sagging from the weight.
As I get older I am noticing I want to simplify more. I feel that I have accumulated too much and I own too many things. I am learning to let go of things that I will never use, read, or wear again. Of course, this is easier said than done. Unfortunately what is working directly against this desire to pare down is getting more nostalgic as time passes. While going through my closet I founded dresses that I wore for my first photo shoot, or dresses I was sent to review. There’s a lot of memories associated with outfits like that and I found it hard to decide whether to keep them in my closet or into storage. And yes, putting something into storage isn’t getting rid of it, but it also means that I don’t think I’ll be wearing it anytime soon (or ever again).
It was a lot of work going through my closet, both physical as well as emotional. It’s kind of silly because I know that a dress is just fabric but I think a girl like us has a deeper, more complex relationship with clothes than others. A dress might be just a dress to someone else, but for me, it’s a symbol. It represents something. It might be the first dress I ever bought, or it might be a dress that I had worked up the courage to try on in a store, or a dress I never thought I’d be brave enough to wear. A dress might be a symbol for our femininity. A dress is more than the material it’s made of, it’s so much more to a girl like us.
Today my closet is a lot more manageable and I am excited to wear outfits again that I forgot I owned… and create new memories with them.
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Hannah Girl, I totally understand Closet Crunch. Just did it this past week. Shed more than 60 items all for good will. Looking for a Second Hand Store that will take the six gowns etc. However, back to original challenge. I cheated– drafted a good CIS girl friend, who is the big sister I never had, to help me with the challenge. Having a second opinion made it so much easier and it quickly became FUN. Of course sharing a glass of bubbly helped. Marie Anne
Oh! Hannah this is so true. Having been crossdressing for many years and a life member of Tri-Ess, I appreciate the memories associated with items in the closet . Recently I had some shoes repaired that I wore when my wife and I attended the symphony together. I appreciate your reflections on living this life because I can tell that even though you encounter difficulties you still enjoy “being a girl!” Pippin
I recently went through my female clothes and heels – space was definitely at a premium! I did put several things in a donation bag and threw out some others. It was interesting to look at some of my first purchases and realize that I would never wear them again, so they went. Now I can make new memories with the new items I have bought (or will buy soon!).
I’m a lucky girl I guess in that since my divorce I’ve lots of closet space and yes I’ve my ladies things in all 3 lol.
I kinda have them organized by season but with that said I did remove many items a few months ago.
I too am trying to be more simple
I don’t wear many dresses so those are few, I love casual cloths for spring and summer and sweaters and leggings for winter.
So that’s how I’m trying to simplify it all
I know that feeling too -both cloths my mine and cleaning out what I don’t need and old and ever wore for sometime ps cute outfit and heels in pic of you