Hannah, I’m a twenty year old male who is trying to be femme, why do I have an erection when ever I dress femme?
The simplest answer is that you are aroused. But anyone with a penis knows that erections are caused by that. I think what you may be asking is why dressing en femme arouses you. Well… only you can answer that. For some of us, crossdressing/wearing femme clothes is a kink, a fetish. A fetish is something, it could be anything, that one associates with sex and/or arousal. It could be anything from a body part to a 6 inch stiletto. No one really knows why somebody has a certain fetish, it’s just how someone is wired. At one point in someone’s life, usually in childhood, they saw something and immediately liked it and were intrigued by it. They looked at it in a way they’ve never looked at anything else before… and it became a fetish.
IF crossdressing/wearing lingerie (or anything else) IS indeed a fetish for you, it will likely ALWAYS be a fetish. You MIGHT always be aroused by it. OR! you will simply get used to dressing and the sexual nature of it will diminish over time. Gender identity is something that evolves over the course of a lifetime. Dressing femme might be a turn-on today, but you may realize someday that THIS is more than THAT.
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