Sexy But Not Sexual

From time to time I get a little uninspired by what is in my wardrobe or on my Amazon wish list when it comes to outfits for a photo shoot. Sometimes I’ll ask others for suggestions on Twitter and usually the responses are either pretty vague or, well, very specific.

The ambiguity is usually along the lines of “leather!” or “lingerie!” or “anything you want!”. More than likely I am already considering something shiny or revealing (or something that is revealing AND shiny) so that should make those requesters happy. I appreciate the interaction and the suggestions and I really appreciate it when someone suggests a specific leather dress or a certain lingerie set and sends a link where to buy it.

It’s even more appreciative when they send a gift card so I can obtain it, lol.

When someone requests a very… niche look it’s often an insight (not that I am necessarily wanting this) into their specific… interests.

I’ve had some men email very detailed requests. Like, almost in an unnerving way. The message starts pretty normal. Well, as normal as these emails usually are. I’ll get a request for a schoolgirl look, for example. And we all know this look. Short plaid skirt, white stockings, black Mary Janes…

It’s a cliché but that’s okay.

…But then the email goes into very specific details. The type of panties I should wear, the pose, my facial expression, the color of my lipstick…

And it’s too much.

While it’s true I ask for suggestions, I feel that some requests can be overreaching. Requesting a look or an idea ofr an outfit is one thing, but when we tiptoe into territory beyond that I feel, well, objectified. I wonder if it’s a power thing? Like the dude is aroused by commanding/ordering a girl to dress and pose exactly to his liking.

Then again I might be overthinking it.

Some requests are, I assume, very much inspired by a fetish or a kink that the person has. The previously mentioned school girl, French Maid, dominatrix, sissy… all very normal kinks. Well, normal for us, I suppose.

And while I wouldn’t call it interesting by any means, it’s… well, it’s something when a request or a suggestion is something that I wouldn’t have thought of.

Sometimes I think to myself “wow, THAT is a kink for you??”

To be fair, these types of of requests aren’t necessarily, well, disgusting. Some are though but I suppose that’s part of the, ah, appeal, to some of them.

Some of the more recent requests (that aren’t just straight up gross) include:

-Stilettos and a t-shirt (and nothing else)

-Leather gloves (and nothing else)

-Raincoat (and nothing else)

-Painted toenails (and nothing else)

You probably have picked up on a pattern.

I’ll never do a nude shoot so stop asking, lol.

And really, you don’t want that. In my pictures I present a very feminine look whether I am wearing a bodycon dress or lingerie. But under the dress, under the corset, there is nothing (besides a lack of body hair) that is, well, traditionally feminine.

I have a cis male body. I don’t have curves or an hourglass figure. I achieve this courtesy of thigh pads and breast forms and a corset.

And of course I am not going to do a nude shoot because I am not going to put those types of pictures out there. I do have some limits and boundaries. I try to be classy even in a leather dress or in a bra and panty.

And I never want to kink shame but feet??? I mean, I think a French pedicure is cute and I heart stilettos but my goodness I don’t see anything sexual about a foot.

I have no intention or interest in understanding someone’s fetish. I don’t spend any time wondering WHY certain clothes (or lack of) appeals to someone. But even after all this time I still… marvel at how an innocuous piece of clothing, like a raincoat, stimulates someone sexually.

And yes, it’s possibly not the raincoat itself. Perhaps it’s someone imagining what someone is (or isn’t) wearing under it. I suppose I have a hard time wrapping my head around much of this because none of who I am is about sex or related to a fetish.

Yes, I’ll wear clothes that are typically associated WITH a fetish (be it leather or sissy dresses) but really, it’s all about the clothes itself. I love latex but I am not aroused by it. I love wearing lingerie but it doesn’t arouse me. Does that make sense?

Love, Hannah