There are a LOT of fetishes and kinks related to, well, all of this.
It’s pointless to try to understand why someone has a kink or fetishizes something. It’s just how they are wired. Some people see a pair of gloves and think “yes, that is a pair of gloves” where others will feel that gloves are the most erotic thing someone can wear. One day they saw gloves and they instantly reacted in a way that is different than others. Lord knows why and I am not judging anyone. Promise.
I really don’t think there is anything wrong with a kink or a fetish. As long as it is safe, ethical, and that everyone involved is consenting and enjoying themselves it’s (probably) fine.
I can see the draw of most kinks and fetishes even if they don’t appeal to me. One kink that I think I understand the most is Forced Feminzation.
But! There’s a lot of levels to this. Ultimately everyone involved in anything has to be consenting. Yes, Forced Feminzation implies that this is against someone’s will and that’s part of the eroticism, but I think in order for FF to be ethical the person who is being “forced” to be feminized has to be willing to do so.
There’s a LOT of erotic literature out there and a lot of it follows the common troupe of a young man being forced to dress up by their aunt or a husband who is transformed into a sissy as a form of punishment. Even in a piece of fiction I flinch at someone being forced to do something against their will.
(I also couldn’t relate to the protaganist in these stories because no one would ever need to force me to dress up haha.)
I think many of us like the idea of FF because we WANT someone to WANT us to be femme. If you are out to your partner then you probably can relate to them at times to being less than enthusiastic about this side of us. Even if you have a supportive spouse there were likely times when this side of us caused stress or an argument.
There are times when I feel selfish when it comes to this side of me. I feel guilty when Hannah is out on a Saturday but my wife is home doing house stuff.
I think many of us want our partners to be happy AND if being feminized makes them so, then everyone wins. We know that crossdressing/being en femme makes us happy but if this side of us made our wives happy as well? Jackpot.
FF can also let us pretend that we hate girl clothes or lets us deny that we love dressing up. There’s often an element of “my wife is making me wear a dress and I feel so embarrased.” I think some of us are scared of this side of us so pretending to hate this is a way for us to wear a pretty dress AND at the same time avoiding the fact that we really do like wearing a pretty dress.
The fear comes from acknowledging that this side of us is real and it’s not going away. We are scared of what this means. We are scared of what our lives might be like if we accept ourselves. We might be scared that someone will find out, that you will lose friends, or even scared that transitioning might be right for us.
I suppose one could easily argue that I am overthinking a kink but I am not sure I am. This is the rare kink that I feel I understand the psychological reason why it’s appealing and why it’s a fantasy. Essentially FF is a way for us to make someone else happy AND wear pretty clothes at the same time. It’s a dream for many of us that this side of us makes someone as happy as we are.
I would feel remiss if I didn’t mention the sexual aspect that some FF has. Fantasies of a husband being forced to dress up AND then forced to sleep with other men is really icky to me. Again, consent is important to me, even when it comes to fiction.
A few weeks ago I posted a series of magazine covers and I had a lot of fun making them. Fun fact: Whenever I post a Photoshopped book cover or whatever it’s usually an indication I am having a REALLY boring day at work.
I tweeted one the other day (please note my concept of time varies so sometimes “the other day” could be anything from Wednesday to seven months ago) and someone asked if they could make one as well. A few days later this popped up in my messages.
Although the cover blurbs a little spicier than what I used on mine, they are more in line with what a typical issue of Cosmo features and is faithful to the source material. I am also not the most popular girl on the internet. I am not even the most popular girl in my house.
If you want to see more of this creator’s work and you enjoy FF, you can see more images and read stories on Annabelle’s website. It probably goes without saying but their site is very adult, not for minors, and NSFW.
Love, Hannah
Hannah McKnight 
I think you are sooo spot on regarding the FF thing here!
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This is a very funny line from your post
“I am not even the most popular girl in my house”
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Thank you! I thought it was pretty good lol
Love, Hannah
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The excitement of FF stories becomes dulled by the sameness. There are only a few scenarios. But there isn’t really a great difference between fantasizing about being a superhero, GOAT football player, a feminized male or a sissy. They are all excitement generated by being someone, or something different. When I was a kid, I pretended to be Superman, as an adult, I fantasize about being a fully deminized sissy! That can be a very healthy emotional outlet. Within reason. HK helps the visualization!
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There was a time when I was trying to understand myself that FF did it for me it gave me a reason to want to wear cute clothes or panties and a bra but eventually I figured out I just needed to be ok with who I was and that my gender identity was different than most males.
I do also have a kink kinda related to my gender and it’s ABDL, if you don’t know what that is well message me.
Anyways all very good points here Hannah
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I think you are spot on. I know for me, I’ve done some FF and looked into it more, because I saw it as a way to “make me face my truth ” (not sure if that’s worded right), I’ve felt that I’m much more feminine than I present or will let myself present. And FF helps me get to that space where I’m happiest
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I think you are spot on. I know for me, I’ve done some FF and looked into it more, because I saw it as a way to “make me face my truth ” (not sure if that’s worded right), I’ve felt that I’m much more feminine than I present or will let myself present. And FF helps me get to that space where I’m happiest
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Great article again Hannah and right on target also. Where did you get the dress and heels on the Cosmo cover??? So jealous..👠👠💋
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Great blog post, Hannah!
I used to really fantasize about FF, not not necessarily as “forced” as I think many fantasize about… to me, my fantasies usually consisted of a gal pal asking me to be in her wedding, but pleading with me to be in it as a bridesMAID (not as a man who wears a tie in the color of the bridesmaid dresses). I don’t know how realistic that is, but it meant having an acceptable excuse to be my true self. I’ve read other FF stories, but most were too spicy for my tastes (though I think that was mostly my attempt at resisting the sexual thrill out of fear that this whole thing was a fetish… that’s obviously changed quite a bit for me now that I understand my gender identity better).
All that being said, I’m thankful for the many creative ways people have to explore themselves more, and that includes FF.
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Aliciateresa, thanks for the response. Did you read “Bridesmaid for a Friend”? sound like something you would like on my blog.
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FF stories are, in general, pretty good. Yes, it is sexual and titillating. “Fictionmania.tv” is a great site for these stories. “The Valkyrie” site was very good too, but unfortunately, no longer available.
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I’ve always enjoyed the trope in film and television where a butch woman (usually a cop or firefighter) is forced to wear a dress for the first time since middle school. She squirms and complains about the heels and the fussy skirt but in the end sees the power of her own femininity the expressive delights of girly clothes. So if women aren’t ALL pre-programmed to enjoy femme expression, why should we expect men like me to be pre-programmed to find it objectionable? Men can be poets, painters, dancers and composers, but not participants in femme expression? I cannot accept that and I will not comply with such an expectation.
Angie
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To me it’s about giving yourself permission to cross the gender rubicon and not just the dress side of it from our early condition and I entirely agree with you about consent and even in fictionalized accounts the lack of kind of feels…off.
Regards Tammy
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