Cruelty and Creativity

“Well, that’s not very nice” was the first thing I thought. And then I remembered when some people make decisions, cruelty IS the point.

They WANT to be hurtful.

Criticism can sting, but if done with good intentions, and when done gently, then it can be very helpful. There’s a difference between “ur ugly” and “it’s a beautiful dress but I am not sure that neon purple is your color”.

I received a fun little comment last week, and clearly they wanted to be cruel.

sad: I remember when you at least tried to look Female. You got to change: to your age and concepts. Legs too beefy bony and your male age attributes are showing through. Soon the Ai generators will expose and there goes the marriage, if not lost all ready.

too bad you gave hope initially and now you reap from sponsors leaving the Mn gurls behind.

it time to partner up in Kenwood and practice your truth.

I almost didn’t approve it, but what the hey.

I also didn’t intend to comment on the comment itself, but it provided some inspiration. More on that in a moment.

This was a pretty pitiful comment, and made even more so by the writer posting anonymously. Of course, I don’t expect someone to post their legal name but goodness, if you are going to make such a strong comment, show some backbone and own up to it.

But then again, if I wrote something this mean and something that had as many grammatical errors as this comment, I wouldn’t want my name public either, lol.

Anyway, let’s dissect this little tirade.

sad: I remember when you at least tried to look Female. You got to change: to your age and concepts. Legs too beefy bony and your male age attributes are showing through.

Who is to say who does and does not look female? What are the standards one must meet to look feminine? Is this person part of a committee that decides who does and does not look feminine?

How can a leg be beefy AND boney?

Also, my body is aging in a way that is normal for someone with XY chromosomes and with the amount of testosterone that I have. Besides, I think I look pretty okay for someone who turns fifty this year.

Soon the Ai generators will expose and there goes the marriage, if not lost all ready.

I have no idea what this means. And my marriage is pretty amazing, thanks!

too bad you gave hope initially and now you reap from sponsors leaving the Mn gurls behind.

I am not sure who the ‘Mn gurls’ are, but the MN T-Girls are going strong. After more than eleven years and over one hundred events, we still meet each and every month. I have not abandoned the group and have no plans to.

Also, my website is not sponsored by anyone. I do write for The Breast Form Store and Xdress, but these are commissioned writings and I was approached by them. I partner with The Breast Form Store for Wishlist, but they do not provide me with any sort of financial compensation for what we make. I still make videos with En Femme and I assure you that the expenses outweigh the payment received. This is not to say that En Femme doesn’t properly compensate me, but I choose to invest my own money in addition to what they pay in order to make the videos of the highest possible quality that we are able.

I feel these writings and videos are still very much in the spirit and values that I post on my own website. I am sorry that you feel that I apparently have sold out. Trust me, I have had opportunities to make a lot of money if I wanted to, but those opportunities are not in sync with my values.

it time to partner up in Kenwood and practice your truth.

Kenwood? What does my blender maker have to do with gender identity?

Anyway, like I have done in the past, I plucked out a line in this comment and used it as inspiration for new entries in my little Photoshop series where I create record covers with titles that come from comments like this.

And bonus! I was inspired to make TWO images.

For the first image, I had to correct the commentor’s misspelling from “all ready” to “already”.

I really like these two! I think they are my best ones yet. Although I don’t really like comments like the one above, it does give me an opportunity to be creative and turn something negative into something a little fun.

It’s also a reminder that I can choose how to respond to cruelty.

Love, Hannah