Hi Hannah I have a general question for you, how tall are you? I’m 6’2” and very conscientious about my height and it is holding me back from getting out exploring my female self more, My dressing has been limited to home and occasionally out for a drive, but I think it’s time to get out and about?
I am actually the same height as you and I can absolutely relate to how you feel.
There’s not a single thing I can do about my height. I stand out, regardless of my gender presentation or what I wear.
Well, let me take that back. I may not be able to reduce my height, but I can, and I did, change my mindset.
First, there’s no such thing as a height requirement when it comes to girls. No girl is too tall, too short, too old, too curvy, too anything to be a girl. There’s no parameters someone needs to fit into when it comes to gender identity.
Secondly, I am going to be tall no matter where I am. So, I may as well be tall in the real world doing what I want. Waiting for something to happen, such as magically shrinking six inches, isn’t going to ever happen.
Third, I don’t believe in passing. Similar to the first point, I don’t think I am too anything to present as femme. There are countless things that will “give me away” when it comes to someone guessing I was assigned male at birth. My voice, my jawline, my overall maleness… even if I was as petite as my wife people will probably know I am transgender. Which is fine, I am transgender. I don’t care if people know that. I am proud to be transgender.
And finally, I LOVE being tall. LOVE IT. I LOVE towering over everyone, lol. I love the tallest stilettos. I am going to stand out no matter what. I am a t-girl so that in itself is going to turn some heads. I am wearing a dress in a world of sweatpants. If I am going to stand out, I may as well wear whatever I want, right?
Remember, you live your life for yourself. You can’t live your life to fit the expectations and arbitrary standards that someone else has. There are ALWAYS going to be people in the world you think that a girl is too tall, too ANYTHING to be pretty. I knew there was no hope for winning everyone over when I saw a guy online call Margot Robbie “mid”. If he doesn’t think Margot Robbie is gorgeous what chance do I have?
Wear the heels, strut your stuff, embrace your height.
And have fun!
Love, Hannah
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Hannah McKnight 
I’m saving this one! I too am 6`2 and always thinking about it. I’m fact, while I refuse to wear flats, I’ve been downgrading to the smallest heels I could find.
The one part that is different for me than at least Hannah, I know, it’s that I do hope to meet and date men, and being tall does have that same limiting factor that tall cis women face of a reduced dating pool.
I think I’m going to read this article right before every time I go out!
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Thank you, Hannah—I couldn’t agree more! fun fact: I’m also 6’2″.
So go for it—wear what you want, embrace your confidence, and unapologetically be yourself. What feels tough at first will hopefully become second nature, and even a lasting source of joy.
Cheers!
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Another tall Tgirl here and yes I too was concerned about my height but I overcame it by noticing other cis tall girls and knew I could just go out and own it.
And yep I have
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also 6’2” I noticed other tall women when I finally began getting out regularly. As in so many aspects of life, I was not alone!
oh, and btw, I also say that on-line post by a guy referring to Margot Robbie as a “mid”. Yet another internet troll desparately hoping to elevate himself by disparaging others.
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hello Hannah as therapists will tell you there is no one way of being a woman. I get hung up on not looking pretty but when I look around now there are many plain looking women. We need to focus more on our personality and just being a happy and fun girl no matter what we look like. Cyndi Lauper said it best – Girls just wanna have fun!!!
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Well, I’m 5′ 6″, so I had the opposite. I was always the smallest kid in class, so its about time being short worked for me for something. That said, I have several trans and cis girlfriends who are tall. To Hannah’s point, go with it! If you’re tall, rock it! If you’re short, rock it! There’s no height requirement and you’re not going to get any shorter, so if you want to go out, get out and enjoy yourself.
Hannah also hit on something key, “passing” isn’t about being beautiful or having the perfect make-up or the absolute right outfit or even how cute you are. Its about feeling like you fit in. So, if those things can help your self-confidence, that’s good, but remember most women aren’t super models, most women aren’t fashionistas. Most women are generally average looking, but they pass every day. Why? Because they know they fit and they don’t doubt themselves.
So, find what give you your confidence and rock it!
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