Hi! I have a new article for Pillow Talk, a series I am doing with Xdress!
It’s so easy to overthink sexuality, especially when there are, well, options when it comes to how one can identify. Straight, gay, bi, heteroflexible, pansexual… Like gender identity, these labels (god I hate that term when it comes to people) can be either affirming or limiting.
They can be affirming because it can be comforting and reassuring to know that others feel the way you do and that there’s a label (ick) for people like yourself. But it can also be limiting because you may not feel that a label (ugh) is a perfect fit.
I do not think people are born heterosexual. I think the whole BOYS LIKE GIRLS thing is very much a societal expectation. Similar to gender, we are “encouraged” (putting it lightly) to be straight.
We like who we like, we wear what we want, and life is better when we allow ourselves to be who we are.
I don’t feel that most people are as straight as they think they are, or want to be. I believe the walls between sexual identities are thinner than many people think they are.
I know not everyone agrees with me, but I don’t think anyone BECOMES bi/not straight when they are en femme. I don’t think a change of clothes shifts someone’s sexuality. My perspective is that if someone flirts with the fantasy of being with a man when they are dolled up then they are likely already prone to that daydream, but a change of clothes allows us to be a little more… open to possibilities.
Love, Hannah
Hannah McKnight 
I think you’re on to something. I think a lot of people are bi to a degree.
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This is a topic I’ve thought about quite a bit in my CD journey. As a man, I know which men are attractive but I’m not attracted to them. But as soon as I slip on a pair of panties (or any sort of feminine attire), it’s like a switch in my brain flips and I’m suddenly very attracted to those attractive men, my mind filled with debaucherous desires that would make “regular me” blush.
I read somewhere that dressing enfemme gives me the “permission” to have these buried feelings for men. Perhaps that is the case. It’s yet another facet to ponder of this CD lifestyle. Ciao! Elise
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I think that being en femme allows a lot of us to be a different version of ourselves. I know when I’m en femme I feel much more confident and outgoing. In boy mode, I can be very quiet and reserved. En femme, I’ll wear outrageous outfits, go pole dancing and talk with just about anyone. I think the same applies with sexuality. Much like in kink and BDSM, there’s an aspect of “forced” that many like. Forced feminization allows many to dress without the guilt since they didn’t want to wear those clothes, they were “forced” to wear them. The same with “forced bisexuality”, they don’t have to be guilty about being with a guy since they were “forced”.
I agree with you that sexuality isn’t as structured as many people think. Certainly looking at things like the Kinsey scale, I think most tend to fall in the middle and terms like straight and gay might not always be completely accurate.
Don’t be afraid of what you like. Now, don’t take unnecessary chances, after all, “all things in moderation”.
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