Hi! I have a new article for The Breast Form Store!
This is the second part of a tiny little series and you can read part one here.
Relationships where one person is non-binary (whether that person identifies as a crossdresser or in a different way) take work (obviously) but they typically require a significant amount of communication and compromise.
The reality is that most of us who are in relationships would probably like to have MORE than what we have. For example, I would love to paint my nails more often. Working from home allows me a lot of freedom in my appearance, but with my wife’s sister often dropping by with little or no notice, I have to be able to be able to present as masc quickly. I can’t remove my pink nail polish while she is parking her car in our driveway.
Now, I am lucky. Not painting my nails is a significantly small thing relative to what I have. Our relationship has taken a lot of communication and trust and time and patience. It wasn’t easy for me or for her, but any change in our relationship needed to happen organically and gently.
I wanted to go a million miles an hour when I first came out, but telling my wife (then girlfriend) that I wore panties was overwhelming enough. Once she made peace with that, we were ready for the next phase, if you will.
This happened over the course of years.
If I had disregarded her feelings and didn’t wait for her to be prepared for the next part of my journey, everything would have derailed. Essentially this would have been akin to not respecting her boundaries and not listening to her.
Not listening to your partner is, well, a relationship killer, regardless of the issue, whether it is crossdressing or something else.
Love, Hannah
Hannah McKnight 
Yes I very much made the mistakes of going to fast but it really didn’t happen till later in my marriage I began to take advantage of some of her acceptance as a license to go all the way.
Big mistake, huge. To quote Julia Robert’s in Pretty Wonmen
It went down hill after that
We tried to compromise but it was never enough for me so my 35 year marriage ended.
I do blame myself for a lot, looking back I do wish I had understood her feelings better
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Absolutely agree with you, Hannah. I still catch myself trying to sprint ahead, Ut’s hard not to when everything finally starts making sense. But yeah, I’m in that process now. Communicating with my wife openly has been the only way we’ve been able to move forward together. It’s not always easy, but it’s worth it.
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