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Hi Hannah, I do crossdress a little myself but being an older person it’s very difficult so most is done behind close doors or under my male clothes. This really frustrates me but it keeps me safe I guess, I am also a very avid admirer of crossdressers and I have no fears of going out with someone for a drink, coffee, etc.
I understand you are married but my question is do crossdressers like male attention or are they simply not looking for admirers.
I know this is a vast question as everyone may and probably will have a different answer but I was just looking for a general answer.

The general answer is ‘maybe’.

It depends on the person. And it likely depends on the kind of attention.

I can’t speak for anyone else, but I am pretty sure I am not alone in how I feel. I don’t want any attention specifically from men. What I mean is that I dress for myself, I exist for myself. If I get attention from anyone, regardless of their gender, well, that’s really out of my control.

When men do approach me, either in real life or virtually, I am highly skeptical and wary. Yes, they may be nice and they might be a gentleman, but in my experience it doesn’t take long for most men (please note that I said MOST, not all) to reveal their true intentions.

And we all know what those intentions are.

Whether it is fair or not, whether it is the reality or not, men pursuing transgender women tend to be thought of as chasers, men who fetishize transwomen. Fetishizing someone is not that different, in my opinion, to objectifying them.

That being said, there are many femme-presenting non-binary people who do want attention from men. And for some, the desired attention is indeed intimate. For some girls, attention from men can be very validating to their gender identity and gender presentation. Some girls want to experience EVERYTHING that many cisgender women experience, and that includes being intimate with men.

Every girl is different when it comes to her preferred interactions with men. And this preference is almost always based on her previous experience with men. I know that not every man is creepy but there are enough men who create very uncomfortable moments with women (putting it lightly) that it’s not a surprise that most women are very skeptical and wary (again, putting it lightly) when it comes to all men.

Putting it a different way, if one dog bit you, you would very likely be very cautious, apprehensive, and nervous about EVERY dog for the rest of your life.

Love, Hannah

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