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I had a strong curiosity about wearing girl’s underwear for a long time, but didn’t let myself try it for fear of what it would mean about me. That changed very recently when I finally gave in to the urge and just tried it. I instantly loved it. Wearing lingerie felt exciting, sensual and erotic, and watching myself in the mirror dressed in lingerie really was an incredible thrill. However, now I’m trying to understand why I liked wearing girl’s underwear so much.

I’m straight and don’t feel any uncertainty about my masculinity. I haven’t told my girlfriend about this and feel like I need to understand it myself before I even think about that. Any thoughts or advice will be really welcome. Help!!!

Hi!

Whether it is pink nail polish or a wedding gown, there’s not a single article of clothing that will change or modify your sexuality.

However! As you start to explore your gender identity, you may realize that you are not as binary (whether it’s gender or sexuality) as you thought. And if you’re not straight, well, does it matter? You can still like girls without identifying as straight. Sexuality, like gender, has more than two options.

As for WHY you enjoy wearing what you wear, I don’t think the WHY really matters. And I know that’s not helpful. I mean, you have a significant and unique and special aspect of yourself that you are discovering, there HAS to be a WHY, right? There probably ISN’T, beyond this is just how you (and countless others) are.

My thoughts on the WHY of crossdressing can be found here and here.

The reality is that you may never really understand. And that is totally okay. I don’t think it’s something that we need to understand. Rather it’s something we need to acknowledge, accept, and hopefully embrace.

When it comes to your girlfirend, I would encourage you to spend some time reading my thoughts about relationships and crossdressing. Most of these writings are focusing on marriage but almost all of it can be applied to any significant relationship. There is admittingly a LOT there but there’s a LOT you need to think about and prepare for when it comes to this conversation.

One more thing. This may or may not apply to you, but please don’t wear your girlfriend’s panties. Buy your own, lol. Wearing someone else’s underwear tends to make that person feel really uncomfortable.

Love, Hannah

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