Ask Hannah!

Who carries the men’s blue lace shorts lingerie. Wish I could attach photo but they are a bit short and not as loose in the legs as the one on Xdress website, the black ones.

I really have no idea.  I am sure there are many blue lace shorts so I’m sorry that I can’t be more helpful.

If you think about it, this is really an amazing time for those who are non-gender conforming , crossdressers and anyone that loves to wear pretty undies.  You can shop for a variety of options at Xdress, Bodyaware, HommeMystere, Glamour Boutique and whatever else you find by googling “lingerie for men”.

I can’t speak for everyone, but lingerie was definitely my gateway to this wonderful world and ultimately to who I am today.

Love, Hannah


Every Body Fits

I received an email the other day from Alicia Lagan whose son came out to her as transgender two years ago.  As she watched her son start taking hormones and adapting to his new life, she noticed he had a hard time finding clothes that fit his changing body.


Alicia and her business partner were moved to create a new company named ‘Every Body’, a clothing line for transgender teens in Los Angeles, but with plan to have stores internationally.  Their mission is to help make shopping easier for the transgender community, something I think we all would benefit from.  We all want to feel comfortable in what we’re wearing and to not be treated poorly while shopping.  Every Body is committed to tailoring clothes to fit kids the way that they would like by designing a specialized size chart.  Once opened, the store will be a one-stop-shop for everything, whether it is undergarments, necessary accessories, and other clothing that fit correctly so one can express themselves as the gender they identify as.

At this point they are raising money for their project.  If you’d like to learn more about Every Body and help a difference in the lives of our LGBTQ youth, please visit their site.

Love, Hannah


Ask Hannah!

This is probably a silly question because I’m sure it has been asked many times, but for some reason I’ve been unable to find the answers. So do forgive, please, if this topic is painfully obvious! As a T-girl, my physical proportions make shopping for clothing difficult. I have dude dimensions. Especially, my hips are only slightly larger than my waist, so if I’m shopping online, it’s really just a flip of the coin whether I should purchase based on my waist measurement or my hips measurement. (My shoulders and arms, I’ve decided, are just fine: the girls at the gym are proud of the muscles they’ve worked so hard for, so I’ve decided I’ll just continue to be proud of mine, too.) Do you have any tips on this waist-to-hip proportion dilemma? Thanks in advance, very much! 🙂

Let me get this out of the way now and state that there is no “right” way to look feminine.  There is no standard one must meet in order to have a “feminine” shape.  Remember, there is no such thing as “passing”.  However, there ways to have a curvier shape.

Buying dresses is a fun and often times a humbling experience.  When I purchase “male” clothes (please note I don’t think there are such a thing as “male” clothes or “female” clothes, they’re just clothes), I purchase shirts that fit my shoulders and pants that are long enough and are the proper waist size.  It’s pretty straightforward.  Dresses are a different story.  I have dresses that fit perfectly around my hips and waist, but don’t fit my shoulders and chest as I am wider on top than my middle.  And of course every dressmaker has different sizing standards, as well.  When shopping, you need to know your measurements, and yes, sometimes it is a flip of the coin when it comes to deciding to order based off of hips or waist measurements.


I wrote a little about how to take your measurements here.

There are a few things you can do to have a curvier shape.  You could always wear a waist cincher.   I often wear this one from Xdress.  I also wear a petticoat under certain dresses.  It gives me a really cute and girly appearance and it also gives the impression of hips.

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Some girls will also wear hip padding as well.  I have never really tried that, but some girls love it.

Like most aspects of crossdressing, this is something you learn by doing.  Find what works for you!

Love, Hannah


En Femme Style


I never thought there would be so many options when it comes to businesses that cater specifically to our community.  I’ve been aware of Glamour Boutique for a while and I even did some modeling for them.   There’s also Suddenly Femme, Xdress and HommeMystere.

I recently learned of another option for us.  En Femme Style offers specially designed and engineered to express the feminine form and appeal.  They sell shoes that go up to size 15, clothing, jewelry, wigs and more.

I recommend checking them out!

Love, Hannah

Ask Hannah!

Hi there Hannah. Just wanted to start out and say thank you for all you do. I am 31 male but I am finally starting to embrace that I enjoy dressing and possibly being female/transgender. Still unsure of some things as I am finally starting to talk about this and I am seeing a great therapist to help work things out. My questions is I am starting to actually dress and not just fantasize about it and just wondering what some good resources are to help learn how to dress and look more feminine? YouTube is great for somethings but like buying a wig and all the styles and different kinds also knowing how to do make up for my face it’s hard for me to know what would be good for me as everyone is so different? The great thing is I am also from MN so I think your insight would be amazing. Again thank you for all you do and for any advice.

Coming into your look is all about trial and error.  Coming into your look takes time, practice, mistakes and money.  It’s about discovering yourself.  It’s about finding what you like, what you are comfortable wearing and uncovering that part of you that might not get out very much.  It takes time and patience.  No one expects the first time they paint something that it will be a masterpiece.  Be easy on yourself the first (or even the fiftieth) time you dress up or apply makeup.  You might not look as fabulous as you want, but you’re getting there.

This is something you learn by doing.

Everyone has a different perspective on what is and what is not feminine.  The best, and the only way for you to find out what you like to wear is to try on a lot of clothes.  Some things you’ll try and like, others you won’t.  Some dresses make me feel like the prettiest girl in the mall, some make me feel like a man in a dress.  The important thing is for you to wear what you like.

A wig is not much different.  I tried a lot of different styles before I found the style that I like.  I’ve tried wavy styles, longer styles, styles with and without bangs before I found a style that is *me*.  It’s true there are resources out there that will help suggest what style may be best for your face, but really, who cares?  All that matters is what you like.  So, like clothing, try on a lot of different styles and you’ll find what works for you and what you like.

Makeup, like hair and clothes, also takes trial and error.  It took YEARS until I was happy with my look.  It took a lot of practice.  I made a lot of mistakes.  I spent a lot of money. Again, you achieve your look by doing.

So, here’s how you learn makeup. You could watch YouTube videos and learn from them but like buying clothes, everyone is different.  Everyone has different skin, different color, different tone.  What works for me might not work for you.  The easiest way to learn makeup is to have someone teach you.

Makeup is hard to get right.  There are still times when my eyeliner doesn’t look straight or my color correcting is a little off.  The best way to learn makeup is to schedule a makeover.  I know that sounds like the scariest thing in the world, and it is, but it’s the best way to start mastering your look.  Go to the experts, they will show you which products to use, which tones are best for your skin color and they will teach you how to apply makeup.  I’ve been doing my makeup for years and I probably had ten makeovers in the last twelve months and I still learn something new each time.  Remember, you aren’t the first or last t-girl your makeup artist will ever have. They are trained to help girls like us.  Makeup artists are also trained with advanced techniques, like contouring, which totally changed my life.

I have written pretty extensively about getting started and you can read about it here.  I cover topics like shaving, finding your measurements and more.

Since you live in Minnesota, I highly recommend you making a trip to Midwest Makeup Supply in Minneapolis and scheduling a makeup lesson.  While you’re there, I also suggest crossing the street to visit Sunny’s Hair and Wigs.  Both stores are very t-girl friendly.  I have other resources in Minnesota here, and I’d also encourage you to join the MN T-Girls.

Have fun, be safe!

Love, Hannah


Wear What Scares You

This month marks the fourth anniversary of the MN T-Girls.  As time passes I tend to look back more and reflect on how much things have changed, how far things have progressed or, in some cases, regressed.

At its heart, the MN T-Girls exists as a social and support group.  I wanted to create a group that socialized, that went out and did everyday things, such as having a nice dinner or going to the mall.  It is a group where one can feel safe when going out into the real world.  Many of us felt a mixture of emotions the first, or even the fiftieth time we left the house presenting as the gender we identified as.

I knew those emotions because I felt, and sometimes still do, feel them.  For years I was afraid to leave the house.  What was I afraid of?  A million things.  Afraid of my car breaking down and being stranded somewhere.  Afraid of being recognized, afraid of being harassed, threatened, laughed at, or worse.

I was afraid I was not beautiful.

There is a vague, unattainable goal of “passing” for some in our community.  Passing is when we, as transwomen, are seen as cis-women.  Although I can have flawless makeup and wear a beautiful dress, I still have wide shoulders, large hands and a deep voice.  In short, I have many physical characteristics that are normally associated with men.  Some of us want to pass because it’s validation and confirmation that our presentation is so amazing that most people would think we were born as females.  Some of us look at passing in a desire to be unrecognizable to people that we know who might see us.  Some of us just want to pass because it means we are as beautiful as the gender we identify as.

But passing is unattainable and vague, and it’s unattainable because it is so vague.  There is not a set of standards that one has to meet in order to be female, or to be beautiful.  Yes, I am tall (I am even taller in four inch heels), and height is often viewed as a male characteristic and thus “gives me away”.   But I have met cis-women who are taller than me.  I have met cis-women who have deeper voices than myself.  I have met cis-women with facial hair.

Are they not women because of those characteristics?  What decides what is feminine?  Who decides what is beauty?  Who decides who is beautiful?

No one.

Well, you do.

It’s not for anyone else to decide.  Once I realized that there was no such thing as passing, that there is no standard I had to meet in order to be beautiful, then my whole world change.  I was ready to go out.

16I was still nervous about the same things as before, with the exception of not feeling beautiful enough.  Instead of striving to pass, I wanted to blend in.  I did my best to blend in the first time I went out, which was about six years ago.  I was still learning makeup but my confidence was growing with each day.  I was tired of sitting around my living room and was ready to get out into the real world.  So, one Friday morning I woke up, did my makeup, got dressed and left the house.  The photo on the left is what I wore when I went out for the first time…a cute skirt, a colorful top, cardigan and black stockings.  I thought it was a perfect outfit for running errands.  For the next few months, I picked out outfits that, in my opinion, helped me blend in.  Blending in, I thought, was a form of protection.  There are those who have a fear and hatred of people who identify as transgender, and I didn’t want to draw a lot of attention to myself, lest I became a target for ridicule, violence, or worse.  Blending in became a sort of camouflage, in a way.

As I went out on a more regular basis, I realized that the world wasn’t as scary as I thought it would be.  If I was being laughed at and pointed towards, I didn’t notice it.  People were kind to me.  People complimented my outfit or the skill I had when it came to walking in heels.  My confidence grew.  My self-esteem grew.  Blending in, in those early days, gave me an opportunity to experience life as incognito as possible, considering I am a six foot tall (and taller in heels) transgirl.

As my wardrobe grew, I noticed the clothes I was buying were reflecting my growing confidence and courage.   I was buying less clothes that I felt helped me blend in and more clothes that, in the corner of mind, I would wear in public when I felt bolder.  It would take another year or so until the outfits I wore outside of the house moved from blending in to being bolder.  My wardrobe was expanding and was soon filling up with bright colors, bold patterns, higher heels and skirts that showed off all the hard work I put into on the Stairmaster at the gym.

Then one day I was done blending in.  I am not sure what triggered it, perhaps it was a beautiful day, or a new dress I couldn’t wait to wear.  Soon I was at the mall, at the art museum, getting makeovers and having coffee wearing dresses that I never thought I’d have the courage to wear in the real world.  Dresses with bright patterns, eye-catching designs and flowers.

A LOT of flowers.

I remember the day I wore the outfit pictured above. I was feeling particularly bold that afternoon and opted for a bright, tight pink dress with matching pink heels.  I looked at myself in every mirror I saw at the mall that day and marveled how it didn’t seem that long ago when I tried so hard to blend in, to not be noticed.  This outfit was about as far away as incognito as one could get.

These days I no longer try to blend in.  There’s not much in my closet that I am not comfortable wearing.  Of course, I still believe in dressing appropriately, I am not going to wear my leather dress and five inch stilettos to the grocery store, for example.

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Looking back at these photos and remembering the past few years, I am amazed at the confidence I’ve gained in such a short time.  One of the reasons I formed the MN T-Girls was to show other transwomen that the world can be scary at first, but it’s really quite wonderful once you are out in it.  I understand the need and instinct to want to blend in, but standing out is liberating and amazing.  You may be surprised by how the world reacts and even embraces you.


There is a hashtag that I saw the other day that reads #wearwhatscaresyou and I really like that idea.  The idea of wearing a bright pink dress with sky-high heels terrified me a few years ago, but it’s one of my favorite outfits.  To me it screams confidence.

Wearing what scares you is a big step, and it took me a couple years to gain the confidence that I needed to do so.  But, like wearing high heels, it takes baby steps.  Getting a little push doesn’t hurt either.  I remember going to Pride and having to stop at the grocery store beforehand.  I was wearing a bright pink, polka dot dress to the festival and walking into the store wearing such a eye-catching outfit was a little scary at first.  The dress was perfect for a hot summer day at Pride, but very bold for a grocery store visit at 6:30am.  However, doing that was one of the little pushes I needed.

If you’re looking for a push, you may want to consider ‘Try-Day Friday’, a challenge that was started by Dia & Co, an online clothing company that provides their customers with new outfits that are designed to create confidence and help take fashion risks.

Despite many things happening in our country, I am feeling optimistic for our community.  We are making progress, socially and politically.  It’s not always been easy, but baby steps, you know?

I am also excited about your growing confidence.  Yes, yours.  Do something that scares you, wear something that scares you.

Love, Hannah