From Concealing to Revealing

When I first started to fully dress I looked for clothes that would minimize some of my features. I found a new appreciation for layering and how contouring could downplay some of my more masculine facial features. When I started to go out of the house, I did my best to blend in instead of standing out.

But somewhere along the way in my (sigh) journey I stopped caring. I cared less about blending in and embraced my height and the fact that I am transgender and everyone who sees me or interacts with me knows I am transgender. I am going to stand out, so I may as well wear the stilettos and the bright pink dress.

But as confident as I was, I still avoided certain styles, namely dresses that revealed more of my shoulders than I was comfortable with. Spaghetti straps were a no-no. But a few months ago I had an epiphany. Global pandemics can do that to you. I decided that I was holding myself back, and I was tired of it.

So I bought the dresses I wanted to wear and I have never looked back. I wore the dress that kind of inspired this whole new way of thinking for a photo shoot in June and I wore several more of them for a shoot last month.

I have been doing more shopping online than I normally do. Again, a global pandemic can do that to you, but a dress kept popping up as a suggestion. I thought the dress was super cute but I thought I couldn’t pull it off as it was a little more revealing than what I normally wore.

But then I thought the hell with it and clicked “add to cart”.

A couple weeks later I wore it for a photo shoot and I would love to share some of the photos from that day. I hope you like them and I hope we all can overcome these invisible barriers in our lives.

Love, Hannah

Impossible Things

“Why, sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.” 

Lewis Carroll

When the pandemic hit and the little things and the big things were impacted, I looked at a lot of aspects to my life. I was reminded how important it as to support small, independent businesses that were affected by the shutdown. I realized I took meeting friends for dinner for granted. And of course, I realized just how important Hannah is to me.

I mean, I AM Hannah, and obviously we should be important to ourselves, but without having the option to get a makeover and spending the day en femme I was reminded how crucial it is to be me, to be all of me.

Being alive, being who we are, is a reason to celebrate. If you have accepted and embraced your gender identity you have accomplished something incredibly significant and special.

As restrictions started to lift and it was possible (and just a little safer) to get a makeover, I reevaluated my life. Both of my lives. We only live once, and life is too short not to wear that dress.

Yesterday I had a photo shoot with my friend and photographer of five years Shannonlee. There was no reason for the shoot. It wasn’t to review a dress or a shoe, it wasn’t for En Femme, it was just for fun (not to say shoots for reviews or for En Femme aren’t fun, they are, but you know what I mean). The theme of the shoot, if you will, was to wear a few dresses I have always wanted to wear. The location was the Stone Arch Bridge, one of my favorite places in the world.

I think many of us have at least one thing about their body they wish they could change. For me, I wish I didn’t have such broad and muscular (i.e. masculine) shoulders. But I had a moment of clarity earlier this year and I decided to just wear whatever I wanted, shoulders be damned.

So I did.

Yesterday’s shoot featured several dresses that I never thought I would wear. Two of them had halter straps and one had straps about as thin as dental floss. The point is that my shoulders were as exposed as they could possibly be. A year ago I would have thought this would be impossible.

And I never felt more beautiful, confident, and powerful.

Here’s a bit of a preview of yesterday’s shoot. I hope you like them and I hope you all cast away your doubts and fears about what holds you back, in all aspects of your lives.

Love, Hannah

Dressed to Kill

I did a lot of shopping under quarantine. I thought a lot about what I was going to do, and what I was going to wear once things returned back to normal. Of course, things haven’t returned back to normal and if they do, it probably won’t be for a long time.

One of the dresses I bought I thought of as my “out of lockdown” dress. Something that screamed dressed to kill and I found it at En Femme.

I didn’t wear this dress the first time I went out once many of the restrictions were lifted, but I did wear it for a photo shoot I did to review a pair of stilettos from The Breast Form Store.

Shannonlee shot some fabulous pictures of the dress and I wanted to show them off (big surprise). I hope you like them!

Love, Hannah

Dot’s Adorable!

The very very first dress I remember wearing was a red dress with white polka dots. Of course, it belonged to my sister but I could never remember her wearing it.

Obviously I loved wearing the dress, and to this day polka dots instantly bring me back to that very special dress. The pattern represents femininity to me and there’s something classic and cute about them.

While I was doing my photo shoot for a shoe review for The Breast Form Store, I couldn’t help but get some glamour shots of this adorable dress. I hope you like it!

Love, Hannah

And It’s Me Who Is My Enemy

When I was 20 I learned a lot about myself.

I was living on my own, I was in a relationship, and I was learning more about my gender identity.

I started to learn how to be an adult, learned what I wanted in a relationship, and how to walk in heels.

I learned my limits, and what I wanted. I learned what I wouldn’t settle for, and how to come to terms with being transgender.

I acknowledged what was holding me back, and whether or not those barriers could be overcome.

One of the most defining moments of my life came when I was driving home from work one summer evening. It was close to midnight, the world was still. It is moments like this that life or God or your inner voice speak to you. It’s up to you to listen.

Sometimes what you need to experience is a moment of clarity, a realization, or music. I had never heard this song on the radio before, and I’ve never heard it played again. If I didn’t own the CD I would almost believe that the song didn’t exist. But it did, thank God.

“Me”, written and performed by Paula Cole really summarized many of my feelings and thoughts that summer. I was not happy in the relationship and felt a little trapped. I was living out of state, and ending the relationship was a little more complicated than simply breaking up. I would need to move back to Minnesota, find a new job, and in a way, admit defeat, on some levels. When you are 20 you chalk up your victories and losses by relationships. My perspective is different these days.

In addition to being in a bad relationship, I couldn’t help but wonder where all of THIS was going. I would buy heels and a dress and then quickly purge in a seemingly endless circle. I knew this side of me wasn’t going away. But how was I going to live with it? Did I want to? Of course I did, but what was life going to be like?

I felt powerless in my relationship, where I lived, and in a way, powerless when it came to my gender identity. It was a difficult but important summer. It was humbling, too. I would buy a dress that wouldn’t fit (know your measurements, girls), look horrific in lipstick, and stumble in stilettos. I wanted to be beautiful but my confidence was lower than ever.

But that warm summer night my perspective changed. The things I wanted, like getting out of the relationship, returning to Minnesota… I could do these things. The only one stopping me was ME. The lyrics hit hard.

I am carrying my voice
I am carrying my heart
I am carrying my rhythm
I am carrying my prayers
But you can’t kill my spirit, it’s old and it is strong
And like a mountain I’ll go on and on
But when my wings are folded
The brightly colored moth blends into the dirt into the ground

And it’s me who is my enemy
Me who beats me up

Me who makes the monsters
Me who strips my confidence
And it’s me who’s too weak
And it’s me who’s too shy to ask for the thing I love
And it’s me who’s too weak
And it’s me who’s too shy to ask for the thing I love
But I love

I am walking on the bridge
I am over the water
And I’m scared as hell
But I know there’s something better
Yes I know, yes I know, yes I know, yes I know

I bought the CD the next day and I still listen to this song. It still inspires me.

…and fast forward a few years. This song still impacts my life. Society is never going to “let me” be transgender. I can’t wait for the world to give me permission. I knew it was myself holding me back.

Having fully embraced who I am today, I am amazed at how much I have overcome and what I have done. I still know my limits, whether it is how long I can stay awake before I start to get really loopy, how many miles a day I can run, or what I am comfortable wearing. I know I don’t “pass” (and there’s no such thing) but I still don’t want to show the more traditionally masculine parts of my body.

So, dresses with thin spaghetti straps were out as they showed off my shoulders. My huge, manly shoulders.

I accepted my limitations of what I was comfortable with, and lived my life.

And then the pandemic hit. Things we took for granted were gone, and my time out of the house en femme was gone. Before I go further, I want to recognize that many of what I am thinking, and feeling, and writing about is incredibly shallow and self-centered in comparison to how the pandemic has impacted others.

I would look through my wardrobe and get a little sad about not being able to hit the mall or visit a museum en femme (again, I own my shallowness). I would buy dresses and heels and wonder when I would wear them.

And then I saw a super cute dress. It was unlike what I usually wear… it wasn’t form fitting, a little longer than I normally wear… and the thinnest straps I’ve ever seen. I saw it, I loved it, and I wished I had the courage to wear it.

And then I bought it.

I promised myself that as soon as I could, I would wear this dress the next time I could go out en femme.

And I did.

I’ve held myself back in my life so many times, and when I got tired of listening to that voice and would do the thing I was afraid of, I was always thrilled to do so. I also wondered why I stood in my own way for so long. It’s true, we are our own enemy sometimes.

I am so excited (and proud of myself) to show the photos Shannonlee and I took that day of the dress. The photo shoot was for a shoe review I did for The Breast Form Store but I couldn’t help but show off this dress… and my shoulders… and confidence.

Love, Hannah

Behind the Scenes!

I wanted to share some behind the scenes shot from my photo shoot for En Femme‘s spring and summer line that I did earlier this month. Please note they were taken with an iPhone without the normal touch ups that Shannonlee does.

And! Since they are behind the scenes and taken between shots, please forgive me if I look a little distracted… or tired. 🙂

Thank you to Jennifer for taking these pictures!

Love, Hannah

Glamour Boutique Finalist!

It seems a little surreal to post about this, given what is going on in Minneapolis, around the world, but I am honored and surprised to be a finalist in two categories for Glamour Boutique‘s annual Glamour Girl contest.

Thank you to everyone who voted.  I am shocked and really feeling the love which I really need at the moment. 🙂

The first category is Newcomer and the second is Kitten (girls under 45).

I doubt I will win especially when I look at the other finalists, but this is kind of fun 😉

Love, Hannah

Skyscrapers and Stilettos

I was chatting with my friend Marci recently about how we often feel that we are the tallest girls in the world, and wearing four inch stilettos isn’t helping.

But no one is too tall to be a girl.  And no one is too tall to wear heels.

I was blown away by her newest photo composition which perfectly portrays how I feel when I am out in the real world.  I feel tall, I feel as if everyone is looking at me, and I feel beautiful.

Minneapolis freeway

I hope you like this as much as I do and I really hope you follow her on Flickr.  You can see her other compositions here and here.

Love, Hannah

I’m a Barbie Girl, in a Barbie World

My friend Marci is not only drop-dead gorgeous but she also is an extremely talented artist.  Not too long ago she created a wonderful image of us looking fierce and beautiful in the forest, and I am so excited to share her newest piece with you.
How amazing is this???
In September 2019, the world was introduced to a new line of Gender-Neutral fashion dolls. Now we’ve gone one further with the introduction of Hannah, Barbie’s new BFF GFF (gender-fluid friend)!
Main Barbie Hannah box

Hannah, a gender-fluid icon and activist, embodies the trans* dream of “I can be…”, with her sense of fun, fashion, style and presence. We’ve launched Hannah in a gender-fluid starter pack, including her own line of lipstick, 6″ heels (of course!) and her patented “Pink Fog” spray mist.

And as with any t-girl, Hannah has a HUGE range of outfits and looks for you to choose from and collect. This includes a fabulous array of gorgeous frocks and dresses, wigs in multiple colors and styles, all the heels a t-girl could wish for, the most amazing line of makeup on the planet, lipstick colors to die for, and special t-girl lingerie and undergarments to give any gender-fluid girl curves in all the right places!

Hannah’s heels
4 Shoes pink soles

When you gotta strut your stuff, you can’t go past a pair of Hannah’s Heels. Available only in 6″ heel options (to paraphrase Henrietta Ford, they are available in any heel height, so long as it’s 6″!), Hannah’s Heels feature her exclusive Hot Pink™ soles (so you can let the world know you’re proudly wearing Hannah’s Heels!), and are available in a range of fashion styles. 

Designed for comfort and all-day wearing, Hannah’s Heels feature a specially engineered natural cushion sole combined with a unique padding system to help minimise pinching and blistering (though we all still have to suffer a little for our beauty!). 

Hannah’s Heels are available in a range of sizes, including extra-width options, so you can be sure of a comfortable, yet snug fit.

And to ensure the best possible and most comfortable fit, Hannah’s Heels has developed a unique sizing algorithm tailored for all sizes and shapes of foot. 

When you order your Hannah’s Heels, we’ll ask you for a range of measurements; follow these instructions precisely, and we guarantee you’ll slip into your new Hannah’s Heels as if they were made just for you. Because they are!

Hannah’s Lipstick
FabMAC

When you put on your lipstick, you can finally present your true face to the world. And with Hannah’s Lipstick, oh my, what a face! Uniquely developed for every t-girl’s lips, Hannah’s Lipstick incorporates special formulations to give you that perfect blend of color, cover, shine and shape.

Hannah’s Lipstick lasts ALL day, so you’ll never need to re-apply (but if you want to, why ever should we discourage you!) throughout a full day of shopping, talking, shopping, walking, chatting and more shopping. 

Our “bleed-free” formulation, combined with our “Smart-Lippy™” “Virtual Lipliner™” snap-to properties, ensure an even and perfectly symmetrical coating of Hannah’s Lipstick, first time, every time. You never-ever have to worry again about the painstaking (and often painfully frustrating!) application of lip liner.

Then, when it’s time to say farewell to your t-girl alter-ego for the day, and revert to guy-mode, Hannah’s patented Goneaway Girl™ makeup remover ensures everything wipes off quickly and easily. There’s no tell-tale lipstick lines, foundation smudges or errant mascara clumps when you need to rush into that emergency 5 pm meeting that the boss just called on what you thought was your day off.

Hannah’s Pink Fog
Pink Fog can

Hannah’s Pink Fog gender euphoria spray helps you get quickly into that state of t-girl bliss, when you just know your makeup is perfect, your outfit is fabulous, your look is amazing, and the whole world is in complete awe of you. 

Our unique formulation of endorphins, pheromones and hormone micro-doses changes the way you see the world, and your perception of how the world sees you! 

Hannah’s Pink Fog instantly banishes any feelings of inadequacy, guilt, self-doubt, and that whole “what-on-earth-am-I-doing-and-who-am-I-kidding” mindset that every t-girl can feel from time to time. 

Simply spray a short burst of Hannah’s Pink Fog into the air above and in front of you, and walk into that calming miasma of self-acceptance, joy and self-confidence that is true gender euphoria.

SAFETY NOTICE: It is extremely important that you use Hannah’s Pink Fog strictly as directed. Excessive application of Hannah’s Pink Fog can have unforeseen consequences. Please use with caution.

Love, Hannah