I didn't know it was a fetish. Honestly. And in retrospect this sounds incredibly naïve but realizing that for some of us wearing lingerie is kinky was pretty earth-shattering. I suppose that sounds very dramatic. To clarify, yes, wearing lingerie is often associated with sexy time and sexy time is, well, sexy but just simply … Continue reading The Prevailing Eroticism of Who we Are
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Nice.
I THINK this is the third year in a row where my website was named one of the Top 100 Sex Blogs of the year by Molly's Daily Kiss. AND! I have the coveted #69 spot on it. Nice. There are some really good sites on this list that focus on non-binary people so even … Continue reading Nice.
Listen
If we are fortunate, we will live long enough to learn. If we are wise, we will choose to learn from our experiences and grow. If we are truly wise we can learn from others' experiences. There are times when I look back and wish I knew then what I know now. Often these moments … Continue reading Listen
The Vibe
There will always be things that are unknowable. Not knowing something doesn't mean you are unintelligent. Well, not always. True wisdom is knowing that there are things that are unknowable and accepting that it's pointless and futile to TRY to understand all unknowables. Spellcheck says that "unknowables" isn't a word but who cares. I have … Continue reading The Vibe
The Fetishization of Crossdressing
I believe that most people think a lot of kinks and fetishes are weird. I mean, if you think it's hot when a girl wears stilettos or a leather skirt that's one thing. Those are pretty... hm, common things to be attracted to? I don't think it's much of a stretch to say that most … Continue reading The Fetishization of Crossdressing
Kinkiness and Crossdressing
There's is nothing wrong with most fetishes or kinks provided that they don't hurt someone else (emotionally or physically) and if they require participation of someone else they have that person's consent. If I shut off certain parts of my brain, I can understand the appeal of most kinks and fetishes. They may not be … Continue reading Kinkiness and Crossdressing
Let’s Talk About Catfishing
Like many terms in our little world, such as "passing", "being read" and "clocking", catfishing means something other than what you'd think it would. 'Catfishing', or 'fishing', is used a lot more broadly than it used to. According to Urban Dictionary, it's defined as the phenomenon of internet predators that fabricate online identities and entire … Continue reading Let’s Talk About Catfishing
Truth or Dare
Crossdressing is sometimes portrayed as a challenge. No, this isn't about the challenge of trying to find the right foundation to cover up our stupid facial hair, this is about the... crossdressing DARES that we see online from time to time. Do you know what I'm talking about? They seem to be mostly aimed at … Continue reading Truth or Dare
Why Having a Crossdressing Husband is the Most Stressful Thing EVER
Okay, fasten your garter belts, this is a loooong one. Look, if I have a, hm, a mission statement when it comes to my website is that I try to be supportive, realistic, and honest. I feel I am fairly self-aware and not oblivious to how who we are impacts our lives and the relationships … Continue reading Why Having a Crossdressing Husband is the Most Stressful Thing EVER
Sexual Identity and Gender Identity
It's amazing (and reassuring) how many of us have the same thoughts, experiences, and feelings as one another. Almost all of us have had some sort of... awakening at an early age where we discovered that there was a part of us that was fascinated by and drawn to certain clothes or wanting to wear … Continue reading Sexual Identity and Gender Identity
Hannah McKnight 