How do I know if I’m a crossdresser or if I’m transgender? And if I am transgender, then Ok, I’m transgender. Now what? Do I really have to come out? I can’t afford a therapist. What do I do?
As far as I know, there is no agreed upon definition of what a crossdresser is. But if you asked me what a crossdresser was, I suppose I’d define the term as an individual that enjoys wearing clothes that are traditionally associated with a different gender. A little vague but I think most people get the idea.
Personally I think all crossdressers can be considered transgender. I wrote a little about this here. To be honest, you can identify as however you want. I started to identify as transgender when I realized that all….THIS went beyond just panties and heels. Identifying as a gender (even on a limited basis) that was different than the one I was assigned to at birth was what really pushed me to identifying as transgender.
If you are transgender, well, okay, now what? Only you can answer that. Coming out as transgender is not the same for everyone. There is no next step you have to take. Coming out is not the same for all of us. Do what you feel is right. Take it slow, though. You can come out if you want to. But you don’t have to if you don’t want to. There are no rules…except for wearing non-nude stockings with open-toed heels. Don’t do that.
If you can’t afford a therapist, please, reach out to PFLAG.