I have written quite a bit about relationships and our gender identity.
I have always and will always say that we need to be honest and open about who we are before the relationship is serious.
Some of us, for various reasons, weren’t able to do that. For some of us, we were in denial. Others thought (and maybe hoped) this was a phase and they would outgrow it.
But the truth comes out. Whether it is because someone was caught or we simply couldn’t keep it a secret any longer.
If you came out after you were married, I would love to know about your experiences. How did it happen? Why did the truth come out when it did?
I understand that this is a very sensitive and difficult topic. If you feel inclined to share your experiences, please feel free to email me or comment anonymously below. Spouses are encouraged to comment as well.