I used to think that there was nothing practical about lingerie. It was something beautiful to wear to help you feel beautiful.
Now I realize that even if lingerie’s only purpose was to help you feel a certain way, wasn’t that just as, or even more important than it’s functionality?
Bras are pretty essential on different levels. It’s the first thing I put on when I dress as I step into one gender presentation from another. I believe a bra is the most feminine thing you can wear. But more often than not I select which bra I will wear based on what I need the bra to do. If I am wearing a white dress, I wear a light colored bra. If my dress is cut a certain way, I go strapless.
See? Beauty and versatility.
Panties are no different. If I am wearing a bra, then I choose the matching panty because every bra I own has a matching panty (I’m a little OCD that way). But I also take into consideration the kind of day I am going to have. A tough day requires beautiful panties, a boring day needs something a little more… exotic. The white lacy panties with a candy cane pattern only come out during December.
Panties are fun, cute, and like any piece of lingerie, makes me feel a certain way. I wear what I wear often because of what I am feeling, or what I want to feel that day.
As I discovered different lingerie options over the course of my life, I became fascinated at the sheer (and sometimes not sheer) number of options there were. Babydolls, teddies, bodysuits, basques, merry widows, corsets, garter belts… the list goes on. My own lingerie wardrobe grew over time and I loved how there was something I could wear for any mood. There are different degrees of versatility when it comes to lingerie. I think a corset is one of the sexiest things to ear, but they are also functional in terms of cinching your waist and holding up your stockings.
But I think the most important thing lingerie does is invoke a feeling. To make you feel beautiful. Lingerie is something you wear for yourself. Like panties, what I wear often depends on what I want to feel. There is nothing like finishing a long, hard day and slipping into something that makes me feel beautiful.
Lingerie is usually cut and designed for body types with certain anatomical features in mind. I see beautiful options that simply don’t work for someone with a flat chest for example. This can limit what I wear. I mean, I can wear it, but if it doesn’t look right than I have a hard time feeling pretty in it.
‘Lingerie for men’ is a term that many in our community are divided over. I completely get it. Lingerie designed for men misses the point, there are many options ‘for girls’ I can wear… Again, I see that point and agree in many cases. However, I do think that is worth looking into designers that make lingerie for someone with my body type in mind. For one reason, it’s being designed for someone with the physical features that I have. Or don’t have. I don’t want lingerie that shows off my cleavage if I don’t have any, for example.
The main reason I like looking at lingerie for men is that more often than not it is incredibly beautiful. I like feminine lingerie. I love a teddy or a bodysuit with a floral pattern. I love a nightie with lace around the edges. I love finding beautiful lingerie that I know will fit my body. I don’t want to spend $50 on something that I can’t wear.
There are many options for someone like me these days. I can name a dozen different websites to buy beautiful bras and panties for someone with the body that I have. I was sent lingerie from HommeMystere recently and I reviewed their bras and panties previously. For my third and final review (for now, anyway), I am delighted to share my thoughts about two pieces of their lingerie.
The first piece I wore was their Natasha Mini Dress with matching panty. Lingerie can be amazingly practical but if it isn’t cute, then I will not even bother trying it on. This is not a dress (well, I suppose anything could be a dress) but it is a beautiful nightie. A criticism I have with a lot of lingerie designed for men is that it is simply too short. However, this reaches my hips but it is close to being too short. Some of us may think that this shortness is a feature 😉 but having a matching panty does help pull the look together. I love the fabric but since it is made from satin there is not a lot of stretch to it. Ordering your correct size is important but minimal stretch will help keep its shape. It has lacy features and a full back and is super comfortable to sleep in. The V neck is similar to a lot of ‘girl lingerie’ in a way meant to tease a little cleavage but having none the effect is a little lost. However, the lacy details won me over.
The second piece is the best babydoll I have ever owned. I love, love, love the Anneve Babydoll and matching panty. This is an amazing soft, beautiful article of lingerie. The mesh feels amazing against my skin. I love little details and this babydoll has lacy edging along the edges and a beautiful floral pattern on the cups as well. A delicate pink bow completes the look. The babydoll falls just below my hips which is almost too short for my tastes but the cute little frilly skirt offsets the shortness of it. I actually like how short this is because the matching panty has detachable garters you can show off. This babydoll has more stretch than the Natasha Mini Dress, but your size should be based on your bra size. The photo (which is not me, by the way) does not do this beautiful lingerie justice. It’s a lovely babydoll and I love how I feel when I wear it.
Which is exactly why one should wear lingerie.
Thank you to HommeMystere for providing this beautiful lingerie.