Is this side of us something we are born with? Can it be changed?
Lady Gaga said we are born this way.
And I agree, we are born this way, but we may not be aware of our identity at first. For me, I realized early on that I wanted to wear lipstick and dresses and I didn’t think that there was anything wrong with it. I didn’t think just because I was a boy it didn’t mean I couldn’t wear high heels.
As I got older I realized the scope of my gender identity. This wasn’t just wanting to wear panties, I just didn’t feel like a boy but I didn’t think I was a girl. I wasn’t either, I was both. I had no problem being a boy but I didn’t always want to be one.
And no, I do not think we can change. We can try to deny who we are, what we want, how we feel. We can ignore it, we can pretend this part of us isn’t there, we can fight it. Many of us struggle with trying to repress this side of us. We can purge, but we all know we will sooner or later buy another dress and we start all over.
If you are in conflict with who you are, how you identify, or what you want, I do not think this is something we can conquer, so to speak. We end up being miserable because we are not being true to ourselves and we spend so much time and energy in internal conflict. That is no way to live.
And no, it can’t be changed. I realize that this side of us is not easy to accept or understand. Our gender identity is not something we should fight. We are who we are and we are perfect.
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