Ask Hannah!

I know deep down that this is a question that I can probably only answer myself but I’d love to hear your thoughts.

I’m married with 3 kids 2 of my own and my step daughter. My wife and step daughter know about Erica and are very accepting of my dressing. My Son and daughter do not know of it and I really don’t know if I want them to. I think my daughter would be ok with it but I think my son would take it really hard. For reference my daughter is 19 my son is 18. Anyway I have always joked with my daughter in the past whenever we’re at the mall or running around town that we should go get makeovers or go buy me a little black dress to wear and she always laughs and says yeah right I’d like to see that.

Well, the last couple weeks she’s brought up wanting to do my makeup and give me a makeover to which I laugh it off and say I don’t know only if I can wear a dress and heels to go with it! She says go for it Lol

Anyway I know I would love it and think it would be fun but I’m scared that I’d let the cat out of the bag so to speak if I enjoy it a little to much or walk in my heels a little too well! I guess what I’m asking is for your thoughts on if I should let her do this or not? Like I mentioned I know I’m the only one who can answer this.

Thanks in advance Hannah for any insight you could provide.

Yes, you are 100% correct, only you can answer this.

But here are some things to consider.
Once you come out to someone, it can never ever be taken back. You can’t go back into the closet. Even if you never talk to someone about this side of you after coming out to them, they will always know and your relationship will forever be changed. It might be better, it might be… well, weird, it might be tense. It might be a big shift or subtle, but it will impact your relationship.

If you keep bringing up things like makeovers or pedicures or dresses, eventually your daughter will notice a pattern. She may or not “figure it out” but she will likely notice that you talk, even jokingly, about this stuff a lot.

Of course, she may already know about this side of you and might be dropping hints that she knows about you and might be inviting you to come out to her. I don’t know, I can’t say.

When we do come out to someone, we need to be gentle, we need to go slow sometimes. If I were to come out to someone at this point in my life, I probably wouldn’t bombard them with everything Hannah does (modeling, this website, the MN T-Girls, etc). Who Hannah is, and everything I do would likely overwhelm anyone and I wouldn’t blame them. This side of us is going to be a shock to almost anyone in our lives so its best to take it slow.

I hope this helps!

Love, Hannah

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4 thoughts on “Ask Hannah!

  1. Maybe you can discuss it with your wife. She knows your daughter. She can probably help you understand the pro’s and con’s and it your daughter will be accepting if she figures it out.

    There is a good chance that if your step daughter and daughter have close relationship then they probably have already discussed it.

    Good luck.


  2. i would go for it , but i would also talk to wife about it and make sure its only a game you played with your daughter. make it look like you don’t know how to walk on heels, thats if she does not know you cross dress. my wife knows of my cross dressing and lets me know when i can dress up for we have a 22 year old son still at home and does not know that dad is a cross dresser. my daughter knows i cross dress but she is in Maine now, my other son does not know either and he has moved out with his GF, but still lives around the area. i had my niece dress me up one year for Halloween.


  3. Another consideration is how your son would view this. And, if you do come out to your daughter, I would expect that he would also find out if you come out to your daughter.


  4. Thank you Hannah for your thoughts and to those that commented as well thanks.
    Well after careful consideration and a talk with my wife I decided the best policy was to just upfront too my daughter and told her all about Erica. Well it went better than expected. As some of you had mentioned she already had her suspicions. She’s not ready to go shopping or have a girls day with Erica yet but did ask to see pics which I was happy to show her. She complimented me and was a little surprised ar how good I looked considering that 90 percent of the time I’ve got some from of facial hair and I’m in dirty work clothes! Lol Anyway all is well and she didn’t seem to have an issue with it which is great. It was a busy weekend and didn’t have time to do the makeover but we’re still planning on it sometime!!

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