Hi Hannah, Is it all possible to fight the urge to crossdress? I have never crossdressed fully but I have always had the desire and it seems the urge gets stronger. Is there any way to fight it?
I don’t think there is such a thing as “crossdressing fully”. You’re either wearing something (nail polish, panties, makeup) that society typically considers “for girls” or you’re not. As I type this I am wearing a boy t-shirt, femme leggings, a femme cardigan, and panties (if that isn’t too much information). Am I crossdressing now? Absolutely. I woke up in a nightgown. Was I crossdressing while I slept? Absolutely. This weekend I have a makeover scheduled and I am excited to wear my new wig and one of my new outfits. Will I be crossdressing then? Absolutely.
As for fighting the urge to crossdress, well, I suppose it’s possible. It never was possible for me. You can deny and ignore this part of you, but you will never stop wanting to crossdress. This is not a phase, this is not something you will outgrow.
But the question I have for you is why would you want to fight it? Why deny a part of who you are? Panties, dresses, lingerie, makeup… everything is absolutely wonderful. Clothes are how I express one of my gender identities, but even if it wasn’t, I would still wear lingerie and leggings and nightgowns and…the list goes on. “Girl clothes” are amazing.
There is nothing wrong with crossdressing.There is nothing wrong with who you are.
Yes, society and many people think it’s weird or whatever, but who cares? I think it’s weird when dudes spend all day in a boat in the middle of the lake trying to catch a fish. same with wandering around a golf course and trying to whack a little white ball. But if it makes them happy, who am I to judge? You can’t suppress this part of you because some people think it’s not normal. I don’t know and I don’t care what other people think of me, no matter what I am doing or wearing, in either of my genders.
Fighting and denying this part of you can be dangerous. Some people turn to drinking to escape the stressful parts of their life, whether it is their job or their gender identity. It’s not healthy to be at war with yourself. Life is hard enough as it is. You don’t need you to make it any more challenging. I don’t want to say that it’s pointless to fight this urge, but it’s… kind of pointless to fight this urge. It won’t go away, it will always be there, and there’s nothing wrong with this side of you. I don’t even think it’s an urge. This is who you are. This is who we are.
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