Hi! I have a new article for The Breast Form Store!
Coming out is not easy and it’s something most of us dread (or dreaded). I feel we should come out to our partners for a variety of reasons, such as, well, being honest with your partner, but also because you may find the support that you need.
Reasons for coming out are different from having goals of coming out. What I mean is that we all likely hope that our partners will be super supportive and instantly supportive which will lead to shopping and girls nights and whatever else we hoped for. I think it’s fair to say this would be an ideal goal for almost all of us.
This lovely outcome isn’t tooooo common but these relationships exist. It’s harsh to say but when we come out we may need to temper our expectations a bit. Sometimes (and I am guilty of this in so many aspects of my life) I envision the outcome or result of SOMETHING and my heart gets set and then any other result is a disappointment.
I suppose it’s not unlike an aspiring writer daydreams about the book they want to write becomes a bestseller. Anything that falls short of this can be crushing.
These dreams and fantasies aren’t inherently bad. Dreams and hope can fuel us.
The keyword there is FUEL. Dreams don’t matter if we don’t DO the work. You can imagine being a bestselling author all you like and live in that dream, but if you’re not using that dream to motivate you and, you know, actually write the book, then what good is the dream?
Erotic content, such as the content I write about in this article, can distort our expectations and can easily misguide us in what should be a very caring and honest conversation with our partners.
Love, Hannah
Hannah McKnight 