Representation is important. It’s crucial and comforting to know there are others like us.
The search terms that are used to find my website are enlightening and can help influence what I post about. The most frequent terms are along the lines of “how to crossdress”. Knowing this I try to post about techniques and building confidence.
When I was in college and had access to the internet for the first time, I started to look online for ANYTHING about crossdressing. I mostly found articles that tended to focus primarily on sex and dressing as a fetish. I rarely came across websites that I could identity with. I wanted to see if there were others like myself, those who wore lingerie but not because it was a kink to them.
As my gender identity evolved I still came up empty-handed when I looked for others like myself that I could relate to. It seemed that most websites were (still) very fetishy or focused on transitioning. I wasn’t looking for either of these ends of the spectrum, if you will.
These experiences were one of the reasons I started a website. I wanted to see if there were others like me. And it turns out there are! More than I could ever dream.
Compared to twenty years ago, I think there are a lot of websites like mine, there are still a lot of websites for those who crossdress as a kink and a lot of resources available for those who are transitioning.
But what about the rest of the non-binary community?
Based on emails that I get and and search terms that are used to find my website, I am reminded that there is still a lack of representation for many of us. There are many, many nuances when it comes to identifying as non-binary. Many of us don’t really fall into a demographic that has a voice.
Do you feel that way? Do know what I mean?
There are some search terms that lead to my website and I think to myself that I am not a helpful representation for that demographic and I wonder where the person who searched those words could go for resources or help, friends, or support.
Some search terms that are used where I feel I am not much use for include “crossdress sissy”, “crossdress humiliation”, “I want to feminize my husband”, for example.
There are probably countless websites that have a very sexual and fetishy approach to these (and other) terms.
But as a crossdresser, I know that there’s not always a kinky reason that we do what we do.
If you feel underrepresented, tell me. If you love to dress in sissy clothes but are frustrated that you only find fetishy websites out there, tell me. I would be happy to post about your experiences.
It feels frustrating to be misunderstood. As a crossdresser most of the world assumes I wear what I wear for sexual reasons. I know it’s not true. Many of you know this isn’t true for yourself.
So, if you like it when your man wears a dress or if you enjoy dressing like a schoolgirl for non-sexual reasons, please email me. I would love for you to have some representation.