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As someone who loves wearing stockings, will it be worth the effort to shave my legs? I’m very tempted to try, to find out how it feels to wear my stockings on smooth legs, but I’d like to know if the effort will be worth it before giving it a go. My wife knows and is ok about me wearing stockings, and other lingerie, but she also likes me to be manly, so I’d need to convince her too if I’m going to take the plunge and shave my legs!

Is it worth the effort?

Yes.

Is it worth creating tension with your wife?

That’s another question.

I am not sure if “convince” is the right word here. I mean, you see the benefit of shaving your legs, and convincing someone else of a decision that you want to make usually requires them seeing the benefit of that decision as well.

I feel a better perspective is whether or not she would tolerate you shaving your legs.

Our partners can be at very different levels of support and acceptance when it comes to this side of us. You know her better than I do when it comes to you wearing lingerie impacts your relationship and your day-to-day interactions.

Does she support and encourages this side of you? If so, she may be okay with this. If she tolerates or really doesn’t care for this side of you, she likely will have a different reaction to your shaved legs.

If the latter is the case, then taking things to a new level, such as shaving your legs, may be too much for her. After all, some of our partners worry about where this is all going. Wearing panties is one thing, wearing a bra with panties is another thing. Adding stockings and heels and…. suddenly it’s a progression. Our partners see us consistently taking things to another level… and possibly towards a major life decision.

Your wife may worry that shaving your legs would lead to someone noticing that her manly husband has smooth legs. Your wife may worry that shaving your legs will lead to removing other body hair that is more exposed, such as your arms. These are normal fears.

Navigating a more traditional feminine appearance in a relationship, or really, doing anything outside the gender binary that society has thrust upon us, can be difficult for both people. I can’t advise you on what you should say or how you should have this conversation, but I would advise against shaving your legs (or really, taking any new step) without discussing it with her.

Love, Hannah

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