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I’m Candy, a closet sissy. I’m 67 years old and have been a sissy since my teen. I’m married with 2 grown kids and grandchildren. My concern is that my desire to be exposed has never been as stong as it is now. I find myself dressing and walking in public and I can’t pass for a woman. My wife is an angel she tolerates my desires best she can. she even buys me nightgowns and pink fuzzy slippers. God it’s like i’m risking do much and I don’t know why. Do you have any advice on how to control or act on these desires?

Many sexual fantasies are better off left to being just that: fantasies.

Regardless of what your fantasy is, you need to think through what could happen if you do fulfill it.

And yes, that may not be easy (or fun) as your imagination is probably consumed by the thrill of your fantasy and the potential fallout of it isn’t really on your radar.

I am not quite sure of what you mean by being exposed, but a common exposure fantasy is having your legal name, phone number, compromising photos, and address, known and blasted all over the internet. For some, public humiliation is very erotic.

So, let’s walk through this together.

Let’s say your legal name and other information that many of us prefer to keep private is posted online. That might sound EXCITING and HUMILIATING and WONDERFUL and what have you, but the internet is FOREVER.

FOREVER.

With how effective internet searches are becoming, it wouldn’t take long for people, such as your wife, your children, and grandchildren to stumble upon your sexual fantasy if they searched your legal name.

If you are comfortable with that, well, I don’t know what to tell you. You say your wife is supportive, and I know many people reading this would love to have a partner who buys them nightgowns, but how do you think she would feel if her friends and her children and her grandchildren knew about your fetish?

Most fetishes and kinks can’t really be explained. It’s just how many of us are wired. Unfortunately it’s not uncommon to have fantasies that would cause a lot of damage, and regret, if they are fulfilled.

There’s no going back, EVER, if you make this happen.

So, my advice? If you are comfortable with every single person in your life potentially learning about your sexual fantasy, then it’s up to you to decide if you want to follow through.

If you decide that your wife, children and grandchildren potentially knowing about your sexual fantasies is acceptable, then I am afraid I have no idea how to act upon this. I suppose you could create a website announcing whatever it is you are comfortable with people, such as your wife, children, and grandchildren knowing about you.

But again, consider the risks. Perhaps your grandchild has a school assignment researching their family history and they google your name (because that’s how a lot of research begins) and soon they learn about grandpa’s not-so-secret kink life.

That website will live on forever, even if you take it down. All content that is posted online is still there, archived somewhere, and discoverable through a quick google search. The internet is forever, even if we aren’t.

You can’t decide who you expose yourself to.

Good luck.

Love, Hannah

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