Pillow Talk!

Hi! I have a new article for Pillow Talk, a series I am doing with Xdress! 

I am not capable of relaxing on my own. What I mean is that I tend to keep going, no matter how tired I am, until I can’t move.

What I mean is that people smarter than myself will get to a point in their day and realize that they should, or need to, take a break. Yesterday my wife and I were doing yardwork and after an hour or so she said she was going to have some water and zone out on her phone for a few minutes. Hydration and rest, a can’t-beat combination.

While she did that,I kept going. I continued to bring all the yard waste bags from the backyard to the front. Once she was rested, she joined me once again and we finished that task.

The day continued like that. We finished the yardwork and while she called my sister and had a well earned glass of wine, I worked on laundry.

Now, you might think I am super productive (and I am) but a body needs rest. A brain needs to take a break. If you keep going and going eventually you are going to crash. And this happens to me.

And it’s not healthy.

Being “forced” to relax is the only way I can do it. My wife and I hve a standing date on Saturday and Sunday nights. We will either have take-out and watch a show (this is our Saturday) or have a leisurely dinner together (Sundays). These moments help recharge me in a way. When I am out of town for work, most of my moments are spent working, even while I eat.

It sounds stupid but lingerie helps me/forces me to take time to do nothing. If I get a cute new set I am excited about wearing it, but it’s kinda silly to wear a bustier and stockings while I write my weekly report for work. I mean, I COULD and I HAVE, but I think the whole point of lingerie is connected to pleasure.

And not necessarily sexual pleasure, but there’s obviously an intimacy element there, but pleasure in doing nothing. Reading in bed, zoning out while half-watching a movie, writing a blog entry…

I realize that no one on the planet likely thinks about underwear as much as I do and I usually get a few emails whenever I write a post like this about my obsession, but as an autistic person I prefer to think of lingerie as one of my special interests, lol.

Anyway, to summarize, lingerie = good.

Love, Hannah