The most eye-catching part of any piece of lingerie for me is the tiny attention to details and this set has tiny little bows, delicate lace, and beautiful edging. And the panty has soft mesh on the sides! The bra has underwire and is absolutely perfect for the girls 🙂
This has a very romantic, almost vintage look to it. It’s alluring, sexy, and beautiful.
The panty fits girls like us and is comfortable to wear all day. I know this because I wear this set a LOT.
When I had my last photo shoot, this was the bra and panty set I wore for pictures we took in a dress because I loved how my bust looked in it. The panty also covered up the gaff I wore for the dress pictures.
Love, love, love this set.
Thank you to The Breast Form Store for this beautiful lingerie.
HI! Some of us don’t like tucking. I get it. It’s not easy to do properly and if not done correctly it can hurt.
Pain and feeling uncomfortable is your body’s way of saying STOP DOING THIS. If your heels hurt your feet (I mean, they probably will after a few hours, I’m talking about immediately and with every step) or if your gaff is paining you, you should probably wear something else.
This panty is not a gaff, but it does flatten and smoooooth things. Like, really flattens and smooth things. Like, really, REALLY flattens and smooths things.
It takes a little getting used to, and it moves comfortably with your body, and it is tight. Of course, not everyone likes thongs so there is that as well. The sizing chart is very true to form so make sure you know your measurements before purchasing.
Have you ever felt like something was both inevitable and not going to happen in a million years?
Have you ever done something that felt the complete opposite than you expected?
That was this past Saturday in a nutshell.
A few weeks ago The Breast Form Store sent over a few items for me to sample and review. Some new forms (more on those later but OMG), a new gaff, and some lingerie. Usually when I am sent clothes to review I will have professional photos taken by my friend Shannonlee. When I have done reviews for gaffs, lingerie, or a corset I have used product pictures from the designer’s website to illustrate my review. But this time… I couldn’t stop thinking about if I wanted to do a lingerie shoot for the review. I am not sure what changed my mind from something I didn’t think, or want to happen in a million years to something I sorta kinda maybe wanted to do, but honestly I think it’s the past year that has really shaped my perspective on life.
A funny thing happened around my last birthday. I noticed I started to think about, well, the end of my life. Not to sound dramatic and I know I have a lot of time left (fingers crossed), but I spent a lot of time thinking about what I want to do with the rest of my life. Some of my thoughts were practical, such as making sure my wife and I were financially stable, some of it was more fun, like planning a vacation. These thoughts, combined with how COVID has really impacted the world and has limited what we can and should do, I thought about life is short and things we want to do could stop being an option very suddenly. Sure, I want to go on a trip and yes I want to go to the mall without a mask but it’s not smart to do either of these things right now. A year and a half ago no one would have thought that life would be like this. But it is, and could be for a long time.
The idea of a lingerie shoot terrified me and at the same time the fear wasn’t stopping me from thinking about it. I talked to my wife about what I was thinking and we had a good conversation about everything from what I was feeling about life and time running out and fears of someone we know stumbling across the pictures (because let’s face it, if I am going to do it I am likely posting the photos) to what I wanted, and didn’t want if I did the shoot. After our talk, I felt lighter. I didn’t realize how crushing my feelings of life running out were impacting me. Honestly? I realized I was scared of getting old, getting sick, not being able to do things I wanted to do, whether it was a boudoir shoot or going for a run. I know the day will come when I shouldn’t be driving (and yes I know that day is decades away) or or doing things that I take for granted. I don’t want to regret things I could have done. Things that I want to do but kept putting off, whether it was a lingerie shoot or visiting Italy.
So I did it.
The shoot, not the trip. At least not yet.
The shoot happened almost 48 hours from me writing this and I am still processing it. I didn’t really know what to expect, but I was surprised at how… nervous and awkward I felt. I’ve done a lot of shoots over the last five years. Some for fun, some for reviews, some for En Femme. I’ve worn everything from wrap dresses to PVC skirts to pants so I am accustomed to being photographed in a lot of different outfits. But stockings and bras? Good god. Lingerie is something one wears for themselves, for intimate moments, for sleeping. Lingerie is personal, private, and a secret. Wearing lingerie when someone other than my wife is in the room is a… well, I felt as uncomfortable and as awkward as you can imagine. I felt silly. Although I wasn’t expecting it to be… I don’t know, erotic, I didn’t expect it to be a big deal considering my previous shoots and outfits. I felt exposed and nervous. Not exactly strutting out of a comfort zone.
As the shoot progressed I felt a little less nervous and self-conscious. Shannonlee always helps me come out of my shell a bit and she was as professional as it gets. She is also my friend. I can’t imagine letting anyone else photograph me for a shoot like this.
I’ll (probably) post the finished shots, but I wanted to share some pictures from that day. These were taken with an iPhone (please excuse the quality) and haven’t been touched up with lighting and whatever magic Shannonlee does. They are also in black and white because, well, black and white is… forgiving. Let’s leave it at that.
As I write this I can honestly say I am glad I did this, even with all the nervousness and anxiety the day brought. I can’t say I will ever do this again, but I think this is one less thing I will have on my list of regrets when things like this aren’t an option anymore.
–What sort of bra do you recommend and how do you know what size to buy?
-Do you have actual breasts or do you use/wear forms? Just starting to explore and very confused about forms. What is the correct or proper shape to look for, teardrop, oval, triangle, round ? I have yet to find 2 articles supporting the same shape so I’m confused. The one thing I have found that seems to be standard is that silicone has the best feel, movement, bounce, fiber fill & foam don’t so now if I can understand the shape to look for or go with I have a starting point.
Both of these questions bounced into my email within a day of each other and since they are similar I thought I’d tackle them in one post.
I have a LOT of bras. I have bras that I wear en femme, and I have bras that I wear for underdressing. Basically the bras that I wear under my boy clothes are ones without any sort of padding, shape, or push-uppiness. That’s not a word but you know what I mean. Most of these bras come from Xdress and Homme Mystere.
The bras I wear en femme are more varied and more… uh, practical. I have bras that are strapless, I have bras with an embroidered pattern, push up bras, and bras of many colors.
A girl needs a white or beige bra because some outfits and blouses are a LITTLE see through and a black or darker color will show through some tops. I mean, if that’s the look you’re going for, then have at it.
Strapless bras are for strapless dresses, or dresses and tops where the shoulders are see-through or mesh, for example.
I don’t wear bras with a texture to the cup if I am wearing a tight blouse as the texture can show through.
See? Lingerie can be practical.
As for sizing, if you’re not comfortable meeting with a bra fitter, you can take your own measurements. I wear a 34B bra. The number refers to my chest measurement/band size, the letter refers to cup size. A rule of thumb is your band size is your chest measurement and then add four (round up if needed).
I don’t have breasts but I wear forms. They are not the best quality but they do the job. They are silicone….ish. Not as high quality as my thigh and hip pads from The Breast Form Store and I would agree with what you are reading in that silicone feels better than anything else. My forms have a somewhat similar feel to my silicone pads but I don’t feel my forms are a part of me the same way my thigh pads do.
Shape comes down to personal preference, I think. Breasts come in all shapes and sizes so I don’t think there is such a thing as the correct shape. I would spend some time looking at The Breast Form Store‘s website and chatting with one of their fitters (Hi Eden!) for some guidance in finding forms that you feel are the right ones.
I’d like to finish this little showcase by featuring Homme Mystere. I picked Homme Mystere because, to be honest, I think they deserve the attention. Their lingerie is well made, the fit is perfect, the styles are cute… it’s not easy to combine sexy with comfort.
I have purchased and wear a lot of panties from Homme Mystere and I’d like to highlight a few of their panties, bras, bodysuits, and lingerie that I love. You can read my reviews for some of their products here and here and here!
Hi Hannah. I am pretty new to all this and am finding your website and blog super helpful and inspiring. Thank you! My question is a pretty simple one. I am right at the start of my journey and kicked off by getting myself a pair of breastforms and a bra. I’ve been in my bra for a couple of weeks now as I am working from home, only not wearing it when I’m asleep or either the bra or I are getting washed. I feel more ‘put together’ when I’m in my bra but I’m nowhere near used to it yet – the straps on the shoulder, the clasp on the back, the wires on my chest etc. And the way you are always, always aware of it. Does that start to diminish over time? I just feel that if I wore other stuff like pantyhose or heels, I’d be totally overwhelmed. Hoping someone with some experience can tell me when a bra just becomes part of you. Thanks!
Like strutting across a parking lot in four inch stilettos, crossdressing usually is all about baby steps.
And yes, most of us ease our way into this. It took me about thirty years to be completely en femme, from wig to heels and everything in-between. You can dress as little or as much as you’d like. Many of us stop at lingerie, some of us don’t.
It sounds like you wear a bra a lot and you’ll probably always be aware, at least on a small level, that you are wearing a bra (hope you have matching panties!). And to be honest, I kind of like being aware of wearing something so feminine and pretty. But if it is uncomfortable in any way, then you may be wearing the wrong bra size. Most girls (t and cis) wear a bra that is too small and the band is not the proper length. I would love to wear a 30 inch band but I don’t and there’s no reason to be uncomfortable (or worse) just to wear a size that I would LIKE to be, instead of the size that I am.
When you feel ready, you may want to get a bra fitting. I had one last year and it was really eye-opening. If you decide to go this route, call ahead to the lingerie shop (probably avoid the mall stores) to make sure they do bra fittings (especially in the current COVID scenario). If they do, simply say you are a transwoman and you would like a fitting. Of course, you may not identify as transgender, but it’s a lot less awkward than asking if they do bra fitting for men. That’s not to say you have to visit completely en femme. Stores that help the transcommunity know that we can present in many different ways and sometimes we present more masculine than feminine.
If you’re looking for new bras (and undies!) to add to your lingerie collection, I recommend:
On one hand, I look at clothes as fabric that cover our bodies and there’s really no logical reason to genderize them in any way. On the other hand…. OMG, is there anything more feminine than panties?
I’d be lying if I said that selecting my panties for the day wasn’t one of my favorite moments. I love doing this because it represents me being comfortable with my gender identity. For too long I was afraid of wearing what I wanted to wear.
I would like to take a moment to recognize some of my favorite places to buy panties and lingerie. I support these business and I hope you do too!
I don’t think it’s uncommon for us to modify how we identify throughout our lives. As soon as I heard the word, I privately considered myself a crossdresser. About ten years ago, I knew this was more than just finding joy and comfort in clothes that are typically associated with the gender different than the one I was assigned to at birth and I felt that identifying as transgender was a better fit.
If I wanted to put a finer point on myself, bi-gender is probably the best word for me, as I am happy and comfortable and secure presenting and living as either a boy or a girl. However, since transgender covers a lot of territory, I primarily stick with that.
Whether I am a crossdresser or transgender, I would never be so bold to claim to be brilliant, but I can have brilliant thoughts. I’ve been a bit of a shopping spree lately and yesterday I received a super cute cami and panty set from Xdress. Yesterday was a long day and it was a late night, so falling asleep in cute lingerie was the perfect way to end the day.
If you’re not familiar with Xdress, they make lingerie for men. The models on their website are men wearing their beautiful bras and panties. From what I gather, their target market is men who love to wear cute, feminine undies. Their models are very male, no makeup or wigs, they are not presenting as a girl. This lingerie is different than En Femme and their new Carmen Liu line of lingerie. This lingerie is beautiful but also practical as it is designed to hold breast forms and to tuck our feminine flaw.
As I woke up this morning, I realized that my lingerie wardrobe is divided between bras and panties that I wear en femme and bras and panties that I wear in male mode. Although this new set from Xdress is beautiful, it’s not something Hannah would wear. When I am dressed, I have different needs from my lingerie. I need my gaff from the Breast Form Store, for example.
In male mode I do wear lingerie “for girls” and lingerie from Xdress and Homme Mystere. I underdress each day and my panties are either panties “for boys” or panties “for girls”. I am always wearing something.
My revelation this morning was that we can shift our gender identity throughout our lives, but we can also shift our gender identity throughout the day. I decided that when I am in male mode, I could be considered a crossdresser. But Hannah is not a crossdresser, she is transgender. I could wake up in cute lingerie like I did this morning, wear a matching bra and panty under my boy clothes, and I would be crossdressing all day. But as the day progresses and I am preparing to go out, my gender identity shifts to being transgender.
I suppose that labeling ourselves is rather pointless and I doubt anyone else thinks about this as much as I do, especially before they have had their coffee, but this was going through my mind as I lay in bed. Never let it be said that I don’t overthink.
At any rate, I am now awake, having my coffee, and sharing these perhaps not as brilliant thoughts I had imagined they were with you.
Many of us are missing the days when we could go out en femme. Due to the virus I’ve been stuck at home and I am looking forward to the day when I can schedule a makeover and hit the mall. Or even the gas station.
It’s important that we stay in touch with this side of ourselves. When we are not able to dress fully, I find that underdressing is a wonderful and intimate way to be beautiful. Yes, I can dress at home, but it’s not the same.
The lockdown is giving me a lot of time to shop online. Purchasing heels and cute dresses is giving me something to look forward to once it is safe for us to go back out. It’s also a way we can continue to support businesses that support our community as the virus is having an economic impact on almost every company.
Since underdressing is a way to stay in touch with my femme side, I have been buying a lot of lingerie lately. I wanted to share what I have ordered this week in case you are looking for some new lingerie to wear.