This is probably a silly question because I’m sure it has been asked many times, but for some reason I’ve been unable to find the answers. So do forgive, please, if this topic is painfully obvious! As a T-girl, my physical proportions make shopping for clothing difficult. I have dude dimensions. Especially, my hips are only slightly larger than my waist, so if I’m shopping online, it’s really just a flip of the coin whether I should purchase based on my waist measurement or my hips measurement. (My shoulders and arms, I’ve decided, are just fine: the girls at the gym are proud of the muscles they’ve worked so hard for, so I’ve decided I’ll just continue to be proud of mine, too.) Do you have any tips on this waist-to-hip proportion dilemma? Thanks in advance, very much! 🙂
Let me get this out of the way now and state that there is no “right” way to look feminine. There is no standard one must meet in order to have a “feminine” shape. Remember, there is no such thing as “passing”. However, there ways to have a curvier shape.
Buying dresses is a fun and often times a humbling experience. When I purchase “male” clothes (please note I don’t think there are such a thing as “male” clothes or “female” clothes, they’re just clothes), I purchase shirts that fit my shoulders and pants that are long enough and are the proper waist size. It’s pretty straightforward. Dresses are a different story. I have dresses that fit perfectly around my hips and waist, but don’t fit my shoulders and chest as I am wider on top than my middle. And of course every dressmaker has different sizing standards, as well. When shopping, you need to know your measurements, and yes, sometimes it is a flip of the coin when it comes to deciding to order based off of hips or waist measurements.
I wrote a little about how to take your measurements here.
There are a few things you can do to have a curvier shape. You could always wear a waist cincher. I often wear this one from Xdress. I also wear a petticoat under certain dresses. It gives me a really cute and girly appearance and it also gives the impression of hips.
Some girls will also wear hip padding as well. I have never really tried that, but some girls love it.
Like most aspects of crossdressing, this is something you learn by doing. Find what works for you!