When I first searched for ‘crossdressers’ online all those years ago, I was dismayed and a little shocked at how prevalent crossdressing was associated with fetishism. There didn’t seem to be a lot of connection to wanting to feel and look beautiful, just a lot of people dressing up for, well, sexual reasons.
Of course, I didn’t feel like my wearing lingerie was anything sexual. Yes, I felt beautiful in a sexy bra and panty set, but I didn’t dress because it aroused me.
Over time I learned more about myself and started to meet other girls like me, girls who wanted to feel beautiful and they helped remind me that perhaps those who fetishize this are perhaps not as representative of us as I initially thought.
And then came Twitter.
I get likes, comments, and followers from a lot of wonderful and beautiful girls. Some of my followers are “chasers” (men who like girls like me because they fetishize or are attracted to a girl like me), and, well, that’s fine. As long as someone is polite (or at least leaves me alone) I don’t mind who follows or comments.
But I also have a lot of, well, sissies. People who identify as a sissy tend to get aroused by being humiliated for wanting to or dressing like a girl. Ultra femme and revealing clothing is pretty typical and seems to be a huge part of this fantasy or kink.
Don’t get me wrong, wearing a super femme outfit is fun, and I have a couple of dresses like this, but I don’t feel aroused or embarrassed.
I will never criticize someone’s sexual fantasy or kink (as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone and is 100% consensual). But when I see someone online who dresses because they seem to think that dressing as a girl is humiliating which in turn arouses them, it makes me reflect that in no way do I feel that presenting as female is demeaning. At all.
Perhaps Iggy Pop said it best.
Of course, I could be totally wrong about this fantasy, so if I am, please let me know in the comments.