Hi I’m a straight guy look to date a Trans women. I’m sick of the same old thing with women. I’ve decided that I would like to date a trans women. I don’t know how or where to do so. I’ve been on the dating sites and I hate it. I have not let my family or friends know, but am just so in love with trans women. Do you have any pointers for me this is all new to me I have never been with a trans woman or guy.
It’s easy to misinterpret anything that is written or said. I want to be as gentle and as kind as possible when it comes to any Ask Hannah! question. I recognize that it takes a lot of courage and nerve to ask for advice and the last thing I want to do is make anyone feel bad or silly when they need help and guidance. One of the reasons I have a website is to educate others when it comes to everything from relationships to walking in heels. I would never claim to be an expert on anything and I am honored and humbled when someone asks for my advice or perspective on something.
Of course, I also want to avoid embarrassing anyone when they need help. I take no joy in humiliating anyone or calling someone out. I do get a lot of emails and Ask Hannah! questions about relationships and that includes asking about dating t-girls. To be honest, I usually just delete them without replying as they tend to be crass in nature. However, I thought it might be helpful to gently and kindly touch on a few things you wrote in your question.
If identify as straight, you are (presumably) attracted to women. Transwomen are women. Being attracted to a woman, cis or trans, simply means you are attracted to women, or at the very least, that woman. If you are attracted to a t-girl, it doesn’t mean you aren’t straight. Does that make sense? Also, dating or, in your words, being with, a transwoman is certainly not equal to being with a guy. I do cringe a little when I get an email or comment along the lines of “I’m not gay but you are beautiful”. Like everyone else on the planet, I am more than my anatomy, I am more than my genitalia.
You write that you are sick of the same old thing with women. Why do you think dating a transwoman would be any different? Be careful to avoid generalizing anyone.
I understand you may be hoping I could direct you to a dating site or something similar. I am sure Google could assist with searching “dating trans women”. The help I am (kindly and sincerely) hoping I am providing is perhaps some perspective and clarification. I hope you find happiness, I know it’s painful to be lonely.
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