I’ve been secretly crossdressing for about a year but always when I’m on my own. I have ventured outside a few times which I found quite a turn on. I even had a few men and ladies smile at me. I am married but she doesn’t know so how would I go about telling her what I do and how I want her to help me?
Besides being honest and gentle and being prepared for the worst, there’s no right way to tell your partner about your crossdressing. There are a million wrong ways to do this, but I’ve yet to find the perfect way to come out to someone.
I have written a LOT about marriage and crossdressing and if you’re looking for my perspective on “the talk”, please take a peek here.
Just remember, this revelation will likely shock her so please be kind, be respectful. Most of us dream of our wives helping us, but please do not go into “the talk” with the goal or expectation of her doing this. Our partners can, and will have a lot of different reactions and feelings and thoughts about our coming out but being… thrilled about this is not a common response. Most wives tend to (understandably) cry as opposed to helping you apply your eyeliner, at least at first. I am trying not to be pessimistic or talk you out of coming out to her, but I think you need to be realistic about how the talk will go.
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